shadoewolfie3
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia
My husband and I are waiting out the last month of our 1 year seperation required by the state of VA for a divorce. He's active duty military and moved to Texas in March, leaving our 2 school age daughters with me. He's paying the minimum required by the Army for support, which barely covers my rent let alone anything else. I'm in the process of getting the paperwork together for custody and child support but having the extra money for the filing fee is hard.
My husband wants to come up at some undisclosed point during Christmas break to see the kids. Not only will he not give me a projected date of arrival, he wants to bring his girlfriend and her 4 children, whom my children have never met. My oldest daughter wants nothing to do with the girlfriend or her kids and voiced this to her father, who told her to suck it up or he just wouldn't come. My daughters are 9 and 5, and while my 5 year old is happy-go-lucky, my oldest is a daddy's girl and I know she would be miserable her whole vacation just to see her dad. She has also discussed this with her counselor, who has agreed she should not be forced into spending time with the woman but short of a restraining order, couldn't think of a way to avoid the situation.
Knowing my soon-to-be-ex, it wouldn't surprise me a bit if he just shows up at the door Christmas Eve with no notice whatsoever. Or calls me the 23rd saying he'll be at my door at 8am the next day. We have plans with family starting this coming week, as well as outside children's Christmas parties to attend.
I've asked that he give me a reasonable estimate of when he's going to arrive. He's known for a couple of months now what days he would have off for Christmas leave, and he still won't give me a set date or time. Am I able to tell him that he needs to give me 72 hours notice or not be able to visit without legal consequences? I don't want to have to cancel the kids' parties and such for fear he's going to show up and we won't be home and then I get busted for interference.
My husband and I are waiting out the last month of our 1 year seperation required by the state of VA for a divorce. He's active duty military and moved to Texas in March, leaving our 2 school age daughters with me. He's paying the minimum required by the Army for support, which barely covers my rent let alone anything else. I'm in the process of getting the paperwork together for custody and child support but having the extra money for the filing fee is hard.
My husband wants to come up at some undisclosed point during Christmas break to see the kids. Not only will he not give me a projected date of arrival, he wants to bring his girlfriend and her 4 children, whom my children have never met. My oldest daughter wants nothing to do with the girlfriend or her kids and voiced this to her father, who told her to suck it up or he just wouldn't come. My daughters are 9 and 5, and while my 5 year old is happy-go-lucky, my oldest is a daddy's girl and I know she would be miserable her whole vacation just to see her dad. She has also discussed this with her counselor, who has agreed she should not be forced into spending time with the woman but short of a restraining order, couldn't think of a way to avoid the situation.
Knowing my soon-to-be-ex, it wouldn't surprise me a bit if he just shows up at the door Christmas Eve with no notice whatsoever. Or calls me the 23rd saying he'll be at my door at 8am the next day. We have plans with family starting this coming week, as well as outside children's Christmas parties to attend.
I've asked that he give me a reasonable estimate of when he's going to arrive. He's known for a couple of months now what days he would have off for Christmas leave, and he still won't give me a set date or time. Am I able to tell him that he needs to give me 72 hours notice or not be able to visit without legal consequences? I don't want to have to cancel the kids' parties and such for fear he's going to show up and we won't be home and then I get busted for interference.