What is the name of your state? VA
My son ran away from home in Feb and stated he wanted to live with his dad. I have legal primary physical custody. He is an honor roll student, 14, and no longer wanted to follow my rules. Which were your basic, finish school work first before computer games, etc. Nothing really harsh. Do chores for allowance and such. We have a great relationship but he misses his dad and dads house has no rules. Since then, we have spent time together, he's been over to the house on weekends here and there, and even came over to surprise me on mothers day.
Since he's been at his fathers house, he recieved an F interim, a few of his grades dropped, and most of the times I call him, his father doesn't know where he is and he doesn't know where his father is. He told me him and his friends were throwing a ball back and forth across a major road and almost "accidentally" his a car. When I told his father about that, he didn't say anything to our son about it. I know cause I was there. Also since living there, our son has called me with medical problems, and for rides. Things his father should be taking care of since he now wants to live with him right. He never called his dad to take him anywhere when he was with me.
His father chose to be unemployed to go to school on his gi bill, he wanted money from me before we even went to court and stated if i don't pay him, our son will have to come back because he can't afford to feed him. I said thats fine, you tell him that. So needless to say, he is working somewhere, I don't know where and how much and how often. Things I am supposed to know according to our original support agreement.
So finally, I wonder given decrease in grades, playing with danger out in the road, (someone could have been seriously injured if a ball hit the windshield), he calls me when he is sick, his father was arrested before he moved over there for domestic violence, and missing school to oversleeping, could I have a chance and fighting for joint, shared custody and no one would have to pay child support. I dont' trust that the man will take the money and use it towards our son. He has gone from job to job, no retirement to speak of, no savings, and no health ins. I would be giving a huge chunk of money over. I only ask this because I heard that once you are 14 in VA you can state which parent you want to live with. I am just tryin to show that his father is incompetent and not caring for his son or watching over him as he should.
When this finally goes to court, and if I do have to pay child support, will I have to pay back pay from when my son ran away from home back in feb?
I still hold the papers that state I have legal physical custody. His father filed in april and we still have not settled yet.What is the name of your state?
My son ran away from home in Feb and stated he wanted to live with his dad. I have legal primary physical custody. He is an honor roll student, 14, and no longer wanted to follow my rules. Which were your basic, finish school work first before computer games, etc. Nothing really harsh. Do chores for allowance and such. We have a great relationship but he misses his dad and dads house has no rules. Since then, we have spent time together, he's been over to the house on weekends here and there, and even came over to surprise me on mothers day.
Since he's been at his fathers house, he recieved an F interim, a few of his grades dropped, and most of the times I call him, his father doesn't know where he is and he doesn't know where his father is. He told me him and his friends were throwing a ball back and forth across a major road and almost "accidentally" his a car. When I told his father about that, he didn't say anything to our son about it. I know cause I was there. Also since living there, our son has called me with medical problems, and for rides. Things his father should be taking care of since he now wants to live with him right. He never called his dad to take him anywhere when he was with me.
His father chose to be unemployed to go to school on his gi bill, he wanted money from me before we even went to court and stated if i don't pay him, our son will have to come back because he can't afford to feed him. I said thats fine, you tell him that. So needless to say, he is working somewhere, I don't know where and how much and how often. Things I am supposed to know according to our original support agreement.
So finally, I wonder given decrease in grades, playing with danger out in the road, (someone could have been seriously injured if a ball hit the windshield), he calls me when he is sick, his father was arrested before he moved over there for domestic violence, and missing school to oversleeping, could I have a chance and fighting for joint, shared custody and no one would have to pay child support. I dont' trust that the man will take the money and use it towards our son. He has gone from job to job, no retirement to speak of, no savings, and no health ins. I would be giving a huge chunk of money over. I only ask this because I heard that once you are 14 in VA you can state which parent you want to live with. I am just tryin to show that his father is incompetent and not caring for his son or watching over him as he should.
When this finally goes to court, and if I do have to pay child support, will I have to pay back pay from when my son ran away from home back in feb?
I still hold the papers that state I have legal physical custody. His father filed in april and we still have not settled yet.What is the name of your state?
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