What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Az.
My son is 9 years old and I care for him at his mother's house the nights she works (as an ER nurse). His mother and I never married.I have been taking care of my son 50% of the time for the last 3 years. I also care for him when she goes out on dates on her days off and I take him to church on Sundays. The reason I take care of him at his mother's home is that so he could have a stable environment, rather than spending alternative weeks in different households. I recently moved 25 miles away from his mother's home so I could be closer to my work ( I am a college teacher and have many positive letters of reference, going back for years).
Mom is going through a mid-life crisis, doesn't want me around her place anymore, and has suggested I have my son at my house on alternative weeks. I do live about 30 minutes from here house and his school. This arrangement would mean I drive 2 hours a day to get my son to his school and pick him up. I'm only working part time at present and this arrangement is not very feasible.
Mom and I had a bad brake up 5 years ago, and during the break up she called the police on me and I was arrested for domestic violence, but the DA dropped the charge to disturbing the peace (loud noise). I completed an anger management as part of my probation for the misdemeanor. I also completed an alcohol/drug awareness course I took on my own after I quit drinking.
His mother and I have 50/50 custody (in California) and have never had legal documents drawn up in Arizona. I can't afford an attorney, and I also receive social security for a mental illness that I have been treated for and has been stabilized for years. I have also been in personal therapy for years for my own benefit.
My question is: should she and I seek private mediation or try to figure this out ourselves. We do not get along so well but have worked together in the past for the best of our son. I would like to avoid going to court as she possibly use my past against me to limit the time I have with my son.
Thank you for your time.
My son is 9 years old and I care for him at his mother's house the nights she works (as an ER nurse). His mother and I never married.I have been taking care of my son 50% of the time for the last 3 years. I also care for him when she goes out on dates on her days off and I take him to church on Sundays. The reason I take care of him at his mother's home is that so he could have a stable environment, rather than spending alternative weeks in different households. I recently moved 25 miles away from his mother's home so I could be closer to my work ( I am a college teacher and have many positive letters of reference, going back for years).
Mom is going through a mid-life crisis, doesn't want me around her place anymore, and has suggested I have my son at my house on alternative weeks. I do live about 30 minutes from here house and his school. This arrangement would mean I drive 2 hours a day to get my son to his school and pick him up. I'm only working part time at present and this arrangement is not very feasible.
Mom and I had a bad brake up 5 years ago, and during the break up she called the police on me and I was arrested for domestic violence, but the DA dropped the charge to disturbing the peace (loud noise). I completed an anger management as part of my probation for the misdemeanor. I also completed an alcohol/drug awareness course I took on my own after I quit drinking.
His mother and I have 50/50 custody (in California) and have never had legal documents drawn up in Arizona. I can't afford an attorney, and I also receive social security for a mental illness that I have been treated for and has been stabilized for years. I have also been in personal therapy for years for my own benefit.
My question is: should she and I seek private mediation or try to figure this out ourselves. We do not get along so well but have worked together in the past for the best of our son. I would like to avoid going to court as she possibly use my past against me to limit the time I have with my son.
Thank you for your time.