@nextwife, thank you for the first real question. Yes, certainly. She is employed but making substantially less than she was right out of college a decade ago. While we were married she did not work for much of the time and then later started a business/hobby that we knew would never make money but had always been a passion of hers. She continues that business now (it continues to not make money) and works a menial job on the side that allows her to continue in her hobby. If she were not living with another man then she would almost certainly have to take a job that takes advantage of her college degree and would immediately be making at least twice what she is now. Not sure if it matters, but I'm almost certain that she and her current boyfriend have at least one shared bank account (although I'm guessing there is rarely anything in it) as he has taken up what was previously my role in her business.
@TinkerBelleLuvr, thanks for the link (and the unwarranted insult), but that is one that I had already read and is too general to help much.
@mistoffolees, that link is new to me and was helpful, thanks. And, yes, I do have a court order and do have to pay it, but CO law also allows me to petition for a change anytime the payment would adjust by 10% or more.
To all of you, I'm making no assumptions about anything which is why I am here at all. I am already familiar with the state's guidelines but, as I learned when we first settled the divorce, there are no hard and fast rules. The courts have a lot of discretion and the courts will also sign almost anything if the parents come to their own agreement.
Also, I do not assume that anyone else has a responsibility to support my children other than my ex and myself. However, if she went out and took a second job to supplement her income it would affect what I pay her. She has chosen to supplement her income by sharing all of her most substantial expenses with another man. I don't care what (legal) source her income comes from as long as it allows her to support our children properly when they are with her, but to pretend that sharing income with another man does not affect her ability to support our children seems overly simplistic.
@TinkerBelleLuvr, thanks for the link (and the unwarranted insult), but that is one that I had already read and is too general to help much.
@mistoffolees, that link is new to me and was helpful, thanks. And, yes, I do have a court order and do have to pay it, but CO law also allows me to petition for a change anytime the payment would adjust by 10% or more.
To all of you, I'm making no assumptions about anything which is why I am here at all. I am already familiar with the state's guidelines but, as I learned when we first settled the divorce, there are no hard and fast rules. The courts have a lot of discretion and the courts will also sign almost anything if the parents come to their own agreement.
Also, I do not assume that anyone else has a responsibility to support my children other than my ex and myself. However, if she went out and took a second job to supplement her income it would affect what I pay her. She has chosen to supplement her income by sharing all of her most substantial expenses with another man. I don't care what (legal) source her income comes from as long as it allows her to support our children properly when they are with her, but to pretend that sharing income with another man does not affect her ability to support our children seems overly simplistic.