taliaizgood
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? VA
I am 30 years old and am 25 weeks pregnant with my first child. When I first found out that I was pregnant, I was really worried because the father of the child started hanging out with the wrong crowd and getting in trouble. Since then, he has been to jail and in and out of court. No matter how much I tried to encourage him to get himself together, it seemed that me being pregnant made him even worse. We started to argue a lot and he started to mess around. Always catching him in lies and worrying about him being in some other kind of trouble kept me in tears. My doctor suggested that I try to eliminate some stress. I decided to move away. I moved to another state with my parents who were gracious enough to let me stay with them. I havent seen him in 3months nor do i care to. He on the other hand is still getting in trouble and has told me that getting a job or going back to school isnt something he will consider. He feels he can make more money in the street. I knew him for about a year before getting pregnant and this is really not the person I fell in love with. Now that all the cards seem to be on the table, making good decisions for my child are most important. I have a game plan to resume working and try to go back to school once she is born. However, the lifestyle that he is leading isnt something i want my child around. Is putting father unknown a good idea for her birth certificate. I was told by doing so this would make it so that if he ever does decide to get his act together, he will have to pay for his own paternity test and reimburse the state if i do need any assistance, rather than trying to wait for him to pay any child support, seeing as though he will probably be of no help being in jail or not working.
I am 30 years old and am 25 weeks pregnant with my first child. When I first found out that I was pregnant, I was really worried because the father of the child started hanging out with the wrong crowd and getting in trouble. Since then, he has been to jail and in and out of court. No matter how much I tried to encourage him to get himself together, it seemed that me being pregnant made him even worse. We started to argue a lot and he started to mess around. Always catching him in lies and worrying about him being in some other kind of trouble kept me in tears. My doctor suggested that I try to eliminate some stress. I decided to move away. I moved to another state with my parents who were gracious enough to let me stay with them. I havent seen him in 3months nor do i care to. He on the other hand is still getting in trouble and has told me that getting a job or going back to school isnt something he will consider. He feels he can make more money in the street. I knew him for about a year before getting pregnant and this is really not the person I fell in love with. Now that all the cards seem to be on the table, making good decisions for my child are most important. I have a game plan to resume working and try to go back to school once she is born. However, the lifestyle that he is leading isnt something i want my child around. Is putting father unknown a good idea for her birth certificate. I was told by doing so this would make it so that if he ever does decide to get his act together, he will have to pay for his own paternity test and reimburse the state if i do need any assistance, rather than trying to wait for him to pay any child support, seeing as though he will probably be of no help being in jail or not working.