InnaPickle
Junior Member
First off, thanks for listening! Reside in Washington state and I have 2 issues I need help with:
1) 17year old daughter refuses to go to school and has been to court numerous times for truancy - the next time she goes (which she will, as she continues to skip) the judge told her she will be sent away for a week. This doesn't seem to phase her one bit.
2) 18year old daughter has a 11 month old baby and is living with us.....for now. She is attending high school, but has been skipping classes as well. One of our prerequisits for allowing her to stay with us is she attend school - or out the door she goes.
They both come and go as they please..sometimes spending days away from home. When confronted it becomes a screaming match which we simply cannot endure any further. Because we are spending so much time trying to deal with the older two, we are afraid the younger two are not getting the attention they deserve - and THIS ISN'T FAIR TO THEM!
The big problem: We cannot handle this anymore as we are ready to break mentally. They both constantly fight with us, disrespect us and our property (always breaking something), and are mean to thier little brother and sister. The younger of the two (17) wants to have the older (18) be her guardian, but we know this won't fly because the older doesn't have anywhere to go, a job or even a driver's license. We work out of our home and do sales calls on a regular basis. During this time, the baby is always crying in the background (VERY unprofessional), and they have the TV and thier ghetto music blaring. I have to lock myself in my bedroom closet whenever the business line rings! Even this doesnt drown out the noise.
Any suggestions on where we can go from here? Can the oldest take custody of the younger? Can they move in with friends? Where are our legal obligations to the 18year old if she stops going to school? The school says we are responsible as long as she attends.....but she isnt attending! Please help!
1) 17year old daughter refuses to go to school and has been to court numerous times for truancy - the next time she goes (which she will, as she continues to skip) the judge told her she will be sent away for a week. This doesn't seem to phase her one bit.
2) 18year old daughter has a 11 month old baby and is living with us.....for now. She is attending high school, but has been skipping classes as well. One of our prerequisits for allowing her to stay with us is she attend school - or out the door she goes.
They both come and go as they please..sometimes spending days away from home. When confronted it becomes a screaming match which we simply cannot endure any further. Because we are spending so much time trying to deal with the older two, we are afraid the younger two are not getting the attention they deserve - and THIS ISN'T FAIR TO THEM!
The big problem: We cannot handle this anymore as we are ready to break mentally. They both constantly fight with us, disrespect us and our property (always breaking something), and are mean to thier little brother and sister. The younger of the two (17) wants to have the older (18) be her guardian, but we know this won't fly because the older doesn't have anywhere to go, a job or even a driver's license. We work out of our home and do sales calls on a regular basis. During this time, the baby is always crying in the background (VERY unprofessional), and they have the TV and thier ghetto music blaring. I have to lock myself in my bedroom closet whenever the business line rings! Even this doesnt drown out the noise.
Any suggestions on where we can go from here? Can the oldest take custody of the younger? Can they move in with friends? Where are our legal obligations to the 18year old if she stops going to school? The school says we are responsible as long as she attends.....but she isnt attending! Please help!
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