You now, Ginny, we're trying. She's 9 yrs old, is a siberian husky and is not accustomed to sleeping outside so it makes it difficult to find someone who can take her in that has a fenced yard and room enough for her to sleep at night. My younger son - who was sitting at the table when his dad said the dog is dead in 7 days - has even tried asking school friends. We tried keeping her at my neighbor's during the day when we're at work and school but the other 2 dogs there were having none of it. So we're kinda stuck.
My older son (she was his b-day present when he turned 10) refuses to consider fostering her as he says whether his dad has her removed or we foster her he still loses his dog. I'm trying to get him to see that at least he'd know that she was happy and well cared for. He's being stubborn and I'm hoping that when the emotions calm down, he'll see it's best as I don't know how any of us will be comfortable leaving her when STBX shows back up.
Unfortunately, due to STBX's illness, the divorce has been prolonged (2 1/2 years) and I think we're all tired of the Jekyl and Hyde routine from STBX - we never know what we'll be dealing with next. I'm a big believer in karma so I keep trying to be the better person, ignore STBX and it's rare that I'll respond to him. I did so last Thursday because his mom was there and my son was at the table so I figured he'd only keep on with his mouth and not attempt anything physical. Normally I'm way too intimidated & other than cooking and eating dinner with my sons in the kitchen, we all just stay in our bedrooms. I'd take my sons and our dog and just go (I have residential custody via parenting plan) however I am solely responsible for the mortgage payment & cannot afford to pay that and rent so ...this has been our life for quite some time now.
I know a lot of women and men make false allegations re: verbal and emotional abuse and I recognize that as a result, the law needs proof to ensure folks aren't wrongly accused. But I just think once your pet's life (she's already afraid of him now) is threatened, most likely, you're moving out of the verbal arena andi t's going to get physical. I am preparing for it to be either my younger son or myself that will be his next target as we're the 2 dealing with the verbal and emotional now.
It's unbelievable to me that I am not able to protect our dog via legal means simply because he is a co-owner. I am the other co-owner, I pay for everything and yet I can't even protect our dog. I really don't understand it.