Mrs.Wright
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Pennsylvania
I have read so many threads on this site, and I still just dont quite get it.
I have 3 children that are not my husbands . 2 from the same father (10 and 7), and 1 from another(3).
My husband wants to adopt all 3, and this is where things get a little different.
My two older children have not seen their bio-father in a very long time. In fact the ONLY time we hear anything from him, is when he is in prison. He has not made any attempts other than "im lonely and bored in prison letters" to have any contact whatsoever. He knows the phone number, where we live, where they go to school. He just doesnt even try to see them. We had a child support case, (which i forgave all and any arrears in court, so that he would not go back to jail, stupid i know) so we havent had support in place for, about 5 or 6 years. We did have supervised visitation, which he FAILED to comply. We would sit there for an hour, sometimes 2, and he just wouldnt show up. I even moved to the county that he lived in, to make is easier for him, being as that he doesnt drive. Years have gone by. and there is no effort. I have felt obligated to him for our children,but I cant make him be a parent.
my 3 year olds bio-father is in another state, he left PA when my son was 8 weeks old. We had a PFA that expired in September 07. There has been ZERO contact, he is a fugitive, and I know that i wont be able to find him. He calls me occassionally and asks for money. Or for me to send my 3 year old who doesnt even know who he is, on an airplane to colorado, and he would drive to pick him up, but I'm not allowed to know where he is, YEAH RIGHT
So basically, what do i need to do? One is in prison, and one is MIA all together. Both dont want my husband to have any rights. They just want our children to bear the burden of their surname. No more than that.
Can someone help me understand what steps i need to take? oh, and how long i need to be married for my husband to even try to adopt them? we got married in Feb. 08.
I apologize for rambling. I do that.
Thank you in advance
Mrs.WrightWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
I have read so many threads on this site, and I still just dont quite get it.
I have 3 children that are not my husbands . 2 from the same father (10 and 7), and 1 from another(3).
My husband wants to adopt all 3, and this is where things get a little different.
My two older children have not seen their bio-father in a very long time. In fact the ONLY time we hear anything from him, is when he is in prison. He has not made any attempts other than "im lonely and bored in prison letters" to have any contact whatsoever. He knows the phone number, where we live, where they go to school. He just doesnt even try to see them. We had a child support case, (which i forgave all and any arrears in court, so that he would not go back to jail, stupid i know) so we havent had support in place for, about 5 or 6 years. We did have supervised visitation, which he FAILED to comply. We would sit there for an hour, sometimes 2, and he just wouldnt show up. I even moved to the county that he lived in, to make is easier for him, being as that he doesnt drive. Years have gone by. and there is no effort. I have felt obligated to him for our children,but I cant make him be a parent.
my 3 year olds bio-father is in another state, he left PA when my son was 8 weeks old. We had a PFA that expired in September 07. There has been ZERO contact, he is a fugitive, and I know that i wont be able to find him. He calls me occassionally and asks for money. Or for me to send my 3 year old who doesnt even know who he is, on an airplane to colorado, and he would drive to pick him up, but I'm not allowed to know where he is, YEAH RIGHT
So basically, what do i need to do? One is in prison, and one is MIA all together. Both dont want my husband to have any rights. They just want our children to bear the burden of their surname. No more than that.
Can someone help me understand what steps i need to take? oh, and how long i need to be married for my husband to even try to adopt them? we got married in Feb. 08.
I apologize for rambling. I do that.
Thank you in advance
Mrs.WrightWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?