Mominneed23
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law) New Mexico
OK. Bare with me please. I have a 9 year old daughter. Her bio dad and I had a one night stand and she was conceived. I couldn't remember his last name. Not proud of that. Young and dumb. My now husband decided he wanted to adopt my daughter, and did so 2 years ago. Even though my attorney looked for a man by the bio's first name in the father registry of my home state, of course no one was found so the adoption was granted. Fast forward to a month ago. Of all people, the bio dad found me online. He wants to be a father to his child. And I don't want to deny him of that. My husband and I have talked about divorce recently and my daughter, who knows my husband isn't her bio dad -she is mixed. Both my husband and I are white). She loves her dad, but has had a lot of questions about her real dad. My husband gets mad at her if she brings him up and makes her feel like crap. I have always told him that had we ever found each other, I would allow my daughter to find out about where she came from. Husband hates that. I have a feeling that if a divorce happens, he will not want to do for her as he does for our son. And honestly, I don't care if he does. My question, I guess, is can a step parent adoption be reversed if the bio dad, who of course was not on the birth certificate, wants her to have his last name? Or can my husband sign over his parental rights if he chooses to not want a relationship with her? I honestly regret letting the adoption happen Bc I always had that wonder of what if bio dad and myself run into each other one day? But I never, in a million years, thought that would happen. Hopefully, someone can help me with this!
OK. Bare with me please. I have a 9 year old daughter. Her bio dad and I had a one night stand and she was conceived. I couldn't remember his last name. Not proud of that. Young and dumb. My now husband decided he wanted to adopt my daughter, and did so 2 years ago. Even though my attorney looked for a man by the bio's first name in the father registry of my home state, of course no one was found so the adoption was granted. Fast forward to a month ago. Of all people, the bio dad found me online. He wants to be a father to his child. And I don't want to deny him of that. My husband and I have talked about divorce recently and my daughter, who knows my husband isn't her bio dad -she is mixed. Both my husband and I are white). She loves her dad, but has had a lot of questions about her real dad. My husband gets mad at her if she brings him up and makes her feel like crap. I have always told him that had we ever found each other, I would allow my daughter to find out about where she came from. Husband hates that. I have a feeling that if a divorce happens, he will not want to do for her as he does for our son. And honestly, I don't care if he does. My question, I guess, is can a step parent adoption be reversed if the bio dad, who of course was not on the birth certificate, wants her to have his last name? Or can my husband sign over his parental rights if he chooses to not want a relationship with her? I honestly regret letting the adoption happen Bc I always had that wonder of what if bio dad and myself run into each other one day? But I never, in a million years, thought that would happen. Hopefully, someone can help me with this!