Trying to clarify a couple of things,
Often Dad doesn't want to take the child to dancing, baseball etc. on his days so they stay with me (Mom) and I take them. Friday, there was a family activity in the evening of Dad's weekend and Dad okayd 8 yr old daughter to go, teenage son had basketball game, dad showed up at the end to pickup son and son stated that he was going to family outing with daughter and mom, step dad and step sister and brother, Son thought it would be okay since sister was going, obviously dad was just going to pick up son from game and not watch, well after the gathering, daughter was suppose to call dad and advise when we were leaving to bring them to their house and Dad advised that he had gone to eat out and they would have to stay at mom's house. Son and father got in argument and son hung up on dad, long story short, dad told son he was going to straighten him out when he saw him. Dad has history of rage attacks and had one two weeks prior with 8 year old daughter where son almost stepped in.
Now, next part, still dad's weekend, kids are going to school on Saturday due to "platooning" from Hurricane Rita, and son had basketball tournament, Mom brought son to both games and dad never showed up or called. When son was told this by dad, "straighten out", he began to cry and was really scared, he knows his dad's rages and I understand because I do as well. I (Mom) took son to school counseling between games to get advice and let her talk to teenage son, she stated that she would not allow her son to be subjected to it. I did not bring son to dad's. I do understand and feel his fear, I lived with it. Step dad tried to call dad and explain what was going on and dad became enraged with 8 year old in car and stated that if I don't bring son to his house tonight (saturday) that he was sending police to my house. He is a violent person, he takes supplements to gain muscle and I believe this is what makes him rage.
Son is Honor Roll student, works with step dad on days off of school, great kid all around and dad just doesn't not see it. Son also said if his dad hit him that he was going to hit him back, I cannot allow my son in this situation, his dad will hurt him.
Help, mom trying to protect son...