My son in law is an adult bully
Wait, lets back up...
I was being loving. It was about weight and it's medical importance however his ego couldn't tolorate it. Hi became disrespectful and tried to insult me. When I gave him a bit of his own medicine he lost it telling me he wanted out of his house that morning.
So, who was being a bully? You insulted him FIRST, regardless. He didn't agree with your "loving" ways, and in turn, you retaliated? Pot, meet KETTLE.
We are from NY and they live in Il. which made it even more traumic for us. We could not get a flight when we did it cost an additional 500 dollars and we had to fly stand by.
He had every right to ask you to leave. I might have done the same, as it sounds like this isn't the first falling out you've had with your son in law. This is just a sob story and has no bearing.
I believe my daughter to be a victim and fears standing up to him. They had severed contact with us since that day and won't discuss the incident. They have blocked e-m ,won't return phone calls etc. To my three and six year old grandchildchren love us emensely we have died nearly four months ago. I doubt they have beed didcussing it or getting them counseling. I'n overwelmed and don't know what I should do and how.
Your daughter has had every opportunity to contact you behind her husband's back... most likely, she's just as mad and is sticking up for her husband. She isn't a victim just because she isn't taking YOUR side, she's protecting her marriage and family. As well as, they shouldn't be discussing what happened in front of the kids. You can't possibly know if these kids even NEED counseling. So don't play that card.
Seriously, send your son in law and daughter a polite letter. Apologize. Grovel. Beg. Plead. That is the only way you might possibly be a part of your grandchildren's lives again. You stepped over the line, honey.
Side note: If my in-laws ever did that to me, I'd probably throw them out as well. That was rude, inappropriate, and uncalled for no matter what the circumstances. It sounds like you are a pushy and overbearing person who they do not want in their lives anymore due to YOU going over the line one too many times. Get over yourself and let them live and raise their kids as THEY SEE FIT. Your opinion means nothing in their house, get used to it.