liandrajade
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NY
Ok here is the latest, didnt want to add into the already huge other threads.
Child was assigned a law guardian last time we went to court in novemeber, next appearance is 12/11/09.
I met with the social worker yesterday, I went over EVERYTHING in the petition filed by the GP point by point, dad was with me as well.
I refuted every single thing in the petition and gave copies of everything to back it up. Dad also interjected that he also knows that I am not a neglectful mother and that the information given about where the child has been living is also wrong.
The social worker said that based of her communication with the GP, she doesnt think the GP knew what she was doing when she filed everything. She asked why the GP hadnt seen my child since august and that the GP states she had no way to contact me b/c I changed my phone number.
I advised of how the GP tried to keep my child illegally from me, stated she refused to give my daughter back to me and I had to take her to court and how I had to retrieve my child from her residence with the assistance of the police. I also advised that the GP made false allegations of neglect later the same day I had to retrieve my child from her residence. I gave copies of the closed CPS report to the social worker as evidence.
I also advised I have NEVER denied access to my child, I explained that I did not change my phone number voluntarily, the phone service was under my sisters name and SHE canceled my account once this issue occurred. I also advised that the GP knows my work phone number, my husbands cell phone number, the babysitters phone numbers, my personal email and my work email AND I have an aunt that lives not even 5 mins from me. If the GP felt uncomfortable speaking to me, there were other avenues of contact that were available and she FAILED to utilize them. NO ONE from the family has attempted any type of contact at all since I had to pick up my child from her house in august.
Both me and dad are in agreement that since my child wants to see her GP, we are ok with that BUT we WILL NOT agree to any type of custody with the GP. This entire situation was instigated and caused by the GP's irrational sense of entitlement to my child, she has caused the conflict and emotional disturbance in the family.
Now she went upstairs to my daughter's room to talk to her, when she came back downstairs, i knew my daughter was upset, she said yes my daughter started crying, she is sad. I said to her this is what Im talking about, there is NO reason for my child to be in the state she is.
The social worker asked would I consider calling my mom to talk to her, I said politely that right now this is a very tense emotional situation. I also stated that my daughter has been experiencing a lot of anxiety and stress over everything and I have been doing "damage control" and trying to reassure her that everything will be ok. I explained how upsetting it was to have to try and explain what CPS is, why they had to ask her questions about me and her step father, how we take care of her etc, how my daughter was asking if CPS was going to take her away from me etc. I told the social worker how i explained that CPS workers have to make sure that children are safe and being taken care etc. She said I did a very good job in handling everything the way I did, she hopes that everything will be worked out and she seems to think that the GP might drop the custody petition once she realizes that no one was trying to keep her from my daughter. She thinks the GP over reacted and thought this was the only way to see her grandchild{we know thats BS but whatever}
Now my only concern is that my child when she was asked who she wants to live with, she said BOTH parties, she said she is happy here, that I take care of her and she is happy being around her sister and step brother... the comment about living with both parties has me worried b/c Im thinking once the GP hears that from the Law guardian, she is going to continue pursuing custody.
Now I also need some clarification on proper protocol when a law guardian is involved. Am I allowed to ask my daughter about what was said to her by the social worker? Someone pointed out me that I cannot, that information is priviledged between the Law guardian that is representing my child. How much weight is given to a 7 yr old opinion? Im hoping Ohiogal can give me some insight here
Ok here is the latest, didnt want to add into the already huge other threads.
Child was assigned a law guardian last time we went to court in novemeber, next appearance is 12/11/09.
I met with the social worker yesterday, I went over EVERYTHING in the petition filed by the GP point by point, dad was with me as well.
I refuted every single thing in the petition and gave copies of everything to back it up. Dad also interjected that he also knows that I am not a neglectful mother and that the information given about where the child has been living is also wrong.
The social worker said that based of her communication with the GP, she doesnt think the GP knew what she was doing when she filed everything. She asked why the GP hadnt seen my child since august and that the GP states she had no way to contact me b/c I changed my phone number.
I advised of how the GP tried to keep my child illegally from me, stated she refused to give my daughter back to me and I had to take her to court and how I had to retrieve my child from her residence with the assistance of the police. I also advised that the GP made false allegations of neglect later the same day I had to retrieve my child from her residence. I gave copies of the closed CPS report to the social worker as evidence.
I also advised I have NEVER denied access to my child, I explained that I did not change my phone number voluntarily, the phone service was under my sisters name and SHE canceled my account once this issue occurred. I also advised that the GP knows my work phone number, my husbands cell phone number, the babysitters phone numbers, my personal email and my work email AND I have an aunt that lives not even 5 mins from me. If the GP felt uncomfortable speaking to me, there were other avenues of contact that were available and she FAILED to utilize them. NO ONE from the family has attempted any type of contact at all since I had to pick up my child from her house in august.
Both me and dad are in agreement that since my child wants to see her GP, we are ok with that BUT we WILL NOT agree to any type of custody with the GP. This entire situation was instigated and caused by the GP's irrational sense of entitlement to my child, she has caused the conflict and emotional disturbance in the family.
Now she went upstairs to my daughter's room to talk to her, when she came back downstairs, i knew my daughter was upset, she said yes my daughter started crying, she is sad. I said to her this is what Im talking about, there is NO reason for my child to be in the state she is.
The social worker asked would I consider calling my mom to talk to her, I said politely that right now this is a very tense emotional situation. I also stated that my daughter has been experiencing a lot of anxiety and stress over everything and I have been doing "damage control" and trying to reassure her that everything will be ok. I explained how upsetting it was to have to try and explain what CPS is, why they had to ask her questions about me and her step father, how we take care of her etc, how my daughter was asking if CPS was going to take her away from me etc. I told the social worker how i explained that CPS workers have to make sure that children are safe and being taken care etc. She said I did a very good job in handling everything the way I did, she hopes that everything will be worked out and she seems to think that the GP might drop the custody petition once she realizes that no one was trying to keep her from my daughter. She thinks the GP over reacted and thought this was the only way to see her grandchild{we know thats BS but whatever}
Now my only concern is that my child when she was asked who she wants to live with, she said BOTH parties, she said she is happy here, that I take care of her and she is happy being around her sister and step brother... the comment about living with both parties has me worried b/c Im thinking once the GP hears that from the Law guardian, she is going to continue pursuing custody.
Now I also need some clarification on proper protocol when a law guardian is involved. Am I allowed to ask my daughter about what was said to her by the social worker? Someone pointed out me that I cannot, that information is priviledged between the Law guardian that is representing my child. How much weight is given to a 7 yr old opinion? Im hoping Ohiogal can give me some insight here
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