What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? MO
Mom and Dad had trial today over the Motions for Contempt and Motions for Modification that they had filed against each other back in Jan/Feb 2012. It was interesting, to say the least. The judge used about 2 paragraphs of Dad's parenting plan and the rest has to be redone (see differences below). He was not a happy judge at all.
Some tidbits:
-The judge asked Mom if she would be willing to do family counseling with the kiddos and she told him even if he ordered it, she wouldn't do it.
-The judge asked Mom why she hadn't given Dad any money whatsoever to help support the kiddos. She told him that she had to take care of herself and support herself and Dad could afford to support the kiddos.
-The judge informed Mom that she would be ordered to pay child support, as well as her half of the kiddos expenses that she hadn't paid. Multiple times Mom said "I'm done with all of it. Let me sign my rights away and (AkersTile) can adopt the kids." The judge told her that it was her responsibility to financially support her children and whether she chose to exercise her parenting time or not, she would be paying child support, and she couldn't just give up her rights to not have to pay for them.
-The judge commended Dad and I on doing such a great job raising and supporting the kiddos, making sure they could be involved in the activities they liked, and being so actively involved in their lives. (I was so proud that the judge realized how much Hubby tries and what a good Dad he is! )
Dad's proposed parenting plan:
Joint Legal and Physical Custody.
Mom pays full Form 14 Child support.
EOW visitation.
Mom pays her half of the past due expenses.
Judge's order:
Dad has Sole Legal and Physical Custody (Joint before)
Mom is to have no contact with oldest SD without prior approval from Dad and kiddo's counselor.
Mom has visitation every other Saturday from 10-6, with pickup and dropoff at our house. (EOW, meet in middle before)
Mom's boyfriend is to have no contact with any of the kiddos, and if it is found that Mom is allowing contact, visitation is to become supervised.
Mom is to have reasonable access to children via phone, on Dad's or my phone only (not on kiddos phones).
Mom is to pay full Form 14 child support.
Mom is to pay her half of all medical expenses from April 2011-current.
Dad is to claim kiddos on taxes every year.
Kiddos are to remain in counseling until counselor releases them from treatment.
Mom is to attend family counseling with kiddos in addition to kiddos being in individual counseling.
There's probably more, but I don't have the order in front of me yet, so I don't know for sure. I don't know if I'm weird or what, but I am completely heartbroken that Mom would just try to give up her kids so she didn't have to pay child support. I don't understand it, and I can't comprehend it. Her and I are definitely completely different, that's for sure.
Mom and Dad had trial today over the Motions for Contempt and Motions for Modification that they had filed against each other back in Jan/Feb 2012. It was interesting, to say the least. The judge used about 2 paragraphs of Dad's parenting plan and the rest has to be redone (see differences below). He was not a happy judge at all.
Some tidbits:
-The judge asked Mom if she would be willing to do family counseling with the kiddos and she told him even if he ordered it, she wouldn't do it.
-The judge asked Mom why she hadn't given Dad any money whatsoever to help support the kiddos. She told him that she had to take care of herself and support herself and Dad could afford to support the kiddos.
-The judge informed Mom that she would be ordered to pay child support, as well as her half of the kiddos expenses that she hadn't paid. Multiple times Mom said "I'm done with all of it. Let me sign my rights away and (AkersTile) can adopt the kids." The judge told her that it was her responsibility to financially support her children and whether she chose to exercise her parenting time or not, she would be paying child support, and she couldn't just give up her rights to not have to pay for them.
-The judge commended Dad and I on doing such a great job raising and supporting the kiddos, making sure they could be involved in the activities they liked, and being so actively involved in their lives. (I was so proud that the judge realized how much Hubby tries and what a good Dad he is! )
Dad's proposed parenting plan:
Joint Legal and Physical Custody.
Mom pays full Form 14 Child support.
EOW visitation.
Mom pays her half of the past due expenses.
Judge's order:
Dad has Sole Legal and Physical Custody (Joint before)
Mom is to have no contact with oldest SD without prior approval from Dad and kiddo's counselor.
Mom has visitation every other Saturday from 10-6, with pickup and dropoff at our house. (EOW, meet in middle before)
Mom's boyfriend is to have no contact with any of the kiddos, and if it is found that Mom is allowing contact, visitation is to become supervised.
Mom is to have reasonable access to children via phone, on Dad's or my phone only (not on kiddos phones).
Mom is to pay full Form 14 child support.
Mom is to pay her half of all medical expenses from April 2011-current.
Dad is to claim kiddos on taxes every year.
Kiddos are to remain in counseling until counselor releases them from treatment.
Mom is to attend family counseling with kiddos in addition to kiddos being in individual counseling.
There's probably more, but I don't have the order in front of me yet, so I don't know for sure. I don't know if I'm weird or what, but I am completely heartbroken that Mom would just try to give up her kids so she didn't have to pay child support. I don't understand it, and I can't comprehend it. Her and I are definitely completely different, that's for sure.