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I had a prior post in the child support forum. Due to recent events, this is now the more appropriate forum.
I have a divorce (based upon a common law marriage) presently pending, with one minor child born to the parties (son is now 5 months old). Dad was served and filed a denial that a common law marriage existed and requested genetic testing. Genetic testing has conclusively established paternity.
Son's legal name is a hyphenated "dad's.legal.name-mom's.legal.name". My legal name happens to be the same as my children from a prior marriage. Dad is extremely upset that the new baby has this last name even as a portion of child's name.
Dad and I have been separated since I was 2 months pregnant, due to his continued refusal to become employed. Dad consistently refused all contact with son, despite offers for visitation. He has repeatedly stated that he will not pay support or visit with son while the last name is hyphenated.
This was the situation until last week, when I filed a motion to compel responses to discovery and a motion to transfer the case to child support court and out of divorce court. Dad has semi-lawyered up (paid a consultation fee only, rather than the $5k retainer atty has quoted). Dad has now filed an objection to the transfer out of divorce court. He has also presented to me a proposed settlement agreement which calls for joint legal custody with me as primary physical custodian, and a standard visitation schedule, and a name change for son to dad's last name only.
My feeling is that dad will not exercise visitation on a regular and continuing basis. Therefore, I am reluctant to change my son's last name and have him be the "odd man out" in my household, which consists of myself and two other kids with mom's.legal.name. Comments from all are invited.
Next issue up for comment is visitation schedule - what are some common graduated visitation plans for an infant? Child is breastfed at this time, and will not take a bottle (despite mom's frequent attempts to get him to Older sister had the same stubborn streak) I do not want to hamper son's relationship with dad, and I truly hope dad will follow through.
Your comments and advice will be appreciated.
I had a prior post in the child support forum. Due to recent events, this is now the more appropriate forum.
I have a divorce (based upon a common law marriage) presently pending, with one minor child born to the parties (son is now 5 months old). Dad was served and filed a denial that a common law marriage existed and requested genetic testing. Genetic testing has conclusively established paternity.
Son's legal name is a hyphenated "dad's.legal.name-mom's.legal.name". My legal name happens to be the same as my children from a prior marriage. Dad is extremely upset that the new baby has this last name even as a portion of child's name.
Dad and I have been separated since I was 2 months pregnant, due to his continued refusal to become employed. Dad consistently refused all contact with son, despite offers for visitation. He has repeatedly stated that he will not pay support or visit with son while the last name is hyphenated.
This was the situation until last week, when I filed a motion to compel responses to discovery and a motion to transfer the case to child support court and out of divorce court. Dad has semi-lawyered up (paid a consultation fee only, rather than the $5k retainer atty has quoted). Dad has now filed an objection to the transfer out of divorce court. He has also presented to me a proposed settlement agreement which calls for joint legal custody with me as primary physical custodian, and a standard visitation schedule, and a name change for son to dad's last name only.
My feeling is that dad will not exercise visitation on a regular and continuing basis. Therefore, I am reluctant to change my son's last name and have him be the "odd man out" in my household, which consists of myself and two other kids with mom's.legal.name. Comments from all are invited.
Next issue up for comment is visitation schedule - what are some common graduated visitation plans for an infant? Child is breastfed at this time, and will not take a bottle (despite mom's frequent attempts to get him to Older sister had the same stubborn streak) I do not want to hamper son's relationship with dad, and I truly hope dad will follow through.
Your comments and advice will be appreciated.