That does bring up another issue. He has written 2 letters to the girls, the one to the 5 year old was pretty benign but the one to the 10 year old was bad. He explained to her that he has learned so far that his drinking problem is really my fault.These letters were sent to his Mothers house and I wasn't actually supposed to see them. My daughter in law brought them to us here. I realize that the kids are supposed to have communications with their Dad in private but he is not rational at this point and it is my responsibility to monitor his letters, things like that do cause harm and I cannot depend on him to do the rifght thing.
He has no business writing a letter to a 10 y/o making that statement .
If I were you , I'd make a copy and send it to his one on one councilor , and indicate this is NOT appropriate and to council him on it .
Having said that , it is very possible ( remember we don't know you, Dad , the children , or the circumstances ) , that he has been told the issues between you and him have contributed to his alcohol abuse , by the staff there .
Having said that , he also has been told ( I'm sure ) that he has to take responsibility for his actions and NOT to pick up an alcoholic drink again , and remain abstinate .