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jayandrebecca
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What is the name of your state? Oklahoma
I am non custodial parent of daughter, during divorce 4 years ago I did not contest custody because I was in college full time, had no job, and no place appropriate to live with my daughter. My lawyer at that time gave very bad advice saying it would be no problem to get her back once I graduated. Well, my ex and I are both re-married and I have 2 beautiful sons. I have standard visitation with my daughter (they will not give me any extra time with her) and I pay child support and such. My ex and I do have never been able to get along very well and now his new wife is really crazy. I do not get liberal phone conversations or contact with my daughter, I do not get any extra time with her (I refuse to reliquish any of my time with her as it is precious), the new wife speaks bad about me to my daughter saying I am a bad person, she has written countless hatefull emails and letters to me and my family, she tells my daughter that all I care about is my sons and not her, she does not allow her to call me "mom" at their house, she is hatefull and I believe has been tampering with my personal finacial information (impersonating me) but I have no solid proof, has prank called me over 50 times but once again no solid proof, and she is obessed with hateing me when all have ever wanted is for everyone to get along for my daughters sake. She makes hatefull commments constantly about me and my family to my daughter to try to take even the smallest joy she has with us away. My ex allows and encorages all this to take place and they have been trying to break the bond my daughter and I have. Even worse his new wife works as a family adovcate within DHS and I would think she would know better than to hurt the bond a child has with her mother! I have kept a diary of sorts of all the things that happen and of all the things my daughter tells me. I have taped phone conversations and messages from my ex and his wife.
In all, is this enough to modify custody? I know the burden of proof is on me and the circumstance that has changed is the crazy step mother who controls the entire household and even is now the primary care giver to my daughter as my ex is away a lot on business. I want to protect my daughter from further hurt as she deserves a normal as possible family life! I do not want to break the father-daughter bond either even if he has proven to be a lousey dad allowing his new wife to hurt his child. If we do go to mod custody and lose does that mean that I can never use all this information against them again in the future? I don't want to mess this up as she is too important! Any advise would help.
I am non custodial parent of daughter, during divorce 4 years ago I did not contest custody because I was in college full time, had no job, and no place appropriate to live with my daughter. My lawyer at that time gave very bad advice saying it would be no problem to get her back once I graduated. Well, my ex and I are both re-married and I have 2 beautiful sons. I have standard visitation with my daughter (they will not give me any extra time with her) and I pay child support and such. My ex and I do have never been able to get along very well and now his new wife is really crazy. I do not get liberal phone conversations or contact with my daughter, I do not get any extra time with her (I refuse to reliquish any of my time with her as it is precious), the new wife speaks bad about me to my daughter saying I am a bad person, she has written countless hatefull emails and letters to me and my family, she tells my daughter that all I care about is my sons and not her, she does not allow her to call me "mom" at their house, she is hatefull and I believe has been tampering with my personal finacial information (impersonating me) but I have no solid proof, has prank called me over 50 times but once again no solid proof, and she is obessed with hateing me when all have ever wanted is for everyone to get along for my daughters sake. She makes hatefull commments constantly about me and my family to my daughter to try to take even the smallest joy she has with us away. My ex allows and encorages all this to take place and they have been trying to break the bond my daughter and I have. Even worse his new wife works as a family adovcate within DHS and I would think she would know better than to hurt the bond a child has with her mother! I have kept a diary of sorts of all the things that happen and of all the things my daughter tells me. I have taped phone conversations and messages from my ex and his wife.
In all, is this enough to modify custody? I know the burden of proof is on me and the circumstance that has changed is the crazy step mother who controls the entire household and even is now the primary care giver to my daughter as my ex is away a lot on business. I want to protect my daughter from further hurt as she deserves a normal as possible family life! I do not want to break the father-daughter bond either even if he has proven to be a lousey dad allowing his new wife to hurt his child. If we do go to mod custody and lose does that mean that I can never use all this information against them again in the future? I don't want to mess this up as she is too important! Any advise would help.