What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? New Jersey
I am a married (same spouse for 14yrs. - been together for 20) 38yr. old with 2 children. One 6.8yrs. and one 1.8yrs.
I am facing a GPV case (have been threatened by my brother that he will pay for my mother to take me to court and testify against me), with my biological mother.
I have been trying to come to some common grounds with her after a falling out of sorts in June 04. I had done whatever I could for my daughter and her to be close, but found out that my mother was becoming increasingly over-attached to my daughter. She would consistently undermine my parental authority, and when she found out that I was planning on keeping my son (they thought he might have Down's at 26weeks), she became very possessive of my daughter and told me that I could not have this child because of what it would do to my daughter. She would also tell my daughter that she should come live with her because I will be too busy taking care of the new baby. This is just the surface of some severe mental issues my mother has. To the point that I had someone else stay with my daughter while I gave birth to my son.
My mother is a walking pharmacy. Oxycontin, Moraphine patch, Neurontin, Vicodin and others. She is physically barely able to work. She cannot drive at night. She cannot be alone with the kids. She is reclusive and has told me that even when both children are around her, that she will make sure that my daughter knows that she is still number one by devoting her attention to her. She also blames me for "crippling" my daughter. My daughter has some neurological differences as proven by 3 Pediatric Neurological Physicians. This came about because I had to fight the school board for proper placement in public school.
The main problem I have right now, is that my brother has told me that he will give my mother the money to take me to court. And will testify on her behalf against me. My brother is an FBI agent and stated that he will do whatever he can to even abolish my parental rights, and the law will side with him because of his title.
I don't understand his ferver in this, since my mother excommunicated him also when his kids were small, making him drive several states to meet in a motel, hand his kids over to my father and then into a motel room, which my brother was not allowed. They are now in their 20's and haven't seen her in 13years. She wants the same from me, and I cannot allow her to play mindgames with my daughter anylonger, nor ignore my son.
I am fearful that what my brother says will happen, and I don't stand a chance because he is the law too.
What can I gather to show that with his 2 cases of abuse of power in his career with the FBI, and my mother's history of relationships, medical and mental status is not a breeding ground for healthy interaction???
TIA,
Cris
I am a married (same spouse for 14yrs. - been together for 20) 38yr. old with 2 children. One 6.8yrs. and one 1.8yrs.
I am facing a GPV case (have been threatened by my brother that he will pay for my mother to take me to court and testify against me), with my biological mother.
I have been trying to come to some common grounds with her after a falling out of sorts in June 04. I had done whatever I could for my daughter and her to be close, but found out that my mother was becoming increasingly over-attached to my daughter. She would consistently undermine my parental authority, and when she found out that I was planning on keeping my son (they thought he might have Down's at 26weeks), she became very possessive of my daughter and told me that I could not have this child because of what it would do to my daughter. She would also tell my daughter that she should come live with her because I will be too busy taking care of the new baby. This is just the surface of some severe mental issues my mother has. To the point that I had someone else stay with my daughter while I gave birth to my son.
My mother is a walking pharmacy. Oxycontin, Moraphine patch, Neurontin, Vicodin and others. She is physically barely able to work. She cannot drive at night. She cannot be alone with the kids. She is reclusive and has told me that even when both children are around her, that she will make sure that my daughter knows that she is still number one by devoting her attention to her. She also blames me for "crippling" my daughter. My daughter has some neurological differences as proven by 3 Pediatric Neurological Physicians. This came about because I had to fight the school board for proper placement in public school.
The main problem I have right now, is that my brother has told me that he will give my mother the money to take me to court. And will testify on her behalf against me. My brother is an FBI agent and stated that he will do whatever he can to even abolish my parental rights, and the law will side with him because of his title.
I don't understand his ferver in this, since my mother excommunicated him also when his kids were small, making him drive several states to meet in a motel, hand his kids over to my father and then into a motel room, which my brother was not allowed. They are now in their 20's and haven't seen her in 13years. She wants the same from me, and I cannot allow her to play mindgames with my daughter anylonger, nor ignore my son.
I am fearful that what my brother says will happen, and I don't stand a chance because he is the law too.
What can I gather to show that with his 2 cases of abuse of power in his career with the FBI, and my mother's history of relationships, medical and mental status is not a breeding ground for healthy interaction???
TIA,
Cris