What happens if you don't give bcse your new address?

[jennifer83]

What is the name of your state? KY

My boyfriend pays CS to his ex. He's never late because they deduct payments from his paycheck. Anyway he moved in with me and he's supposed to notify BCSE of his new address. Mind you the bcse office is in a different state. He hasn't. And he says he's not going to. Will they even know or care as long as he keeps makin cs payments on time?

The ex moved too. He doesn't know her street address. Just knows the city. My bf doesn't have custody or visitation and is ok with not having any and his ex is happy about that too. She doesn't even care that he hasn't added his kid to his medical insurance at work even though the court order says he has to. Could there be a problem if his ex doesn't complain about it to bcse. Oh the Bcse he pays money to is in florida.

 

[seniorjudge]

If he breaks the law he could get into very serious trouble.

 

[CJane]

Why would he think he wouldn't 'get in trouble' for violating a court order?

Good luck with this stellar human being.

And yes, the moral judgment is as free as the advice.

 

[BL]

What happens if you don't give bcse your new address?

What does the Court Order state can happen ?

 

[LdiJ]

In all reality, as long as he continues to pay his child support, on time, and consistantly, nobody is going to care.

However, as soon as he doesn't pay on time or consistantly, then if he hasn't keep the CSE updated with his address, there is likely going to be a warrant out for his arrest.

 

[Gracie3787]

What is the name of your state? KY

Oh the Bcse he pays money to is in florida.

As long as the CS is current, the CSE doesn't take the time to worry about tracking down everyone's address. So, basically unless the ex complians or he gets behind, nothing will happen.

However, I really don't see what his reluctance is, he really should go ahead and notify them because they will NOT give the address to the ex.

If his court order states that they are both supposed to notify each other, since he doesn't know his ex's address he can fulfill that duty by sending a change of address notice to ex's last known address by certified return recipet.

 

[jennifer83]

Well the order says they have to notify bcse and eachother. He did send a letter to her old address and it got sent back. Apparently the PO confirmed she didn't fill out change of address. Also hes po'd at bcse anyway because his caseworker is always rude to him when he has called in the past. He called complaining that she moved and didn't notify him and the case worker was like oh well. She also told him she was there to help his ex gf not him. And if he needed assistance he should contact an attorney. Plus the caseworker turned him for non payment and he had all his paycheck stubs with proof of CS being taken out and when he faxed them to her she said something like "well lucky for you you were one step ahead of us huh". So he's just like scew bcse i'm not telling them crap. They said he was 2 thousand behind. So it could have really hurt him.

Also I know some posters judged my bf as being a bad person for not complying. But 7 years ago his ex became pregnant about the time she admitted to cheating on him so they broke up and he never saw her again until last year in court. They couldn't agree to custody at the CS hearing because at the time ex lived in fla and my bf lived in ky. She wanted supervised visits and he was cool with that but wanted him to drive to fla every time. He didn't feel it was fair so he told the judge no agreement and he would pursue it with his own family attorney. That scared his ex and she skipped town about 3 weeks after that. knowing if he couldn't find her he wouldn't be able to take her to court. So he's not a bad guy. He's just given up. And feels that she never wanted him to know his son and doesn't really want his help she just wanted the cs money.

So if she does complain to bcse about him not adding his son to his medical insurance and then bcse tries to notify him and can't then what? a warrant? It's not like he's hiding. he changed the address on his drivers license, car insurance and is even paying the water here. he even changed it w/ his employer. And if he had to go to court couldn't he bring up that he tried to notify his ex and that his ex never notified him of her address? To answer blonde lebanese. the court order doesn't specify any punnishment for not obeying the order.

 

[CourtClerk]

Good luck with this stellar human being.

Don't worry CJane, it won't happen to her. She's different. He loves her. He would never do that to her and hers (if she was dumb enough not to heed the signs and find herself in that position).

I mean, what's the issue here? She's with a man who has a child, who has no problem not being a part of that child's life. He doesn't necessarily care that he doesn't know where his child is, or whether she's still alive and kicking... but worry not, he's paying the support because it comes out of his check (it makes her feel better because he's paying CS). Now, whether or not having a father in your life instead of just having some sperm donor being a check is another thing... it's fine with her. Hell, it's one less thing she has to deal with.

Some women are soooo desperate.

 

[jennifer83]

Don't worry CJane, it won't happen to her. She's different. He loves her. He would never do that to her and hers (if she was dumb enough not to heed the signs and find herself in that position).

I mean, what's the issue here? She's with a man who has a child, who has no problem not being a part of that child's life. He doesn't necessarily care that he doesn't know where his child is, or whether she's still alive and kicking... but worry not, he's paying the support because it comes out of his check (it makes her feel better because he's paying CS). Now, whether or not having a father in your life instead of just having some sperm donor being a check is another thing... it's fine with her. Hell, it's one less thing she has to deal with.

Some women are soooo desperate.

He's just my bf not my husband. Really i shouldn't even call him a bf..he's just a friend with benefits i guess. If i don't want to be with him any longer i can find someone else. I'm not desperate. Even though he pays the water bill he's not on the lease and i can kick him out at any time. And he's not "the one". He's just a companion. I like him and i don't want to see him get in trouble for somthing that he really doesn't know anything about. CS is confusing.

 

[CourtClerk]

He's just my bf not my husband. Really i shouldn't even call him a bf..he's just a friend with benefits i guess.

Now THAT ladies and gentlemen shows a woman with some self respect.... we're not in a relationship really... he just screws me when it's convenient, but he doesn't leave a 20 on the table so I'm not a prostitute (that's what I tell the girls in my teen group to look at it like when they want to consider something as ridiculous as this "friends with benefits" crap).

"friends" my dear... don't have those kind of benefits. Next time, lend him a CD.

Please don't have daughters... shoot, please don't have sons either.

 

[jennifer83]

Now THAT ladies and gentlemen shows a woman with some self respect.... we're not in a relationship really... he just screws me when it's convenient, but he doesn't leave a 20 on the table so I'm not a prostitute (that's what I tell the girls in my teen group to look at it like when they want to consider something as ridiculous as this "friends with benefits" crap).

"friends" my dear... don't have those kind of benefits. Next time, lend him a CD.

Please don't have daughters... shoot, please don't have sons either.

This is america. A place where women can be in control of their bodies and minds and I AM a liberal woman. Need i say WOMAN. Not a teen. And I can live with/sleep with whoever I want and however I want. If I really wanted to be compared to a prostitute I would find a poor guy with low self esteem and a fat wallet, make him feel like a god and he'd be putting a ring on my finger in less than 6 months. Then i could sit on my butt and get a free home, car, clothes, probably a dog and I could go to meetings at the church and gossip with all the rest of the good little housewives who secretly get off to skinemax porn at night while hubby is sleeping about the poor dumb sluts in the community that sleep with men when they aren't married lol. Don't compare me to your teen group. I spent 8 years in college and I know a thing or two about how things work. And honestly on a legal board I would think ppl would be a little less judgemental because we all know that judgemental people are that way because they are ignorant. it's no different than judging someone because they are gay. I hope you aren't a bigot too.

But that's NOT the issue here. i was asking for legal advice. not someone to give me a lesson on relationships lol. lawyers/judges don't give two cents about who you sleep with. So i would have expected that type of professionalism here.

 

[Gracie3787]

Well the order says they have to notify bcse and eachother. He did send a letter to her old address and it got sent back. Apparently the PO confirmed she didn't fill out change of address. Also hes po'd at bcse anyway because his caseworker is always rude to him when he has called in the past. He called complaining that she moved and didn't notify him and the case worker was like oh well. She also told him she was there to help his ex gf not him. And if he needed assistance he should contact an attorney. Plus the caseworker turned him for non payment and he had all his paycheck stubs with proof of CS being taken out and when he faxed them to her she said something like "well lucky for you you were one step ahead of us huh". So he's just like scew bcse i'm not telling them crap. They said he was 2 thousand behind. So it could have really hurt him.

Also I know some posters judged my bf as being a bad person for not complying. But 7 years ago his ex became pregnant about the time she admitted to cheating on him so they broke up and he never saw her again until last year in court. They couldn't agree to custody at the CS hearing because at the time ex lived in fla and my bf lived in ky. She wanted supervised visits and he was cool with that but wanted him to drive to fla every time. He didn't feel it was fair so he told the judge no agreement and he would pursue it with his own family attorney. That scared his ex and she skipped town about 3 weeks after that. knowing if he couldn't find her he wouldn't be able to take her to court. So he's not a bad guy. He's just given up. And feels that she never wanted him to know his son and doesn't really want his help she just wanted the cs money.

So if she does complain to bcse about him not adding his son to his medical insurance and then bcse tries to notify him and can't then what? a warrant? It's not like he's hiding. he changed the address on his drivers license, car insurance and is even paying the water here. he even changed it w/ his employer. And if he had to go to court couldn't he bring up that he tried to notify his ex and that his ex never notified him of her address? To answer blonde lebanese. the court order doesn't specify any punnishment for not obeying the order.

Your BF, or whatever you want to call him, is playing a dangerous game by refusing to notify CSE and by giving up. I know for a FACT that Florida CSE will hound him for the rest of his life if they think (even if they are incorrect) that he owes any arrears, insurance or any other problem. I am NOT joking, I have seen them go after a 78 year old father who had terminal cancer for $2,000.00 that had been owed for over 20 years.

Tell him to notify CSE.

 

[CourtClerk]

And so if you are so sure of what you are doing and so strong in your convictions... why are you so hell bent in defending them. It's just my opinion right? Who cares what I think...

No one said you can't hand out your body like Kleenex. If that's what makes you happy, go for it. I simply said I told the young ladies in my teen group (who will eventually become WOMEN)... not just over grown girls that WOMEN respect themselves, hence, have men who then respect them.

If you are comfortable with this dude who doesn't respect himself, you OR his child... have at it. Have a good time! If you like it, I love it.

 

[jennifer83]

And so if you are so sure of what you are doing and so strong in your convictions... why are you so hell bent in defending them. It's just my opinion right? Who cares what I think...

No one said you can't hand out your body like Kleenex. If that's what makes you happy, go for it. I simply said I told the young ladies in my teen group (who will eventually become WOMEN)... not just over grown girls that WOMEN respect themselves, hence, have men who then respect them.

If you are comfortable with this dude who doesn't respect himself, you OR his child... have at it. Have a good time! If you like it, I love it.

who says he doesn't respect me? he's a man not a child. and like i stated he doesn't owe money for back cs. he put the proof in the bcse's face. and they shut up about it. i was just pointing out how crooked the bcse was. isn't that what you do when you have strong convictions...you defend them. i was just putting you in your place for being judgemental. you know...god says don't judge. lol

I can guarantee you that some of the girls in your teen group have been having sex. And probably partying. I was friends with this pastors daughter in hs that was one of the sunday school instructors....by her 17th b day she had a count of 80 guys she had sex with. and had been on birth control since the age of 12. she wrote them down each time lol. and her parents thought she was a virgin and had no idea she was on bc hahaha. so i'm just saying don't throw the teen group around like those girls are automatically going to save it because you tell them to. and i respect myself lol. thanks.

 

[CourtClerk]

who says he doesn't respect me?

Anyone who simply uses you for sex doesn't respect you dear heart.... geez...


he's a man not a child.

No, he's an overgrown child. MEN raise their children... MEN care about the well being of their offspring.

and like i stated he doesn't owe money for back cs. he put the proof in the bcse's face. and they shut up about it. i was just pointing out how crooked the bcse was.

Oh yeah... real crooked.

I can guarantee you that some of the girls in your teen group have been having sex. And probably partying.

Seeing as if some of them are teen parents... I would guess that some of them are in fact or at least have at one point having sex. Those 8 years in college taught you how to make those suppositions didn't they...

It's about not continuing to make the same really STUPID mistakes, helping them make mature decisions, have a different outlook on life... oh... and they're teenagers... what's your excuse?