wileybunch
Senior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NV
This is a general question, but I am also interested in the answer personally.
What information is a custodial parent required to share with a non-custodial parent that shares legal custody about setting up counseling for child? Is CP only required to ask if NCP will give permission for the counseling or is CP required to share the reasons why CP is seeking counseling for child?
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In DH's case, CP has had ongoing obsessive alienating behavior and recently after CP went through another episode, child (14) expressed to her dad and I that she doesn't want to live anywhere. Expressing anything negative about her mom is a big deal as she risks consequences if her mother knows she's spoken against her. Said she and mom fight "all the time" and she doesn't want to live with Dad because people in our town are "fake" (suppress the smiles for those who have teens ).
So Mom gets a referral from a church leader to the church's counseling services which can be a great thing once it gets going. Mom tried to do it underhanded w/o involving Dad, it was the 14yo that mentioned it to me (I'm sure she had no idea her mom was trying to be secretive about it), but the counseling service put a stop to it when DH contacted them, and canceled child's appointment until they could decide who would best be able to help, they told DH. They are very concerned there is so much animosity coming from mom 10+ years post divorce and seemed to realize what they were dealing with from comments they made to DH on the phone.
Apparently they plan to have Mom and Dad each see separate counselors and child a third which sounds like a great plan, but they haven't called DH back to arrange this yet, this is coming from Mom, so hasn't happened yet (DH has called several times to follow up since canceled appt 1.5 weeks ago, but service hasn't called back yet with the plans). Mom said on Friday that if things weren't worked out by Monday (today), she was going to take DD to another counselor because she didn't want to wait any more and described DD14's emotional state as "fragile". We had just had her for long weekend before that and I would not describe her that way at all. Dad said he would not give that permission and was concerned about Mom's description of 14yo as emotionally fragile and asked for her to share information with him ASAP. Mom said she will not share it with Dad because "you don't want to hear anything about it from me and it would only cause more drama".
How much information is the CP required to share?
For that matter, the NCP knows that DD14 said she hates living with her mother and NCP has not shared that with CP, either, but DH didn't consider that to rise to the level of something that needed to be shared with the other parent.
This is a general question, but I am also interested in the answer personally.
What information is a custodial parent required to share with a non-custodial parent that shares legal custody about setting up counseling for child? Is CP only required to ask if NCP will give permission for the counseling or is CP required to share the reasons why CP is seeking counseling for child?
/// End of general questions ///
In DH's case, CP has had ongoing obsessive alienating behavior and recently after CP went through another episode, child (14) expressed to her dad and I that she doesn't want to live anywhere. Expressing anything negative about her mom is a big deal as she risks consequences if her mother knows she's spoken against her. Said she and mom fight "all the time" and she doesn't want to live with Dad because people in our town are "fake" (suppress the smiles for those who have teens ).
So Mom gets a referral from a church leader to the church's counseling services which can be a great thing once it gets going. Mom tried to do it underhanded w/o involving Dad, it was the 14yo that mentioned it to me (I'm sure she had no idea her mom was trying to be secretive about it), but the counseling service put a stop to it when DH contacted them, and canceled child's appointment until they could decide who would best be able to help, they told DH. They are very concerned there is so much animosity coming from mom 10+ years post divorce and seemed to realize what they were dealing with from comments they made to DH on the phone.
Apparently they plan to have Mom and Dad each see separate counselors and child a third which sounds like a great plan, but they haven't called DH back to arrange this yet, this is coming from Mom, so hasn't happened yet (DH has called several times to follow up since canceled appt 1.5 weeks ago, but service hasn't called back yet with the plans). Mom said on Friday that if things weren't worked out by Monday (today), she was going to take DD to another counselor because she didn't want to wait any more and described DD14's emotional state as "fragile". We had just had her for long weekend before that and I would not describe her that way at all. Dad said he would not give that permission and was concerned about Mom's description of 14yo as emotionally fragile and asked for her to share information with him ASAP. Mom said she will not share it with Dad because "you don't want to hear anything about it from me and it would only cause more drama".
How much information is the CP required to share?
For that matter, the NCP knows that DD14 said she hates living with her mother and NCP has not shared that with CP, either, but DH didn't consider that to rise to the level of something that needed to be shared with the other parent.