What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Louisiana
Hello ~ I have never had a close relationship with my mother, she was an emotionally abusive woman (still is), who I cut ties with years ago when I joined the military and moved away. She currently lives in Virginia and I live in Louisiana. She was not present when I got married, nor was she present at the birth of either of my two children (ages 15 and 11 now). In an attempt to put out the "olive branch", we visited her twice in my children's life time, the most recent being in 2009 where my children witnessed her verbal abuse of their cousins and my son (the oldest) came away saying "I never want to see that woman again, something is wrong with her" I have very limited contact with her, basically through email which she constantly sends me emails at my work address, mostly which I ignore. I divorced my first husband in 2007 and remarried in 2011. I did notify her of my engagement at the time, but she said nothing for months and when I finally asked what the problem was with acknowledging it, she went on a tirade (written in email which I have kept in a file) on how I was a rotten person who no one could love and I was only marrying so someone could take care of my kids and then she went on an attack of my fiance (who she didn't even know) saying he was nothing more then a factory worker (he's a process operator at a refinery, not a factory worker), he's not a home owner because he only owned a condo (don't understand her logic there) and he was only marrying me so someone could take care of his "retarded" son (his son, who lives with his mother and visits us, has down's syndrome) because, again, no one could ever love someone like me. Now, how she found out this information about where he lived or his son, I have no clue, since I never told her anything. But that is beside the point. I told her that I was through with her abusive rants and wanted nothing more to do with her. She continued to send birthday and holiday cards to my children, even though my son wouldn't even open his, just throw it in the trash. We moved to a new house in December and I did not give her the new address, although the mail was being forwarded. I guess the forwarding has run it's course because she just emailed me this morning going on about how I'm blocking her because the card she sent for my daughter's birthday was returned to her and what is my new address. I simply replied that I preferred to not give her my address and she went off on a rant about how I'm trying to hide something and I can't afford anything I claim to own and I tell tall tales to make myself look good, etc and so forth. Then she started in on grandparents rights and she has the right to see my children whenever she wants. I did research the laws in Louisiana and it looks like it would be up to the court to decide if the grandparent was mentally healthy and if the child wants to visit with that grandparent. But I'm not sure since she lives in Virginia. I'm guessing Louisiana laws would apply since my children and I live here. Can anyone help me understand if this unstable person can force herself into my childrens' lives? Thank you very much for any input.
Hello ~ I have never had a close relationship with my mother, she was an emotionally abusive woman (still is), who I cut ties with years ago when I joined the military and moved away. She currently lives in Virginia and I live in Louisiana. She was not present when I got married, nor was she present at the birth of either of my two children (ages 15 and 11 now). In an attempt to put out the "olive branch", we visited her twice in my children's life time, the most recent being in 2009 where my children witnessed her verbal abuse of their cousins and my son (the oldest) came away saying "I never want to see that woman again, something is wrong with her" I have very limited contact with her, basically through email which she constantly sends me emails at my work address, mostly which I ignore. I divorced my first husband in 2007 and remarried in 2011. I did notify her of my engagement at the time, but she said nothing for months and when I finally asked what the problem was with acknowledging it, she went on a tirade (written in email which I have kept in a file) on how I was a rotten person who no one could love and I was only marrying so someone could take care of my kids and then she went on an attack of my fiance (who she didn't even know) saying he was nothing more then a factory worker (he's a process operator at a refinery, not a factory worker), he's not a home owner because he only owned a condo (don't understand her logic there) and he was only marrying me so someone could take care of his "retarded" son (his son, who lives with his mother and visits us, has down's syndrome) because, again, no one could ever love someone like me. Now, how she found out this information about where he lived or his son, I have no clue, since I never told her anything. But that is beside the point. I told her that I was through with her abusive rants and wanted nothing more to do with her. She continued to send birthday and holiday cards to my children, even though my son wouldn't even open his, just throw it in the trash. We moved to a new house in December and I did not give her the new address, although the mail was being forwarded. I guess the forwarding has run it's course because she just emailed me this morning going on about how I'm blocking her because the card she sent for my daughter's birthday was returned to her and what is my new address. I simply replied that I preferred to not give her my address and she went off on a rant about how I'm trying to hide something and I can't afford anything I claim to own and I tell tall tales to make myself look good, etc and so forth. Then she started in on grandparents rights and she has the right to see my children whenever she wants. I did research the laws in Louisiana and it looks like it would be up to the court to decide if the grandparent was mentally healthy and if the child wants to visit with that grandparent. But I'm not sure since she lives in Virginia. I'm guessing Louisiana laws would apply since my children and I live here. Can anyone help me understand if this unstable person can force herself into my childrens' lives? Thank you very much for any input.