InfantCustody
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NC
Ok. I know I can count on you all to tell me if I am being an xxx or controlling or getting the little hairs on my neck up for no reason...which I try not to be/do...but know I can be/do at times.
Dad is currently exercising 2 days/wk of supervised parenting time, supervised by his Father. I currently have physical custody. Dad has visitation.
Dad texts me today at 9:28 am and says "I am getting a new pediatrician for the baby. He has an appointment today at 9:45." Well, one I was working and two, I live 40 minutes away even if I wasn't working so he knew I couldn't attend. I asked him why he was taking the baby to the MD and he said "I don't question you on why you take the baby to the MD" and he refused to answer me. I then asked him why he was not taking him to his regular MD and he said he wants his own pediatrician for the baby (We live 30 miles apart. MD Office is 32 miles from Dad. Not like distance is an issue.) so he doesn't have to use "my doctor." When I said I was worried two MD's could miss something re: the baby or there could be some miscommunication issues since the left hand doesn't know what the right is doing - he said "Your opinion is noted but unnecessary. I am informing you, not asking you." Dad took the baby to the MD - never did tell me why - and I picked him up at the end of Dad's visit. Dad said the MD said they would like to see the baby "on an on-going basis" and when I asked "why" he said "to monitor his progress - duh?" Mind you, Dad and I met at the baby's regular MD office this Tuesday to exchange the baby after the baby's appointment, so he was just seen and had no reason (that I know of) to go to the MD?
Well...I am MAD and I don't know if I should be... Dad has made a huge stink of my informing him of every medical appointment I make for the baby...which I do...and then he turns around and does this. And I don't even know WHY the baby was seen. I called the office and they said I can request a copy of the medical records.
What would the appropriate response be to this? Is this something I just "let go" and get over it, or is this something that is setting the stage for future issues? As someone here says regularly (sorry, I don't remember who!) "Is this a hill to die on?"
Ok. I know I can count on you all to tell me if I am being an xxx or controlling or getting the little hairs on my neck up for no reason...which I try not to be/do...but know I can be/do at times.
Dad is currently exercising 2 days/wk of supervised parenting time, supervised by his Father. I currently have physical custody. Dad has visitation.
Dad texts me today at 9:28 am and says "I am getting a new pediatrician for the baby. He has an appointment today at 9:45." Well, one I was working and two, I live 40 minutes away even if I wasn't working so he knew I couldn't attend. I asked him why he was taking the baby to the MD and he said "I don't question you on why you take the baby to the MD" and he refused to answer me. I then asked him why he was not taking him to his regular MD and he said he wants his own pediatrician for the baby (We live 30 miles apart. MD Office is 32 miles from Dad. Not like distance is an issue.) so he doesn't have to use "my doctor." When I said I was worried two MD's could miss something re: the baby or there could be some miscommunication issues since the left hand doesn't know what the right is doing - he said "Your opinion is noted but unnecessary. I am informing you, not asking you." Dad took the baby to the MD - never did tell me why - and I picked him up at the end of Dad's visit. Dad said the MD said they would like to see the baby "on an on-going basis" and when I asked "why" he said "to monitor his progress - duh?" Mind you, Dad and I met at the baby's regular MD office this Tuesday to exchange the baby after the baby's appointment, so he was just seen and had no reason (that I know of) to go to the MD?
Well...I am MAD and I don't know if I should be... Dad has made a huge stink of my informing him of every medical appointment I make for the baby...which I do...and then he turns around and does this. And I don't even know WHY the baby was seen. I called the office and they said I can request a copy of the medical records.
What would the appropriate response be to this? Is this something I just "let go" and get over it, or is this something that is setting the stage for future issues? As someone here says regularly (sorry, I don't remember who!) "Is this a hill to die on?"
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