What is the name of your state (only U.S. law) I live in Oregon, but the problem is in California, Santa Clara Co. It's a growing and terrible problem.
My Father passed away in 1987 in Calif. His mom died there in 1984. most all my other relatives before and since. I just this year found out that I was left out of any inheiritence from him or her including personal and promised items, life insurance, IRA's, stocks, bonds ect...
I have always just assumed that all went to my mother (who is now 74) and the family trust. (only 3 children, in our 50's, my brother and myself are sadly without children) and three grandchildren in early 20's)
But just recently I found an old letter from mom to my older sister (52) dated 3 months after dad passed asking her to fill out a form and to send her S.S.# so she could directly deposit checks to her and talked about taking investment classes and saving the info for her. (I never received such a letter)
I've also learned lately that she has sold or donated or given everything to my sister (her favorite)and her kids and my brother as well! When I asked her for a momento from my aunt that just passed, she told me "Theres nothing left... I didn't think you wanted anything! She never asked!
She even sold or gave away my own personal things from growing up !! (including all my barbie dolls and trolls worth big $$) just a couple years ago without telling or asking me!!
She won't tell me why, she won't discuss it, she and my sister have made up horrible distructive lies about both me and my husband...so bad my husband now wants to sue for defamation and slander!!
Now I find out they've both been involved after other family members deaths and taking things out of order and keeping one whole estate away from her sister(my aunt)...a rightful heir! needless to say they no longer speak to each other.
I suppose I should have had a clue before now, but I really never could have imagined such things were going on!! and none of them ever let on.
They just lie or deny EVERYTHING! and keep saying "prove it"! or it's "all in my imagination".I can't even trust my mother!! What can I do about it??
She said I'm in the trust for the house when she dies, but she won't send a copy of the trust, or a tape with my dad's voice talking or the family tree, nothing!, she won't even answer a question without lying or hanging up on me! They totally deny there was ANY money involved ever.
Do I have to allow them to erase me and keep me from my family?
Has it been too long to do anything about it? 21 years now.
If not, What can I do?? Is there any way for me to find out what he left and to whom?
I'm not a selfish or greedy person, But I don't want to be a TOTAL fool either. Mom is an alcoholic and on pain meds for a long time. My sister has always been a chronic liar and manipulater.
Doesen't a trustee or a executor have to follow rules?
I only know the house is in the family trust but I don't know if dad or anyone had a will. Any advise would be appriciated. Thanks, D.D.D.
My Father passed away in 1987 in Calif. His mom died there in 1984. most all my other relatives before and since. I just this year found out that I was left out of any inheiritence from him or her including personal and promised items, life insurance, IRA's, stocks, bonds ect...
I have always just assumed that all went to my mother (who is now 74) and the family trust. (only 3 children, in our 50's, my brother and myself are sadly without children) and three grandchildren in early 20's)
But just recently I found an old letter from mom to my older sister (52) dated 3 months after dad passed asking her to fill out a form and to send her S.S.# so she could directly deposit checks to her and talked about taking investment classes and saving the info for her. (I never received such a letter)
I've also learned lately that she has sold or donated or given everything to my sister (her favorite)and her kids and my brother as well! When I asked her for a momento from my aunt that just passed, she told me "Theres nothing left... I didn't think you wanted anything! She never asked!
She even sold or gave away my own personal things from growing up !! (including all my barbie dolls and trolls worth big $$) just a couple years ago without telling or asking me!!
She won't tell me why, she won't discuss it, she and my sister have made up horrible distructive lies about both me and my husband...so bad my husband now wants to sue for defamation and slander!!
Now I find out they've both been involved after other family members deaths and taking things out of order and keeping one whole estate away from her sister(my aunt)...a rightful heir! needless to say they no longer speak to each other.
I suppose I should have had a clue before now, but I really never could have imagined such things were going on!! and none of them ever let on.
They just lie or deny EVERYTHING! and keep saying "prove it"! or it's "all in my imagination".I can't even trust my mother!! What can I do about it??
She said I'm in the trust for the house when she dies, but she won't send a copy of the trust, or a tape with my dad's voice talking or the family tree, nothing!, she won't even answer a question without lying or hanging up on me! They totally deny there was ANY money involved ever.
Do I have to allow them to erase me and keep me from my family?
Has it been too long to do anything about it? 21 years now.
If not, What can I do?? Is there any way for me to find out what he left and to whom?
I'm not a selfish or greedy person, But I don't want to be a TOTAL fool either. Mom is an alcoholic and on pain meds for a long time. My sister has always been a chronic liar and manipulater.
Doesen't a trustee or a executor have to follow rules?
I only know the house is in the family trust but I don't know if dad or anyone had a will. Any advise would be appriciated. Thanks, D.D.D.
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