mommyndaddy
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?state of Hawaii
I am trying to win 50% physical custody of his three children in which I had with my ex wife. Ive have tried once in which she hired a lawyer and proved that we have no "material change in circumstance" I need help proving that we do and eventually winning the case of course. The arrangements on the decree is 100% physical to the mother and 50% legal to me. Being that my life has changed dramatically since our divorce (remarried, new child, moved 30 min. away from old adress, children bad grades, immunizations late, dentist cleaning over year old, son getting arrested for stealing). I also need it changed because some of the things I agreed on in the decree I cannot forfill thats why I needed it changed. I even tried proving she was unfit in which we have two full exhibit lists proving it!, and the judge was of course a woman and took her side. She also tried mud slinging about our pasts and the judge did not look at that. She tries saying I cant forfill what the decree says now, so why should we have it changed? Thats a retarded question...Im changing the arrangements so that I can be there for where, when and what the decree says. I no longer live 5 minutes away! My life has changed.
She controls ALL aspects of the kids lives totally shutting me out. I tried to have this settled at mediation and that did nothing all she did was refuse everthing. I just want equality with my children and for them to grow up with both parents and not be brain washed by the mother who they favor because she spends alot of mine and her money to buy there love. She also told them she will be sad and wont be able to buy them things if they live with my wife and I. My oldest son get taken cared of physically and financial by his grandmother, so my child support for him goes to whatever she wants. As you know alot of my pay goes to her (about $1400 a month)which leaves pennies for me and my family. How can this be solved? Where do I start? Besides getting a Lawyer what can I do to prepare my case so that I win....I just want 50/50 so I can spend more time with my kids and my kids can all grow up together with all siblings from both marriages.
I am trying to win 50% physical custody of his three children in which I had with my ex wife. Ive have tried once in which she hired a lawyer and proved that we have no "material change in circumstance" I need help proving that we do and eventually winning the case of course. The arrangements on the decree is 100% physical to the mother and 50% legal to me. Being that my life has changed dramatically since our divorce (remarried, new child, moved 30 min. away from old adress, children bad grades, immunizations late, dentist cleaning over year old, son getting arrested for stealing). I also need it changed because some of the things I agreed on in the decree I cannot forfill thats why I needed it changed. I even tried proving she was unfit in which we have two full exhibit lists proving it!, and the judge was of course a woman and took her side. She also tried mud slinging about our pasts and the judge did not look at that. She tries saying I cant forfill what the decree says now, so why should we have it changed? Thats a retarded question...Im changing the arrangements so that I can be there for where, when and what the decree says. I no longer live 5 minutes away! My life has changed.
She controls ALL aspects of the kids lives totally shutting me out. I tried to have this settled at mediation and that did nothing all she did was refuse everthing. I just want equality with my children and for them to grow up with both parents and not be brain washed by the mother who they favor because she spends alot of mine and her money to buy there love. She also told them she will be sad and wont be able to buy them things if they live with my wife and I. My oldest son get taken cared of physically and financial by his grandmother, so my child support for him goes to whatever she wants. As you know alot of my pay goes to her (about $1400 a month)which leaves pennies for me and my family. How can this be solved? Where do I start? Besides getting a Lawyer what can I do to prepare my case so that I win....I just want 50/50 so I can spend more time with my kids and my kids can all grow up together with all siblings from both marriages.
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