What is the name of your state? PA.
First off, thanks again, mac105 for letting me use your computer for a question.
I may be in the wrong forum, and I apologize if I am. Perhaps you could tell me where to post.
My husband died unexpectedly earlier this year. 23 years old, auto accident. We had 'gone steady' for many years and had been married for almost 2 years.
Sometimes things get overlooked when you're young ... his life insurance still carried his father as beneficiary.
My mother, who has brain damage and is an ex-addict, and my father in law and his wife always seemed to need money so Brian and I would give what we could, always leaving ourselves in a bind, but willingly. My husband was a hard worker and I am trying to get myself together to take my final tests for nursing. We were buying an old house to fix up ... I say all this to let you know that as young people we tried to do 'the right things' and had plans for our future.
I don't understand how all things seem to be hard ... I am not after a lot of money and don't ask for anything, but I don't understand or know how I will take care of things. My father in law has told me that all funeral expenses had to be paid by me quickly so as not to make them look bad. I am stuggling to make the house payment, work, study and keep my head barely above water. I feel like it would just be easier to just give in and give up .. seriously.
My father in law, on the other hand, has just bought a brand new big boat with Brian's insurance money.
Brian's family never cared for me and let him and I know that because Brian is white and I am (fair skinned) half black. My race is not my fault. They also felt embarrassed by my mother. Again, the way she is is not my fault. I can just say that Brian and I had been together many years and we loved each other regardless the barriers built by everything in the world being wrong with me.
I am happy to see my ather in law happy. sounds weird, I know, but shouldn't I have even been able to get just enough from the insurance to have paid the funeral expenses? I realize we should have thought ahead, but I guess at 23 we just didn't think about dying.
if you can give me some advice, I would appreciate it. if not, thanks for reading this anyhow.
First off, thanks again, mac105 for letting me use your computer for a question.
I may be in the wrong forum, and I apologize if I am. Perhaps you could tell me where to post.
My husband died unexpectedly earlier this year. 23 years old, auto accident. We had 'gone steady' for many years and had been married for almost 2 years.
Sometimes things get overlooked when you're young ... his life insurance still carried his father as beneficiary.
My mother, who has brain damage and is an ex-addict, and my father in law and his wife always seemed to need money so Brian and I would give what we could, always leaving ourselves in a bind, but willingly. My husband was a hard worker and I am trying to get myself together to take my final tests for nursing. We were buying an old house to fix up ... I say all this to let you know that as young people we tried to do 'the right things' and had plans for our future.
I don't understand how all things seem to be hard ... I am not after a lot of money and don't ask for anything, but I don't understand or know how I will take care of things. My father in law has told me that all funeral expenses had to be paid by me quickly so as not to make them look bad. I am stuggling to make the house payment, work, study and keep my head barely above water. I feel like it would just be easier to just give in and give up .. seriously.
My father in law, on the other hand, has just bought a brand new big boat with Brian's insurance money.
Brian's family never cared for me and let him and I know that because Brian is white and I am (fair skinned) half black. My race is not my fault. They also felt embarrassed by my mother. Again, the way she is is not my fault. I can just say that Brian and I had been together many years and we loved each other regardless the barriers built by everything in the world being wrong with me.
I am happy to see my ather in law happy. sounds weird, I know, but shouldn't I have even been able to get just enough from the insurance to have paid the funeral expenses? I realize we should have thought ahead, but I guess at 23 we just didn't think about dying.
if you can give me some advice, I would appreciate it. if not, thanks for reading this anyhow.