Day Camp Question

[kat308]

What is the name of your state? NY

My husband is required to pay his share to his kids summer day camp. His ex said she will be sending him receipts for additional activities at the camp such as movies, bowling, etc. Is my husband required to pay these or is he responsible for the day camp cost only?

 

[MrsK]

What is the name of your state? NY

My husband is required to pay his share to his kids summer day camp. His ex said she will be sending him receipts for additional activities at the camp such as movies, bowling, etc. Is my husband required to pay these or is he responsible for the day camp cost only?

What does the court order say?

And how much $$ are we talking about ie. his share of movies, bowling, etc. ?

 

[kat308]

Mrs K:

Thanks for responding. The court order says " the children's attendance at day camp during times in which school is not insession". It doesn't get specific with cost of activities.

He wouldn't even look into this but he doesn't make very much and most of his salary goes to support the kids. Also he just had her in court for fraud relating to daycare expenses.

Thank you again.

 

[CJane]

If it just says "Attendance at daycamp" then I think that's exactly what he should pay - his portion of the cost of them attending.

AND... If I were him, I'd contact the daycamp directly and find out how much it is per week (is this Y care?) and pay the camp, not Mom. That way, he doesn't have to worry later that Mom is being less than honest about costs or attendance.

 

[MrsK]

If it just says "Attendance at daycamp" then I think that's exactly what he should pay - his portion of the cost of them attending.

AND... If I were him, I'd contact the daycamp directly and find out how much it is per week (is this Y care?) and pay the camp, not Mom. That way, he doesn't have to worry later that Mom is being less than honest about costs or attendance.

I agree 100%. According to that order, he isnt responsible to pay for extras, just the cost of attendance. And he should def. make sure he is paying the correct amt by calling the program & asking how much it is.

 

[kat308]

Thanks very much for your responses. I thought the same thing. I am calling the camp tommorrow.

The ex tries to be slick. In court a few weeks ago, it came out she was receiving a grant for some of the after school day care costs which she never told anyone including the judge at the previous hearing. The judge was needless to say a little miffed.

 

[CourtClerk]

I would definately call the camp and find out whether or not those costs are mandatory. With my son and his summer camp, yes, you have to pay the attendance fees, but if he doesn't go on the trips (albeit them be extra), then he's stuck at camp all day with the preschoolers (he's almost in middle school). So no, they aren't exactly mandatory, but if all the kids in his group are going on an activity, then I feel compelled to pay it.

Find out if it's possible to send his portion directly to the camp. If the court order says he needs to pay it, I doubt there is a provision that says that he has to pay it to HER. He's got a right to know where his money is going.

 

[nextwife]

I would definately call the camp and find out whether or not those costs are mandatory. With my son and his summer camp, yes, you have to pay the attendance fees, but if he doesn't go on the trips (albeit them be extra), then he's stuck at camp all day with the preschoolers (he's almost in middle school). So no, they aren't exactly mandatory, but if all the kids in his group are going on an activity, then I feel compelled to pay it.

Find out if it's possible to send his portion directly to the camp. If the court order says he needs to pay it, I doubt there is a provision that says that he has to pay it to HER. He's got a right to know where his money is going.

At my daughter's day camp, the optional programs are truly optional, and many kids simply stay at camp and do their regular activities. I asked my child if she cared about the horseback riding , which is a couple hundred extra, and she said she'd rather stay for basketball and fishing, and skip the horses - so it sure wouldn't have made sense to pay extra for something she'd just as soon skip.

 

[kat308]

I called the camp this morning and was told that the activities are optional and not part of the camp cost as my husband's ex is trying to make him believe. The kids can stay at the camp or participate in the off site activites.

It is a shame that she continues to try to pull this kind of stuff. All she has to do is tell the truth and my husband would glady do what he can.

 

[CJane]

At my daughter's day camp, the optional programs are truly optional, and many kids simply stay at camp and do their regular activities. I asked my child if she cared about the horseback riding , which is a couple hundred extra, and she said she'd rather stay for basketball and fishing, and skip the horses - so it sure wouldn't have made sense to pay extra for something she'd just as soon skip.

Can we trade kids? Mine is PISSED at me for not signing her up for the horseback riding program at her camp... nevermind that she has a pony of her very own that she can ride whenever she damn well pleases.

Brat.

 

[nextwife]

Can we trade kids?

Brat.

No way. Mine's perfect

 

[CJane]

No way. Mine's perfect

She's not hormonal yet, is she?

 

[nextwife]

She's not hormonal yet, is she?

Darned close. WE already had to have "the talk".

Fortunately, her interests now lie more toward getting to play for the NBA AND getting to be a doctor (she loves "Dr. G, Medical Examiner, and Mystery Diagnosis" on Discovery Health Channel) than in boys.

You DID notice my Rolled Eyes smilies, right?

 

[LdiJ]

Darned close. WE already had to have "the talk".

Fortunately, her interests now lie more toward getting to play for the NBA AND getting to be a doctor (she loves "Dr. G, Medical Examiner, and Mystery Diagnosis" on Discovery Health Channel) than in boys.

You DID notice my Rolled Eyes smilies, right?

How old is she now?...about 6?...or am I completely off?

 

[CJane]

Darned close. WE already had to have "the talk".

Fortunately, her interests now lie more toward getting to play for the NBA AND getting to be a doctor (she loves "Dr. G, Medical Examiner, and Mystery Diagnosis" on Discovery Health Channel) than in boys.

You DID notice my Rolled Eyes smilies, right?

Mine came home from school the other day and said "Lindsey started her period this weekend. I think I want to be next."

I literally begged her not to start yet. LOL

She's a budding scientist too though - I'm not too worried about the boy thing. Unlike her younger sister, the thought of kissing makes her want to vomit - she leaves the room when people on TV kiss.