fighting for custody

[LdiJ]

Bupkiss = nothing

Lol.....

The correct spelling is bupkes, and its a real word, just not english. Its Yiddish for "nothing".

 

[Ohiogal]

Lol.....

The correct spelling is bupkes, and its a real word, just not english. Its Yiddish for "nothing".

I knew it was nothing at least I did not know how it was spelled and cribbed it from nextwife.

 

[CLBKLCDTB]

first of all she is my life and so is he, married or not we will be and it is about US and not just him or me. WE do things together WE are a team and don't leave eachother out, sorry you feel that way but WE will go through this together as well and im not asking for a step by step, i don't need you to hold my hand I just want to know what his chances are if we have to go to court. And i am not going to back off because she is my pride and joy regardless of whether i gave birth to her or not i have been there her whole life too. She knows the difference between me and her mother but she does call me mom as well but that is because she loves me and knows i have always been there for her just like her mother!!!

Look to love and stick by your boyfriend is on thing. However th e people here have a good point.

You have no legal rights here...even if you were married to him and he did get custody. YOU have NO LEGAL rights.
The only right you have is to love and support them.

As far as your question.

If it is court ordered joint custody, both dad and mom have the right to go to court if they can not come to an agreement in rasing the child.

Someone here asked which parent has phy. or residential custody. which does make a differance.
If mom has it, and dad wants it...dad will have to prove to the court why it is not good to be with mom. Mom would have to show it is nessassary for her to move and why.

As far as your boyfriend getting sole custody beccuse mom has to move....that is not a good enough chane in circomstance to change custody.

In most cases when a move is made...the person who moves is responsible for transfer of the child during visitation.

To make this a custody dispute over a move would bae a waste of your boyfriends time, a judges time, and money.

 

[ebnme]

we did file the papers with the court and all they say are joint custody, nothing more. Thats fine that I have ne legal rights but her mother has alot against her with her boyfriends drug charges, doesn't that make a differece if she lives with him and he is the only one supporting her and their children together, or is he not looked at because they arn't married? And it is spit half/half, we switch a day every week so one week you have her 3 days and the naxt 4, no one has her more then anyone else. We don't want to take her away from her mother, her mother is the one moving and wanting to go to cout about it we just want to be ready if she really does. Im not trying to take the place of her mother but i am her motherly figure at her dads house and that is why she calls me mom, she calls her mother mama it's not like we tell her to she does it herself. she always has

 

[Ohiogal]

we did file the papers with the court and all they say are joint custody, nothing more. Thats fine that I have ne legal rights but her mother has alot against her with her boyfriends drug charges, doesn't that make a differece if she lives with him and he is the only one supporting her and their children together, or is he not looked at because they arn't married? And it is spit half/half, we switch a day every week so one week you have her 3 days and the naxt 4, no one has her more then anyone else. We don't want to take her away from her mother, her mother is the one moving and wanting to go to cout about it we just want to be ready if she really does. Im not trying to take the place of her mother but i am her motherly figure at her dads house and that is why she calls me mom, she calls her mother mama it's not like we tell her to she does it herself. she always has

Your husband really needs to file for joint custody with him getting weekdays and mom getting weekends. But you need to stay out of it and you need to not allow this child to call you mom. What do her boyfriend's drug charges have to do with the child? Who is the only one supporting her and their children together? Her boyfriend? Well that is a good thing.