Child Support and Summer Vacation

[haiku]

And what if Mom won't pay for Juniors ticket?

bottom line is even when jr. is not home, his home still needs to be maintained.

Pretty much unless there are extenuating circumstances you don't get extra credit for taking your kid on vacation as a non custodial....

 

[BlissfulMommy]

Then, negotiate. He cannot NOT pay the child supprt. She can take him to court, and will win. OH child support goes through the state.

I know The child support comes out of one of his checking accounts automatically every month. I just hope that she will at least pay for the plane ticket.

Something else - his son mentioned to my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago when he was visiting his family in Ohio that he would like to live with us here in Florida. He is really focused on his Dad, they talk on he phone almost every night (which I think is great, I do the same with my son). His Mom constantly changes boyfriends and he told his Dad about it and that he doesn't like it at all. IF he decides to stay with us after the summer, how would we proceed ? He is almost 13 years old.

 

[BlissfulMommy]

And what if Mom won't pay for Juniors ticket?

bottom line is even when jr. is not home, his home still needs to be maintained.

Pretty much unless there are extenuating circumstances you don't get extra credit for taking your kid on vacation as a non custodial....

If she won't pay for the ticket, then we will We really want to have him here with us

 

[haiku]

I know The child support comes out of one of his checking accounts automatically every month. I just hope that she will at least pay for the plane ticket.

Something else - his son mentioned to my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago when he was visiting his family in Ohio that he would like to live with us here in Florida. He is really focused on his Dad, they talk on he phone almost every night (which I think is great, I do the same with my son). His Mom constantly changes boyfriends and he told his Dad about it and that he doesn't like it at all. IF he decides to stay with us after the summer, how would we proceed ? He is almost 13 years old.

first thing you do is send him BACK to his mother**************

 

[BlissfulMommy]

first thing you do is send him BACK to his mother**************

Ok. IF he wants to stay (and after we send him back to his mother), can he decide where he wants to live ? He turns 13 in June 2007.

 

[moburkes]

Ok. IF he wants to stay (and after we send him back to his mother), can he decide where he wants to live ? He turns 13 in June 2007.

Noooooooooooooope. Can he decide that he'd like to skip school or go drinking with his buddies?

If his father wants custody to change, then he needs to do it through the court system. However, if his father intends to follow through with kidnapping his child, child support doesn't stop.

 

[LdiJ]

I know The child support comes out of one of his checking accounts automatically every month. I just hope that she will at least pay for the plane ticket.

Something else - his son mentioned to my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago when he was visiting his family in Ohio that he would like to live with us here in Florida. He is really focused on his Dad, they talk on he phone almost every night (which I think is great, I do the same with my son). His Mom constantly changes boyfriends and he told his Dad about it and that he doesn't like it at all. IF he decides to stay with us after the summer, how would we proceed ? He is almost 13 years old.

Its not that simple. If your husband were to attempt to simply keep him after the visit, your husband could very easily end up with even less visitation than he has now. That is a major no-no. In fact, it could even turn into parental kidnapping.

Your husband would have to return the child and would have to file for a custody modification, in the state that holds jurisdiction of the case. Even if the child really wants to live with dad, its absolutely no guarantee that a judge would decide that its in the child's best interest. 13 year olds don't get to decide who has custody. Now, that's no guarantee that dad would lose either, but its important to understand that the judge decides, not the child.

Its also critical that your husband not allow the child to believe that he gets to make the decision. Custody cases are expensive and can easily take 6 months to a year for a decision.

Now....I will add something else to the previous discussion. By all means negotiate with mom about the plane ticket. If this is not scheduled visitation then certainly she should be more cooperative than she is being. However, if its not scheduled visitation, then why doesn't dad have extended time scheduled in the summer?

Also, if she is making 80k a year, then the child support is NOT paying for her vacation. In fact, its likely that its not even close to paying for 1/2 of the cost of raising the child. You really need to get over yourself on that issue....because you are way out of line there.

 

[BlissfulMommy]

We are by all means not intending to kidnap his son. I understand that it would have to go through the courts in Ohio and that it could take a long time, especially since she probably won't let him stay. LdiJ, I don't know the total extend of their custody and visitation agreement but I know that when my boyfriend was still living in Ohio, they had a pretty nasty court battle going on about custody, child support and visitation. I know that in the past, his son came to stay with his Dad for about a month during the summer vacation and Dad paid for the ticket every time. And she has never been cooperative. For her, it's all about the money - sigh - like for so many other women too.

I'm just glad that my first husband and I could be civil with each other and come to a custody, child support and visitation agreement without involving the courts. Our children both tell us all the time that they are happy that Mom and Dad get along so well and they also know that we did it for them.

When it comes to child custody, child support and visitation court battles, the children are ALWAYS the ones who lose because Mom and Dad don't have any control over the children anymore when the courts are involved. Mom and Dad know what's best for the kids, not the courts. Courts certainly don't always have the children's best interest in mind.

 

[BlissfulMommy]

Noooooooooooooope. Can he decide that he'd like to skip school or go drinking with his buddies?

If his father wants custody to change, then he needs to do it through the court system. However, if his father intends to follow through with kidnapping his child, child support doesn't stop.

I don't recall mentioning anything about kidnapping his son.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

We are by all means not intending to kidnap his son. I understand that it would have to go through the courts in Ohio and that it could take a long time, especially since she probably won't let him stay. LdiJ, I don't know the total extend of their custody and visitation agreement but I know that when my boyfriend was still living in Ohio, they had a pretty nasty court battle going on about custody, child support and visitation. I know that in the past, his son came to stay with his Dad for about a month during the summer vacation and Dad paid for the ticket every time. And she has never been cooperative. For her, it's all about the money - sigh - like for so many other women too.

I'm just glad that my first husband and I could be civil with each other and come to a custody, child support and visitation agreement without involving the courts. Our children both tell us all the time that they are happy that Mom and Dad get along so well and they also know that we did it for them.

When it comes to child custody, child support and visitation court battles, the children are ALWAYS the ones who lose because Mom and Dad don't have any control over the children anymore. Mom and Dad know what's best for the kids, not the courts.

What exactly is his court ordered visitation? It sounds like he has had him over the summer before.

 

[BlissfulMommy]

What exactly is his court ordered visitation? It sounds like he has had him over the summer before.[/B]

Yes, he has had him over the summer before, except last year - as far as I recall she took him on vacation with her and her boyfriend. I would have to ask my boyfriend what exactly the court ordered visitation says. Last night we just discussed the fact that he will still have to pay child support for the time that his son is down here for a month and that his Mom won't pay for the plane ticket. The reason why I posted my question in this forum is that I don't think it's right that he has to pay for everything