Is this contempt?

[CJane]

What is the name of your state? MO

I'm borrowing trouble. I know that. But here goes.

My youngest daughter has an appointment tomorrow with the nephrology department at the children's hospital. This is a follow-up for the appointment that stupidhead took her to in October (which I didn't actually find out abou til April). Anyway, I scheduled this appointment because he insisted as late as April that she was still having bladder control issues.

ANYWAY... Ex called tonight and after screaming at me about what a horrible, manipulative, lying b*tch I am (for scheduling an evaluation/testing for the kid he insists has ADHD), he said that he's going to cancel the appointment for tomorrow because he can't make it.

I wouldn't really care, since I don't think she has issues at all, but this specialist she's supposed to see is a Fellow and will be leaving the hospital in June. I had to speak with 4 social-workers and 2 nurse managers to GET this appointment, so it's not as if it can just be rescheduled.

I'm going to attempt to call the hospital first thing in the morning and request that they NOT cancel the appointment, but if he's successful, is it contempt? Nowhere in the order does it say that we can't cancel Dr. Appointments.

 

[Ohiogal]

not necessarily. What does it state about med appointments and making them.

 

[CJane]

It's actually pretty silent on that issue, unlike our old order.

It says "each party shall be responsible for ensuring that the child receive routine and minor medical care while in that parent's custody." Major medical decisions require agreement between the parties.

Incidentally, he didn't cancel the appointment. He DID show up at the clinic and make an ass of himself though, and they called in a social worker to sort of mediate the appointment. The social worker also made copies of the court order, changed all of the information in the system so that my info is properly reflected (ex had said 'unknown' for everything), and promised that w/the court order on file, all appoinments would be confirmed with both parents, and all test results, etc would be forwarded to both parents.

 

[Ohiogal]

Okay then. Your ex is a winner.

 

[CJane]

Okay then. Your ex is a winner.

Yes, I know. You'd think that after being married to someone for 10 years, you'd stop being surprised by their behavior, but it gets me every time.

Perhaps I'm not too bright?

(Yeah, don't answer that)