What is the name of your state? TX
I have a thread in another forum about internet harassment in a blogspace. The person I'm about to talk about is the same person that's doing the harassment to me on the net.
My ex bf has some custody rights to my little boy. He sees him one weekend a month and can see him a couple weeks out of the summer if he can fit him into his schedule at that time. For one my ex doesn't really want custody. He just has it because he knows it gets under my skin. He doesn't care for our son. But he hasn't done anything mean so I can't prove he doesn't care. However my son is 9 and not once has he gotten a birthday present or even a Christmas present from his father. He doesn't ask to see him at Christmas or on his birthday. Actually he doesn't even call on those days!! When I ask him why he says he doesn't have the money or he forgot. Or christmas he says he is always at his wifes familys house and their cells don't work out there...and he's not going to call long distance on their phone. It's a crock. Anyway my issue isn't with him it's his wife.
She has nothing to do with him. I've sat and watched her love on her own son and play with him and then when my son tries to play with her she completely ignores him. When he's been at their house she's said in front of him to my husband or her son that I'm a "whore" and that I'm "worthless". She told my son that he was a bas-ta-rd and explained what a bas-ta-rd was to him. He used to have a different name until he was one year. Because I honestly thought he was someone elses. Yeah a big mistake on my part. She told him all about it. They have a copy of the old birth certificate that the child support bureau sent them when they ordred a CS hearing. She even got it out and showed it to him. He came home in tears. It's created a huge identity crisis for him. Their son is a couple years younger than he is. He brags to my son about all the clothes and toys they buy him and says that he doesn't get anything because they like him better. He's also mean to my son. He hits him. He's even beaten him up. And they didn't even punnish him for it. Actually they told my son he was grounded from the X box at their house for starting a fight. Their son has taken my sons things and hidden them. He's also thrown them away for just meanness I guess.
I've called child protective services but they ivestigated and said their home was suitable and felt they were a loving environment. Of course. They are great at pretending to outsiders. Their son is a straight A student at school and has never been in trouble at school but he's beaten up I don't know how many kids on their block during after school hours or during the summer. He's in sports. Baseball, football, and he's on summer league baseball teams that travel to other states and compete. Thats why my ex says he cant' work my son into his schedule during the summer. They don't want him to go with them to these tournaments. They even have a personal trainer for their son for weightlifting because they want him to have a strong arm so he can be the best in those two sports. Apparently he's a pitcher. And he is the best on his team. He's pretty buff for an 8 year old and extremely strong. That's why I'm scared for my son and he has the upper hand.
I don't know what to do here. Everytime my son comes home he's in tears. But he loves going there because they have a big nice house, a pool, all kinds of toys, a fourwheeler and they live on a large amount of land so they let him ride it. And we just live in an apartment. And I've tried to get CS increased because I know they have way more money than they are telling me. But his wife says she's the one that makes all that money...and their home and land was willed to them by her grandfather when he passed away. Her father is a home builder and he does all kinds of work to their home and upgrades it and it's an awesome home and they've not paid a dime for it.
Also my ex is a little racist. And my son picked up te N word at their house. Apparently they were driving down the road and saw some black people and started saying how worthless they are etc. My son told me all about it because I asked him where he heard the N word and why he said to me they were lazy and didn't work. When I asked my ex about it he just laughed and said "well atleast he's learning something of some worth". Apparently their son even is racist now. Racist parents racist kids I guess.
They also went to Europe this past spring for two weeks. They took their son with them. My son wanted to go so bad because it was spring break. But they said they only had money for the three of them. When I asked where they got the money to go to europe with his wife said it was the money they got back on their taxes and it was a family thing with her family. Apparently her parents went too. And said it was a private affair. When they got back and my son was at their house their son told him all about it. He even saw the pictures they had hung on the wall and had sitting on their desk. He started crying there and saying to them they never take him anywhere and his step mom told him that if he would act a little more grown up and not be so immature they might let him go places with them. But he had to learn how to behave like an adult first. Of course he ran off and said he cried.
What can I do. Is there any way I can keep my son from them? Isn't talking bad about me in front of my son some form of child abuse?
I have a thread in another forum about internet harassment in a blogspace. The person I'm about to talk about is the same person that's doing the harassment to me on the net.
My ex bf has some custody rights to my little boy. He sees him one weekend a month and can see him a couple weeks out of the summer if he can fit him into his schedule at that time. For one my ex doesn't really want custody. He just has it because he knows it gets under my skin. He doesn't care for our son. But he hasn't done anything mean so I can't prove he doesn't care. However my son is 9 and not once has he gotten a birthday present or even a Christmas present from his father. He doesn't ask to see him at Christmas or on his birthday. Actually he doesn't even call on those days!! When I ask him why he says he doesn't have the money or he forgot. Or christmas he says he is always at his wifes familys house and their cells don't work out there...and he's not going to call long distance on their phone. It's a crock. Anyway my issue isn't with him it's his wife.
She has nothing to do with him. I've sat and watched her love on her own son and play with him and then when my son tries to play with her she completely ignores him. When he's been at their house she's said in front of him to my husband or her son that I'm a "whore" and that I'm "worthless". She told my son that he was a bas-ta-rd and explained what a bas-ta-rd was to him. He used to have a different name until he was one year. Because I honestly thought he was someone elses. Yeah a big mistake on my part. She told him all about it. They have a copy of the old birth certificate that the child support bureau sent them when they ordred a CS hearing. She even got it out and showed it to him. He came home in tears. It's created a huge identity crisis for him. Their son is a couple years younger than he is. He brags to my son about all the clothes and toys they buy him and says that he doesn't get anything because they like him better. He's also mean to my son. He hits him. He's even beaten him up. And they didn't even punnish him for it. Actually they told my son he was grounded from the X box at their house for starting a fight. Their son has taken my sons things and hidden them. He's also thrown them away for just meanness I guess.
I've called child protective services but they ivestigated and said their home was suitable and felt they were a loving environment. Of course. They are great at pretending to outsiders. Their son is a straight A student at school and has never been in trouble at school but he's beaten up I don't know how many kids on their block during after school hours or during the summer. He's in sports. Baseball, football, and he's on summer league baseball teams that travel to other states and compete. Thats why my ex says he cant' work my son into his schedule during the summer. They don't want him to go with them to these tournaments. They even have a personal trainer for their son for weightlifting because they want him to have a strong arm so he can be the best in those two sports. Apparently he's a pitcher. And he is the best on his team. He's pretty buff for an 8 year old and extremely strong. That's why I'm scared for my son and he has the upper hand.
I don't know what to do here. Everytime my son comes home he's in tears. But he loves going there because they have a big nice house, a pool, all kinds of toys, a fourwheeler and they live on a large amount of land so they let him ride it. And we just live in an apartment. And I've tried to get CS increased because I know they have way more money than they are telling me. But his wife says she's the one that makes all that money...and their home and land was willed to them by her grandfather when he passed away. Her father is a home builder and he does all kinds of work to their home and upgrades it and it's an awesome home and they've not paid a dime for it.
Also my ex is a little racist. And my son picked up te N word at their house. Apparently they were driving down the road and saw some black people and started saying how worthless they are etc. My son told me all about it because I asked him where he heard the N word and why he said to me they were lazy and didn't work. When I asked my ex about it he just laughed and said "well atleast he's learning something of some worth". Apparently their son even is racist now. Racist parents racist kids I guess.
They also went to Europe this past spring for two weeks. They took their son with them. My son wanted to go so bad because it was spring break. But they said they only had money for the three of them. When I asked where they got the money to go to europe with his wife said it was the money they got back on their taxes and it was a family thing with her family. Apparently her parents went too. And said it was a private affair. When they got back and my son was at their house their son told him all about it. He even saw the pictures they had hung on the wall and had sitting on their desk. He started crying there and saying to them they never take him anywhere and his step mom told him that if he would act a little more grown up and not be so immature they might let him go places with them. But he had to learn how to behave like an adult first. Of course he ran off and said he cried.
What can I do. Is there any way I can keep my son from them? Isn't talking bad about me in front of my son some form of child abuse?
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