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What is the name of your state? NJ
I can use some help. I live in NJ. I'm going through an extremely tortorous divorce after a 14 year marriage. There is a custody battle going on which was initiated by my soon-to-be ex. We have 2 kids. We have a court appointed custody evaluator. We both still reside in the marital home. I've been a stay-at-home mom for 11 years and their primary caretaker. I'm now being ordered back to work; will probably have to sell him the house; borrowing a car because my lease expired and I was ordered to finance my own vehicle; have been ruled against more times than I care to count by the judge; and am constantly being taken back to court because of motions filed by his attorney for ridiculous things. He won't try to settle or even talk about anything. EVERYTHING goes through our attorneys because him. He has a rich family who is financing and fueling his battle. I became involved with someone else 3 months after telling him I wanted the divorce. I recently found out from the custody evaluator that my husband hired a private investigator to follow me and my friend; took pictures of me and him; put a GPS tracking device on my truck that I used to lease; had our house watched when he took our kids to his parents shore home last summer and to Disney World; recorded every conversation and fight we ever had; snooped through my things in the house and my personal papers and took them; broke into my email and retrieved copies of all of my email stored on Yahoo's servers (originally I used a computer that we co-owned; I have since bought 2 laptops that are owned by me and my children EXCLUSIVELY; my account on the computer and my email account is password protected; he does NOT have permission to use them and has been told many times to get off); gained access to a credit card for which he is NOT a co-owner or authorized user to obtain my balance (I have since reported it stolen as advised by the credit card company); and he gained access to confidential email between me and my attorneys when he broke into my email. That is only the TIP of the iceberg! He is clearly out for personal revenge. I've heard over and over how he's already won with the judge and the custody evaluator. He constantly baits me and tries to provoke me to lay a hand on him so he can get a restaining order. He tries to get me to admit to things that aren't true by twisting my words and trying to get me to repeat them while recording them. He admitted to the custody evaluator that the tapes are edited. I'm sure you never hear him yelling or getting mad. As it turns out, the private investigator was my friend's brother-in-law unbeknownst at the time to my husband. My friend knew his brother in law is a private eye and actually caught him spying on me. He confronted his brother in law who claimed to be watching someone else but as it turned out, he was watching me. He hired a 2 man surveillance team to track and investigate me and my friend. He may have installed keylogging software on my 2 laptop computers too. I informed my divorce attorney about everything that he's done. The judge doesn't seem to care. I don't think it's been pursued enough by my attorney. She told me to hire a separate attorney to handle that part if a lawsuit is to be filed stating it's not part of the divorce. Can a marital tort be filed? I think he may have broken both federal and NJ wiretapping laws as well as invaded my privacy; breached attorney-client privilige and committed credit card fraud by obtaining information about my account. Can you please point me in the right direction? What kind of an attorney do I need? I live in a prison now being completely controlled by him. He's out to destroy me financially which he has already pretty much done as well as emotionally. He removed his name from our joint credit cards or those in which he was an authorized user in an attempt to assign all of the debt to me. He then refused to pay my credit card bills for 4 months last summer. He only started paying when he was ordered to by the judge. Also during this hell, my mother suffered horribly and died from breast cancer and my grandmother, who was my mother's mother died 9 months before her. My husband has been cruel, controlling and narcassistic. I can't live this way any longer. He refuses to leave. He said he'll take the house, the kids, the dog, our possessions, the remaining car and all I'l get is the debt. That is in ADDITION to everything he's done already. He MUST be held accountable for his actions. He threatened to drag out the custod eval and take our divorce to trial if I don't give him everything he wants. He won't stop and will always have me back in court when he doesn't get his way until both of my kids are adults. PLEASE tell me what kind of help I need and what can be done to stop him from mentally abusing me. It's deliberate. Please help.What is the name of your state?
I can use some help. I live in NJ. I'm going through an extremely tortorous divorce after a 14 year marriage. There is a custody battle going on which was initiated by my soon-to-be ex. We have 2 kids. We have a court appointed custody evaluator. We both still reside in the marital home. I've been a stay-at-home mom for 11 years and their primary caretaker. I'm now being ordered back to work; will probably have to sell him the house; borrowing a car because my lease expired and I was ordered to finance my own vehicle; have been ruled against more times than I care to count by the judge; and am constantly being taken back to court because of motions filed by his attorney for ridiculous things. He won't try to settle or even talk about anything. EVERYTHING goes through our attorneys because him. He has a rich family who is financing and fueling his battle. I became involved with someone else 3 months after telling him I wanted the divorce. I recently found out from the custody evaluator that my husband hired a private investigator to follow me and my friend; took pictures of me and him; put a GPS tracking device on my truck that I used to lease; had our house watched when he took our kids to his parents shore home last summer and to Disney World; recorded every conversation and fight we ever had; snooped through my things in the house and my personal papers and took them; broke into my email and retrieved copies of all of my email stored on Yahoo's servers (originally I used a computer that we co-owned; I have since bought 2 laptops that are owned by me and my children EXCLUSIVELY; my account on the computer and my email account is password protected; he does NOT have permission to use them and has been told many times to get off); gained access to a credit card for which he is NOT a co-owner or authorized user to obtain my balance (I have since reported it stolen as advised by the credit card company); and he gained access to confidential email between me and my attorneys when he broke into my email. That is only the TIP of the iceberg! He is clearly out for personal revenge. I've heard over and over how he's already won with the judge and the custody evaluator. He constantly baits me and tries to provoke me to lay a hand on him so he can get a restaining order. He tries to get me to admit to things that aren't true by twisting my words and trying to get me to repeat them while recording them. He admitted to the custody evaluator that the tapes are edited. I'm sure you never hear him yelling or getting mad. As it turns out, the private investigator was my friend's brother-in-law unbeknownst at the time to my husband. My friend knew his brother in law is a private eye and actually caught him spying on me. He confronted his brother in law who claimed to be watching someone else but as it turned out, he was watching me. He hired a 2 man surveillance team to track and investigate me and my friend. He may have installed keylogging software on my 2 laptop computers too. I informed my divorce attorney about everything that he's done. The judge doesn't seem to care. I don't think it's been pursued enough by my attorney. She told me to hire a separate attorney to handle that part if a lawsuit is to be filed stating it's not part of the divorce. Can a marital tort be filed? I think he may have broken both federal and NJ wiretapping laws as well as invaded my privacy; breached attorney-client privilige and committed credit card fraud by obtaining information about my account. Can you please point me in the right direction? What kind of an attorney do I need? I live in a prison now being completely controlled by him. He's out to destroy me financially which he has already pretty much done as well as emotionally. He removed his name from our joint credit cards or those in which he was an authorized user in an attempt to assign all of the debt to me. He then refused to pay my credit card bills for 4 months last summer. He only started paying when he was ordered to by the judge. Also during this hell, my mother suffered horribly and died from breast cancer and my grandmother, who was my mother's mother died 9 months before her. My husband has been cruel, controlling and narcassistic. I can't live this way any longer. He refuses to leave. He said he'll take the house, the kids, the dog, our possessions, the remaining car and all I'l get is the debt. That is in ADDITION to everything he's done already. He MUST be held accountable for his actions. He threatened to drag out the custod eval and take our divorce to trial if I don't give him everything he wants. He won't stop and will always have me back in court when he doesn't get his way until both of my kids are adults. PLEASE tell me what kind of help I need and what can be done to stop him from mentally abusing me. It's deliberate. Please help.What is the name of your state?