Mother dragging son to psychologist

[mommyof4]

Well, emotions don't play in court.

The good news for you is that you have no legal stake in this, so you can be as "emotional" as you want. I do strongly suggest, however, that you keep those emotions to yourself. If you can't do that, I second the others that you need to find a good therapist to help you deal with your emotions. You have no right to project your emotions upon this family.

 

[>Charlotte<]

I don't understand why the people on this board are always so confrontational.

Because they're not stupid and you're transparent.

The child is seeing a psychologist, and your first instinct is to find out how your boyfriend can use that to his advantage?? And you want us to believe you only want what's best for the child?? Please.

You say Mom doesn't care about her child, but what you won't admit is that you don't want her to care. You just want to win. Each piece of "evidence" you find to call her unfit is just more ammo for your arsenal, and that suits you just fine. Who do you think you're kidding? You're not concerned that it might be traumatic for this boy, you're pleased that you have something else to use against his mother. Do you really think no one can see that?

I don't want to interfere.

That's exactly what you want to do.

People tend to get confrontational when you treat them like idiots who are expected to believe anything you say.

 

[Ohiogal]

But seriously, I wish that people would not always expect me to put the emotional aspect aside, I doubt that anyone can just simply "turn off" feelings and emotions, especially when it comes to children who can't defend themselves and rely and count on the help of an adult. I've always been very emotional because I care very deeply for children and I love my own kids and my boyfriend's kids equally - as if they were my own. If there is an injustice of some sort, I try to help when I can.

YOU have no right to be butting you. YOU are NOTHING to this child. YOu are a third wheel interloper who needs to back off. You love your boyfriend's kids equally to your own? THEY ARE NOT YOURS! You are not even a stepparent. The injustice is you are trying to make mom a villian when in reality the villian in court will be seen as an overmeddling girlfriend of dad.

 

[Ohiogal]

Because they're not stupid and you're transparent.

The child is seeing a psychologist, and your first instinct is to find out how your boyfriend can use that to his advantage?? And you want us to believe you only want what's best for the child?? Please.

You say Mom doesn't care about her child, but what you won't admit is that you don't want her to care. You just want to win. Each piece of "evidence" you find to call her unfit is just more ammo for your arsenal, and that suits you just fine. Who do you think you're kidding? You're not concerned that it might be traumatic for this boy, you're pleased that you have something else to use against his mother. Do you really think no one can see that?



That's exactly what you want to do.

People tend to get confrontational when you treat them like idiots who are expected to believe anything you say.

BINGO!!!!!

 

[amberlea434]

Because they're not stupid and you're transparent.

The child is seeing a psychologist, and your first instinct is to find out how your boyfriend can use that to his advantage?? And you want us to believe you only want what's best for the child?? Please.

You say Mom doesn't care about her child, but what you won't admit is that you don't want her to care. You just want to win. Each piece of "evidence" you find to call her unfit is just more ammo for your arsenal, and that suits you just fine. Who do you think you're kidding? You're not concerned that it might be traumatic for this boy, you're pleased that you have something else to use against his mother. Do you really think no one can see that?



That's exactly what you want to do.

People tend to get confrontational when you treat them like idiots who are expected to believe anything you say.

Well said. **applauds**

 

[BlissfulMommy]

Obviously you are presenting me as the "bad one". Oh well. Anyways - the mother of this child can do whatever she wants, I couldn't care less about her. I care about my boyfriend's son and that is why I will support him in whatever he sees fit in the present and future, without butting in or causing anyone any harm. I have never talked bad about his mother to or in front of my boyfriend's son. I know better than that. All I have done is hug him, told him that I care about him, respect him and that he is a great kid. That doesn't sound so bad to me and I doubt that I caused this child any harm. This child deserves to be happy and to be loved, does he not?

I was not aware that I was treating people like idiots, that was not my intention at all. I'm getting a little defensive if people call me "crazy" though and I'm sure that everyone else would too.

And Ohiogal,

YOU have no right to be butting you. YOU are NOTHING to this child. YOu are a third wheel interloper who needs to back off. You love your boyfriend's kids equally to your own? THEY ARE NOT YOURS! You are not even a stepparent. The injustice is you are trying to make mom a villian when in reality the villian in court will be seen as an overmeddling girlfriend of dad.

Have you ever loved another person or a child? You really should get over your overly-lawful attitude even though you are a lawyer and see the personal side of families instead of always riding on the "they are legally not your kids", "legally you are nothing to them" etc. attitude. You are right legally - maybe I'm nothing LEGALLY to this child, but I am a person he can talk to, a person he can turn to and who loves him. And there is NO LAW in the world who would prevent me from doing so. Me a villian? Give me a break!

 

[jbowman]

You have stated over and over again that mom spends no time with this child, cares nothing for him etc etc. But SHE is taking the time to get him to a psychologist. She cares for him on a daily basis.

You harp over and over again about how she sleeps with other guys. Who cares? Seriously, that is none of your beez wax. There is nothing illegal about it.

Is the child malnurished? Is he bruised? Nothing you have stated alarms anyone of abuse. It is different parenting styles--thats all. You are trying to stir up trouble and since your mind is closed to the idea that you are doing this, the end result is going to hurt this child.

As far as this:

Why don't you believe that a father can be a better parent than a mother who doesn't put her children first?

I dont believe there is ONE person on this board that feels this way. But I dont think there is ONE person on this board that believes that your "boyfriend" can do a better job than mom. You have nothing solid to base this on aside from your obvious vindictiveness and bitterness towards her.

And as far as being 'SO EMOTIONAL", you need to stop with that. Its old and moldy and is really getting you no where. Its a bad excuse.

 

[Ohiogal]

Obviously you are presenting me as the "bad one". Oh well.

Actually you are painting that portrait of yourself the more you post. Every post you make is geared towards tearing apart the mother of your boyfriend's kids and/or the stbx of your boyfriend. It is always their fault for EVERYTHING. you are a blessed saint that does no wrong. That is how you try to portray yourself. However the more you martyr yourself and him the more the two of you will end up being the villians.

Anyways - the mother of this child can do whatever she wants, I couldn't care less about her. I care about my boyfriend's son and that is why I will support him in whatever he sees fit in the present and future, without butting in or causing anyone any harm.

Your posts are showing you butting in. You are constantly questioning EVERYTHING mom does. Mom gets therapy for boy -- that is wrong. if she did not do that and you thought she should -- she would be wrong. We get it! You are the superior one here. You are the one who knows exactly how all children should be raised. You are the one who knows how EVERYONE should act and therefore mom can do no right. We get it.

I have never talked bad about his mother to or in front of my boyfriend's son. I know better than that. All I have done is hug him, told him that I care about him, respect him and that he is a great kid. That doesn't sound so bad to me and I doubt that I caused this child any harm. This child deserves to be happy and to be loved, does he not?

Yes but he also deserves to have a relationship with his mom and his dad without you being a third wheel and involving yourself in ways to get him away from his mother.

I was not aware that I was treating people like idiots, that was not my intention at all. I'm getting a little defensive if people call me "crazy" though and I'm sure that everyone else would too.

Have you read all of your posts?

And Ohiogal,

YOU have no right to be butting you. YOU are NOTHING to this child. YOu are a third wheel interloper who needs to back off. You love your boyfriend's kids equally to your own? THEY ARE NOT YOURS! You are not even a stepparent. The injustice is you are trying to make mom a villian when in reality the villian in court will be seen as an overmeddling girlfriend of dad.

Have you ever loved another person or a child? You really should get over your overly-lawful attitude even though you are a lawyer and see the personal side of families instead of always riding on the "they are legally not your kids", "legally you are nothing to them" etc. attitude.

THIS is not drphil.com or oprah.com. FEELINGS are not what this site is about. You should know that by now.

You are right legally - maybe I'm nothing LEGALLY to this child, but I am a person he can talk to, a person he can turn to and who loves him.

And legally is the only thing that matters on this site.

And there is NO LAW in the world who would prevent me from doing so. Me a villian? Give me a break!

Actually there is. If mom can prove that you are in any way trying to come between her and her son, she can get a judge to limit her son's contact with you. She could also get a restraining order against you if you continue attempting to subvert her or involving yourself or trying to get the son to call CPS. There are laws against that by the way. There are MANY laws that can prevent you from being around this child.

 

[Ohiogal]

You harp over and over again about how she sleeps with other guys. Who cares? Seriously, that is none of your beez wax.
.

Especially since she is sleeping with a married man and an adulterer herself. Hypocritical much?

 

[BlissfulMommy]

Especially since she is sleeping with a married man and an adulterer herself. Hypocritical much?

My boyfriend's dissolution of marriage was finalized on 6/17/07, mine was finalized on 6/25/07. Legally we are not commiting adultery By the way, Florida does not recognize adultery as grounds for divorce, but I'm sure you already knew that. Well, maybe you didn't.

 

[jbowman]

My boyfriend's dissolution of marriage was finalized on 6/17/07, mine was finalized on 6/25/07. Legally we are not commiting adultery By the way, Florida does not recognize adultery as grounds for divorce, but I'm sure you already knew that. Well, maybe you didn't.

Well hmmmm, two weeks ago you were.... But that doesnt matter, right?-- Now its in the past, right?

But it matters that your boyfriends son stayed alone and babysat 3 years ago!!

Is that a double standard?

 

[Ohiogal]

My boyfriend's dissolution of marriage was finalized on 6/17/07, mine was finalized on 6/25/07. Legally we are not commiting adultery By the way, Florida does not recognize adultery as grounds for divorce, but I'm sure you already knew that. Well, maybe you didn't.

The ground that a marriage is irretrievably broken can very well encompass adultery. Oh and if you read this site http://www.divorcenet.com/states/florida/fl_art05
you will find that adultery matters. And yes legally what you were doing at the time WAS adultery. You are not now but were then.
Oh and by the way I am sure you know that adultery is a crime in Florida:
The 2006 Florida Statutes

Title XLVI
CRIMES Chapter 798
ADULTERY; COHABITATION

798.01 Living in open adultery.--Whoever lives in an open state of adultery shall be guilty of a misdemeanor of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082 or s. 775.083. Where either of the parties living in an open state of adultery is married, both parties so living shall be deemed to be guilty of the offense provided for in this section.

History.--s. 1, ch. 1986, 1874; RS 2595; GS 3518; RGS 5406; CGL 7549; s. 772, ch. 71-136.


Up to $500 Fine &/or 60 days in Jail
The Statute of LImitations IS NOT UP by the way. It may not be grounds for divorce but it is a crime. Make trouble for mom in Ohio and I am sure she can push the issue that her boyfriend was committing a crime for much of the last few years. And that will not help matters for your boyfriend to get custody in Ohio.

 

[BlissfulMommy]

Well hmmmm, two weeks ago you were.... But that doesnt matter, right?-- Now its in the past, right?

But it matters that your boyfriends son stayed alone and babysat 3 years ago!!

Is that a double standard?

There's nothing anyone can do about something that happened 3 years ago, we all know that. I was stating a fact that she had her - back then - 10 year old son babysitting his 8 year old sister. Back then something could have been done about it. It's too late now. And our divorces are in the past as well. The past is the past. No double standard there.

 

[Ohiogal]

There's nothing anyone can do about something that happened 3 years ago, we all know that. I was stating a fact that she had her - back then - 10 year old son babysitting his 8 year old sister. Back then something could have been done about it. It's too late now. And our divorces are in the past as well. The past is the past. No double standard there.

Except you have been admitting your crime all over the internet -- and it is a crime in Florida -- and the SOL has not passed.Allowing a 10 year old to babysit an 8 year old is NOT a crime. Adultery in Florida is.

 

[BlissfulMommy]

It may not be grounds for divorce but it is a crime. Make trouble for mom in Ohio and I am sure she can push the issue that her boyfriend was committing a crime for much of the last few years. And that will not help matters for your boyfriend to get custody in Ohio.

As in all legal matters, she would have to prove that we were committing adultery in the past if she wanted to use it against my boyfriend. Right?!