What is the name of your state? VA/NC
A friend of mine is in a bad situation and I thought I would try to get him some answers and give him a hand.
He was in a relationship 3 or 4 years ago and the girlfriend was pregnant. He was an over the road truck driver and was gone for weeks at a time throughout the pregnancy. Near the end of the pregnancy, they split up and one day while he was on the road she called to tell him she had the baby. He checked all the hospitals in the area for her (asking for her by her name) and couldn't find her. She later called him and said that she had used an alias at the hospital and he would never see his child and not to look for them. He originally thought that something had happened to the baby or she had faked the whole thing (since he wasn't around much) but since realized that she had probably put the baby up for adoption.
Well she got into contact with a friend of his this week to try to get his attention and told the friend that she was going to NC to visit a son of hers that was adopted (they lived in NC when the child was born, and are now both in VA). She knew that the friend would get in touch with him and tell him what she said, and he did. So he called her and asked her about the baby and she told him to leave her alone and not to worry about it, and when he asked her if the child she was visiting was his, she didnt answer him.
Now my question is, is there any way for him to find this child now, after 3 years and after it has been adopted from birth. If what she says is the truth, then it must be an open adoption if she is able to visit the child now. If this child does exist, she kept it from him from the beginning and he never had a chance to even choose to be in its life. I know that he should have done something about this years ago, but she has always refused to give him any info about the situation. What can he do to find out if there is a child and if it is his?
Thanks for any help.
A friend of mine is in a bad situation and I thought I would try to get him some answers and give him a hand.
He was in a relationship 3 or 4 years ago and the girlfriend was pregnant. He was an over the road truck driver and was gone for weeks at a time throughout the pregnancy. Near the end of the pregnancy, they split up and one day while he was on the road she called to tell him she had the baby. He checked all the hospitals in the area for her (asking for her by her name) and couldn't find her. She later called him and said that she had used an alias at the hospital and he would never see his child and not to look for them. He originally thought that something had happened to the baby or she had faked the whole thing (since he wasn't around much) but since realized that she had probably put the baby up for adoption.
Well she got into contact with a friend of his this week to try to get his attention and told the friend that she was going to NC to visit a son of hers that was adopted (they lived in NC when the child was born, and are now both in VA). She knew that the friend would get in touch with him and tell him what she said, and he did. So he called her and asked her about the baby and she told him to leave her alone and not to worry about it, and when he asked her if the child she was visiting was his, she didnt answer him.
Now my question is, is there any way for him to find this child now, after 3 years and after it has been adopted from birth. If what she says is the truth, then it must be an open adoption if she is able to visit the child now. If this child does exist, she kept it from him from the beginning and he never had a chance to even choose to be in its life. I know that he should have done something about this years ago, but she has always refused to give him any info about the situation. What can he do to find out if there is a child and if it is his?
Thanks for any help.