custody again

[talezman]

I , out of kindness, allow my ex-wife, of which i do not like, pick up our daughter on my visitation times and take her to events that are both important to our daughter and events our duaghter couldn't care less about if she wasn't told were going on. FOR THE GOOD OF MY DAUGHTER. So my daughter can spend time with her other grandparents, so she can see Rugrats on ice ( and no I didn't buy a ticket, I didn't want to spend the day with my ex-wife ). See we got divorced because we didn't want to spend time with each other, why the hell would I want to now? I give my ex time with my daughter no matter who has court ordered time because I don't want my daughter to feel like she has to choose between a parent or special event. If she wants to do something I give up my time with her so she can enjoy those events. My ex feels that she needs to schedule events on my time to make sure she is not forgotten. In turn, I have simply ask for the same respect I have given her. And not for simple little events. So yes, I feel like the time I spend with my daughter is being interfered with. I have to answer the phone if my ex calls and I have our daughter, I have to let her speak to our daughter if she asks to, and I don't have to put up with "I just called to let you know mommy got her hair cut today". I have to deal with her at parent teacher meatings, I have to deal with her at the church christmas program, and I have to deal with her at cheerleading. But I'll be damned if you or any other hell bent mother looking to call all fathers worthless, will make me beleave that I have to intertain at my family picnic, or fathers day get together.

 

[Just Blue]

I , out of kindness, allow my ex-wife, of which i do not like, pick up our daughter on my visitation times and take her to events that are both important to our daughter and events our duaghter couldn't care less about if she wasn't told were going on. FOR THE GOOD OF MY DAUGHTER. So my daughter can spend time with her other grandparents, so she can see Rugrats on ice ( and no I didn't buy a ticket, I didn't want to spend the day with my ex-wife ). See we got divorced because we didn't want to spend time with each other, why the hell would I want to now? I give my ex time with my daughter no matter who has court ordered time because I don't want my daughter to feel like she has to choose between a parent or special event. If she wants to do something I give up my time with her so she can enjoy those events. My ex feels that she needs to schedule events on my time to make sure she is not forgotten. In turn, I have simply ask for the same respect I have given her. And not for simple little events. So yes, I feel like the time I spend with my daughter is being interfered with. I have to answer the phone if my ex calls and I have our daughter, I have to let her speak to our daughter if she asks to, and I don't have to put up with "I just called to let you know mommy got her hair cut today". I have to deal with her at parent teacher meatings, I have to deal with her at the church christmas program, and I have to deal with her at cheerleading. But I'll be damned if you or any other hell bent mother looking to call all fathers worthless, will make me beleave that I have to intertain at my family picnic, or fathers day get together. QUOTE]

Umm..You know that pitbull attorney you have been looking for?? That would be Ohiogal...

 

[JacobJoel]

and you just (rightfully) pissed her off...uhmm, i mean insulted her because i dare not presume to guess her emotional response.

you need to do a search on my 'eat crow' lecture, boychild w/little or no legal knowledge and even less humilty...

cuzz you done bought the farm.....

however, on a brighter note, if you are able to see the error of your ways AND correct yourself just as loudly and publically...there may be hope.

OG is a stellar lawyer, very busy and she doesn't have the time to make things sweet. this works in the favor of those who find this board useful because YOU SEE FIRST HAND HOW IT CAN GO IN COURT BEFORE YOU GET THERE.

and THAT is a hint. let's see if your brains are located in your butt or your brain.

EDITED TO ADD: OG took a great deal of time answering your posts. it is tedious work. you should thank her in your next post.

seriously

 

[Just Blue]

and you just (rightfully) pissed her off.

you need to do a search on my 'eat crow' lecture, boychild w/little or no legal knowledge and even less humilty...

cuzz you done bought the farm.....

however, on a brighter note, if you are able to see the error of your ways AND correct yourself just as loudly and publically...there may be hope.

OG is a stellar lawyer, very busy and she doesn't have the time to make things sweet. this works in the favor of those who find this board useful because YOU SEE FIRST HAND HOW IT CAN GO IN COURT BEFORE YOU GET THERE.

and THAT is a hint. let's see if your brains are located in your butt or your brain.

EDITED TO ADD: OG took a great deal of time answering your posts. it is tedious work. you should thank her in your next post.

seriously

She actually wasn't on tonight but I saw the Ohio thread and sent her a pm with the link...She came on just for this guy and he acted like a schmuck...

 

[JacobJoel]

re: But I'll be damned if you or any other hell bent mother looking to call all fathers worthless, will make me beleave that I have to intertain the bitch at my family picnic, or fathers day get together. Ride your broom on someone elses ass.

what church is it, exactly, that you attend?

i'm just asking.....cuzz i think you might be missing something here...

 

[CJane]

what church is it, exactly, that you attend?

i'm just asking.....cuzz i think you might be missing something here...

And THAT, friends and neighbors, coupled with my ex's attitude of self-righteous hypocrisy since he started attending church is exactly why I'm a heathen.

 

[Just Blue]

re: But I'll be damned if you or any other hell bent mother looking to call all fathers worthless, will make me beleave that I have to intertain the bitch at my family picnic, or fathers day get together. Ride your broom on someone elses ass.

what church is it, exactly, that you attend?

i'm just asking.....cuzz i think you might be missing something here...

He probably goes to one of those churches that is still stuck in the 19th century...You know ...Obey thy husband kinda crap...Outspoken women are stoned (as in rocks)...

 

[Bloopy]

I just LOVE church being used as custody/visitation arsenal…

 

[Ohiogal]

Let the games begin.

I , out of kindness, allow my ex-wife, of which i do not like, pick up our daughter on my visitation times and take her to events that are both important to our daughter and events our duaghter couldn't care less about if she wasn't told were going on. FOR THE GOOD OF MY DAUGHTER. So my daughter can spend time with her other grandparents, so she can see Rugrats on ice ( and no I didn't buy a ticket, I didn't want to spend the day with my ex-wife ).

Well that is good. You are doing what OHIO LAW requires and expects -- encouraging and facilitating a relationship with the other parent AND putting your child first. Your ex is doing that as well though in a different way than you. Doesn't mean either of you is better than the other.

See we got divorced because we didn't want to spend time with each other, why the hell would I want to now?

Doesn't matter what YOU want. You have a court order. Unless your court order states that you get to have your daughter whenever something important is going on -- at least what is important to you -- then your ex doesn't even have to let her go. SHE quite frankly is being the bigger person.

I give my ex time with my daughter no matter who has court ordered time because I don't want my daughter to feel like she has to choose between a parent or special event.

Bravo. That is sweet. But not something you HAVE to do.

If she wants to do something I give up my time with her so she can enjoy those events. My ex feels that she needs to schedule events on my time to make sure she is not forgotten.

Really? And who says you have to allow that? Oh yeah. NO ONE. You have a court order. You can also have a conversation with your ex about scheduling things on your time. Sometimes it happens. And sometimes you work it out somehow. But you are not proving your case. You are proving you are ignorant SOB who wants to dictate what his ex can do with his child on HER time.

In turn, I have simply ask for the same respect I have given her. And not for simple little events. So yes, I feel like the time I spend with my daughter is being interfered with.

And you can according to the time given to you in the court order.

I have to answer the phone if my ex calls and I have our daughter, I have to let her speak to our daughter if she asks to, and I don't have to put up with "I just called to let you know mommy got her hair cut today".

No you don't HAVE to answer the phone> What you have to do is allow reasonable phone contact or get hammered in court. And it doesn't matter WHAT mommy says to child. How the hell do you know? Have the conversation on speaker phone? Mommy has every right in the world to call her daughter. And you can call daughter when she is with Mommy.

I have to deal with her at parent teacher meatings,

That could be something to do with ORC -- which is the Ohio revised code which YOU do not get to change. Mom has every right to attend doctor's appointments, parent teacher conferences and school events. You bring that in to court and you will find that the judge will so slam you in to the ground you won't walk straight again.

I have to deal with her at the church christmas program, and I have to deal with her at cheerleading.

Yep.

But I'll be damned if you or any other hell bent mother looking to call all fathers worthless,

I never said that. I have never called all fathers worthless. hell i haven't even called you worthless. You do have a worthless gripe here however. And the name is ATTORNEY OHIOGAL to you bub. Get some fricking respect and understand who you are talking to. A hell bent mother? Nope. An attorney who gets damned good and tired of seeing children put through the wringer because the so-called adults in their life can't act like and instead do whatever they can to make life miserable for the other parent thus hurting the child they say they love.

will make me beleave that I have to intertain at my family picnic, or fathers day get together.

Dude the only broom in this picture is the one that apparently is up your ass so far it is rolling around in your skull -- and can we guess why there is room there for it to roll? The word by the way is "believe". And Father's Day is your holiday according to standard plans. Check your plan again and if you have something else then that is because YOU most have agreed to it so blame yourself. As for the family picnic if you don't want her there and it is her time with your child, then you have two choices: try mediation to give you and her both the right to have time with the child on specific yearly events (treat family reunions and what not as a holiday) or deal with the fact that daughter may very well miss it. Basic picnics, well hell if you want your daughter there, schedule them on your time.

Now if you want to fricking grow up and start acting like an adult -- which I am assuming that your chronological age leads people to believe (not proper spelling and use of that word) that you are -- then you will be able to comprehend the way the LAW in Ohio sees your complaints. Right now your child is benefitting and you are acting like a five year old. Nice. If I were you i would be thrilled that your daughter benefits but no. You are too stuck on the fact that ex spends her court ordered time with the child but also includes you and the fact that I am a female -- so you are proving yourself to be a misogynist and an ass. Because quite frankly if you had anything worth bitching about I would be the first to tell you.