Need legal advice, again

[nofaith]

What is the name of your state? New Jersey. Hi, i'm back again, and i need some advice again. I've just been told my wife that she's spoken to a Lawyer, and that i will know what is going on before the end of the year. She keeps me in the dark about most things. She was laid off from her job recently, and received a bit of money,(i think from a pension) and she filed for unemployment. All i know is she paid the rent in advance a couple of months and paid on the utilities, she brought a living room set and a kitchen table set. I've offered to help my wife, she wants me to pay rent like i'm a boarder or something. I won't do it, she says we're done. Says she does'nt see a light at the end of the tunnel for us. How could she if she never gave us a chance. Anyway, i'm ok with a divorce, i see there is nothing left for us. But right now i'm not prepared to move out, i can't afford an apartment yet. I don't ask my wife for anything, I'm trying to get ready to leave. What i need to know is, whenever i'm served with divorce papers, what can i do? And how long would i have to do it, before she can have me removed from the home. Can someone help me? Thank You.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? New Jersey. Hi, i'm back again, and i need some advice again. I've just been told my wife that she's spoken to a Lawyer, and that i will know what is going on before the end of the year. She keeps me in the dark about most things. She was laid off from her job recently, and received a bit of money,(i think from a pension) and she filed for unemployment. All i know is she paid the rent in advance a couple of months and paid on the utilities, she brought a living room set and a kitchen table set. I've offered to help my wife, she wants me to pay rent like i'm a boarder or something. I won't do it, she says we're done. Says she does'nt see a light at the end of the tunnel for us. How could she if she never gave us a chance. Anyway, i'm ok with a divorce, i see there is nothing left for us. But right now i'm not prepared to move out, i can't afford an apartment yet. I don't ask my wife for anything, I'm trying to get ready to leave. What i need to know is, whenever i'm served with divorce papers, what can i do? And how long would i have to do it, before she can have me removed from the home. Can someone help me? Thank You.

Dude, I have read your other thread, and I am not impressed.

Your wife has been paying the bills by herself and you have refused to contribute to the bills.

Now she is laid off and is insisting that you pay your fair share of the bills, and again you are refusing.

As part of the divorce proceedings she can ask the judge to give her sole temporary possession of the marital home, and that could happen in as little as 30 days.

 

[nofaith]

Get Glasses, Dude

Dude, I have read your other thread, and I am not impressed.

Your wife has been paying the bills by herself and you have refused to contribute to the bills.

Now she is laid off and is insisting that you pay your fair share of the bills, and again you are refusing.

As part of the divorce proceedings she can ask the judge to give her sole temporary possession of the marital home, and that could happen in as little as 30 days.

You have misread my thread, maybe you should look again. But anyway, i would never refuse to pay my way. I have provided most of the kid care at home with our kids, even when i'm working. When my wife decides to come home late i'm there with our kids, when she was out having a afair, i was home with our kids,evev now, that she's laid off, she leaves the house sometimes before 8am. And does'nt come home til 5 or 6pm. and noone can reach her most of the day. I've offered to help my wife on many ocations, and because it's not what she wants, she says no, or tells me it's nothing. But i do what i can with what i have. She can ask the judge for whatever she wants, my wife has had multible afairs, one whithend our first year of marrage. I'm only giulty of not making enough money in her eyes. And i could have done better,and i have tried. But she has made a joke out of our marrage from the start. Having some guy over her brothers house, where our kids were. Then sitting in his car for long periods of time when her cousin tells her she should not have him there.When she was doing those things, i was at work. And sometimes with our kids. And still i tried to keep our family together, i was a fool, but not anymore. I'm doing what's right for me and my girls. PS. when i said i won't pay rent, i meant not the way she wants me too, i will pay my share, and i have. But she will just take the extra money she and go drinking with her friends. We agreed that i would give her 500.00 a month, but when i got my money, it was only 300.00, i gave her 200.00. Now i have a better job but she does'nt want my money, so i will save up to move. And still do for my girls.