What is my obligation?

[CJane]

What is the name of your state? MO

Stupidhead's Bday is coming up next week and he's supposed to have the kids from 9am-9pm 'except any portion of that day the children would be in school'. So basically, from after school until 9pm.

Last year, he chose not to have them because he was going to be out of town with his wife. Fine. No big.

This year, I've heard nothing. His Bday is on my day (Tuesday).

Our order further says that the parent who is beginning their parenting time is to pick the kids up. So it's not my job to deliver the kids to him on Tuesday after school, it's his job to pick them up, yes?

My question really, is this...

If he doesn't call the school and make arrangements to have the bus drop them at his house instead of the baby-sitter's house, so that they're at the sitter when I get there to pick up Twain - is it ok that I bring them home with me?

Is his failure to make proper arrangements (assuming that he does fail to make them) the same as forfeiting his visitation?

 

[profmum]

What is the name of your state? MO


My question really, is this...

If he doesn't call the school and make arrangements to have the bus drop them at his house instead of the baby-sitter's house, so that they're at the sitter when I get there to pick up Twain - is it ok that I bring them home with me?

Is his failure to make proper arrangements (assuming that he does fail to make them) the same as forfeiting his visitation?

Yes.. if you don't hear otherwise, you pick them up as usual, it is his responsibility to communicate his desire to have the kids on his birthday.

 

[CourtClerk]

How much time is needed to make alternate arrangements with the bus (drop the baby off at dad's house instead of babysitter's house?)

 

[blacklove]

What is the name of your state? MO

Stupidhead's Bday is coming up next week and he's supposed to have the kids from 9am-9pm 'except any portion of that day the children would be in school'. So basically, from after school until 9pm.

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Any reason you refer to your ex and father of your children by that name? Especially as you advised me not to do the same? Just curious?

 

[CJane]

Shut up Kelly.

CJane... if Stupidhead has made no mention of what is to happen on Tuesday, I say you should have the bus drop him off at the babysitter's house?

How much time is needed to make alternate arrangements with the bus (drop the baby off at dad's house instead of babysitter's house?)

Not the baby - the girls.

He can call the school and make arrangements for the kids to be dropped at his house as they are every Wed and Thurs and e/o Fri. Just like I did to have them on last Wed for my halloween holiday.

 

[CJane]

Any reason you refer to your ex and father of your children by that name? Especially as you advised me not to do the same? Just curious?

I believe that I advised you to watch yourself very carefully so that your attitude towards your ex did not become apparent to the courts. Mine does not. I think that he is an absolute nutcase, but I have still proven to the court time and again that I will do everything in my power to facilitate his relationship with the children we share.

Besides... I'm 99.99% certain that the judge would agree with me that my ex is a stupidhead. And that my son's father is an asshat.

 

[CJane]

thats a real nice way to talk about the man YOU chose to be your childrens' father

Now come on... I show him and his wife EVERY BIT of the respect they've earned.

And yes, I did choose him to father my children. I chose him to be my husband for 10 years as well. And, I chose to divorce him. I chose to remain friends with him post divorce as well.

HE chose to become a lunatic.

 

[fairisfair]

What is the name of your state? MO

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Any reason you refer to your ex and father of your children by that name? Especially as you advised me not to do the same? Just curious?

Because that IS his name. We know. We named him. Now BACK OFF newbie.

 

[blacklove]

Because that IS his name. We know. We named him. Now BACK OFF newbie.

Oooooohhhhhh Cyber bullying!!!! Damn, get a life!!!!

 

[CourtClerk]

someone is angry because we stopped answering her questions.....

tell you what newbie... why don't you let us deal with cjane? You... go deal with your abandonment (or lack thereof) issues.

 

[blacklove]

someone is angry because we stopped answering her questions.....

tell you what newbie... why don't you let us deal with cjane?

You... go deal with your abandonment

(or lack thereof) issues.

This is still a public forum, correct? What was it you said earlier about freedom, yadda, yadda, yadda?


Nahhhh, I'm not angry...but I do find you all somewhat comical at how empowered you must feel digging through personal issues of human's, giving your own opinions, judging people, and oh yes, being down right royal bitter biatches! (spelling, intentionally altered).

 

[milspecgirl]

you are helping in this how??????

Cjane- Have you thought of calling and asking him? If not, I would just do your normal thing and leave it up to him

 

[blacklove]

you are helping in this how??????

Cjane- Have you thought of calling and asking him? If not, I would just do your normal thing and leave it up to him

You are right in this instance, my sarcasim is not helping, but, this is just a smalllllllll taste of the way Senior Members usually respond to others, with their sarcasim, attitude, etc. Not such a good place, hmmmmm.

 

[blacklove]

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if you want him to show you respect( which i hope you do) you need to show him the same respect. he is your kids father. you need to grow up and stop the immature name calling.

and i really hope youre not saying things like that in front of your kids. if it ever goes to court, expect the judge to rip you up one side and down the other.

Didn't you know, that rule is for everyone else.... It does not apply to the senior members on this board that volunteer their time

you could even end up being stripped of custody because of your bad mouthing dad. watch what you say, especially in front of your kids, cuz sooner or later, it could get back to dad. then you may have problems

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On no, she's got that under control, it only comes through in cyber space, not in the court room or in front of the kids..... yep, she's got that in check!

 

[Bloopy]

I consider myself a “newbie” insofar as I have nothing legal to add to any discussion despite my aging join date… I lurk, I summarize, I write Halmark cards- The difference Newbies IS that CJane IS a Senior, who’s been at this a long time and has proven over and over she has the best interests of her children. She has been warned about her pet names too.

So the significant players in her life have pseudonyms, some affectionate D’Man, Twain, Wild, Unruly… Others, well they ‘aint affectionate. That bit o’ humor serves to blow a bit of steam in cyber-land as serious issues arise.

She may not be doing the Right Thing with her disdainful nicknames but she can do Smart Thing and not let it spill in front of the children or in front of the judge. If not, she’ll get what’s coming to her.

That is simply what new posters are warned about.


PS: Are Blacklove and Milspecgirl the same person?