Another man wins a DV case

[SingleAZdad]

What is the name of your state? Arizona

After listening to the judge find men guilty of DV for about 2 hours, my case was finally heard.

Unlike all my predacessors, I came to court with a private attorney. It took about 2-3 hours of grilling, but the truth came out.

The judge dismissed all charges and STBX broke into tears while I did the wave with my supporters outside the courtroom.

A key part of the defense were recorded telephone conversations with STBX.

I hope all men wrongfully accused have the means to hire an attorney. Everyone in the courtroom today that didn't have one was found guilty of something.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? Arizona

After listening to the judge find men guilty of DV for about 2 hours, my case was finally heard.

Unlike all my predacessors, I came to court with a private attorney. It took about 2-3 hours of grilling, but the truth came out.

The judge dismissed all charges and STBX broke into tears while I did the wave with my supporters outside the courtroom.

A key part of the defense were recorded telephone conversations with STBX.

I hope all men wrongfully accused have the means to hire an attorney. Everyone in the courtroom today that didn't have one was found guilty of something.

I am really happy for you. However you should not assume that all of the people present were not guilty and only got convicted because they did not have a private attorney. As OG has pointed out so eloquently, legal aid/public defenders do their best for their clients as well.

 

[SingleAZdad]

I agree that the public defenders were doing their best. The stack of file folders on her desk has very high. When a defendent's name was called, she was still in the process of reading their file most of the time.

 

[FinallyHappy]

What does STBX stand for? I hope you feel victorious that you hit a woman and got away with it, just because your charges were dropped doesnt mean that devil inside you goes away.

 

[SingleAZdad]

FinallyHappy -

Soon To Be X (STBX)

So you know, the content of the recordings were her admission that I had never laid a finger on her. I have never in >10 years marriage touched her.

The case was dismissed because I didn't do anything.

But, the reason men are so scared of DV is because of people exactly like YOU. They ASSume every man is guilty. You should be ashamed of yourself.

Append:
Not really FinallyHappy is your name. I read your posts. You are the angry vindictive woman that all men fear. Your future BF should run away. You're crazy. You feel entitled because you are a woman. I feel sorry for those that cross your path. Watch out all men of CA, FinallyHappy is out there and you could be next.

 

[jaquin]

ONe Nasty Mama

I won, like you, because I had a video tape of the STBX actaully hitting me. FinallyHappy was also upset about it.

The hidden video camera which I got from eBay not only saved me from possible jail time, but also from court fees, criminal record, humiliation, etc. etc. etc.

That video actually turned the table around, because prior to the recorded event, by STBX had a PO on me, which sh obtained by filing false charges.

The judge was so kind to vacate her PO, and state reason: Wife used PO to hit husband without fear of prosecution. FinallyHappy was unhappy with the news -- made an a## of herself again.

Also, like your case, I got a private attorney, she was one nasty mama.

 

[FinallyHappy]

I never assumed anything, but by your post of you bragging how you did the wave outside the courtroom, proves your unprofesional demeanor. I really feel that there is no "winning" in these domestic violence cases. So tell us, how did you prove that you didn't abuse her? Yes, there are women out there who lie to get their way and no I am not one of them. And I've been re-married for the three years so this proves how much you are aware of my life.

 

[FinallyHappy]

I am really happy for you. However you should not assume that all of the people present were not guilty and only got convicted because they did not have a private attorney. As OG has pointed out so eloquently, legal aid/public defenders do their best for their clients as well.

Speaking of ASSume, please practice what you preach.

 

[Ohiogal]

I never assumed anything, but by your post of you bragging how you did the wave outside the courtroom, proves your unprofesional demeanor. I really feel that there is no "winning" in these domestic violence cases. So tell us, how did you prove that you didn't abuse her? Yes, there are women out there who lie to get their way and no I am not one of them. And I've been re-married for the three years so this proves how much you are aware of my life.

You are wrong. he didn't have to prove that he didn't abuse her. She had to prove that he did. A little thing called "innocent until proven guilty". Unprofessional? He is not an attorney. Why shouldn't he be happy that he was not found guilty of something he did not do?

 

[Ohiogal]

Speaking of ASSume, please practice what you preach.

Where did Ld assume anything about you? Oh yeah. She didn't. So therefore you are criticizing her for nothing. Your credibility and likeability is quickly becoming nil.

 

[SingleAZdad]

... no "winning" in these domestic violence cases. So tell us, how did you prove that you didn't abuse her?

FH: there is no winning as you put it. My kids haven't seen their mother for 6 months now. She has court supervised visitation and won't take advantage of her time. Due to her accusations of DV, I refuse to be in the same room with that woman in order to act as the supervisor. Our kids' pay the price. I don't want to be a single parent and I don't want my kids to grow up without their mother, but she created this situation and now the boys are paying the price.

As for proof, I didn't provide it, she did via recorded phone conversation where she said straight out that I have never harmed her and that she would lie to the police. I didn't even take the stand. No need.

I didn't do anything and yes, I was celebrating outside the courtroom. I was ecstatic that my life was returned to me. It cost me $15k, but it was well worth it. Until you are wrongfully accused, you just won't understand. You show little compassion and a myopic view the world.

 

[FinallyHappy]

I don't find that funny that he did the wave outside a courtroom, it's not appropriate. That's MY opinion, and I am entitled to MY opinion. It's like, what are you trying to prove?? He probably has money and can afford a good lawyer, I hate to say it but people who have an expensive attorney that ahve an eye for detail will most likely have their clients skate out of a courtoom. And yes you must maintain a professional behavior while your in a courtroom, regardless if you're an attorney or not! So it's appropriate to behave like a degenrrate infront of a judge?? And FYI I had court yesterday, my ex was placed on probation and mandated to completee a 52 week anger management program. I guess I am still a vindictive female looking to get all men right? LMAO!

 

[FinallyHappy]

FH: there is no winning as you put it. My kids haven't seen their mother for 6 months now. She has court supervised visitation and won't take advantage of her time. Due to her accusations of DV, I refuse to be in the same room with that woman in order to act as the supervisor. Our kids' pay the price. I don't want to be a single parent and I don't want my kids to grow up without their mother, but she created this situation and now the boys are paying the price.

As for proof, I didn't provide it, she did via recorded phone conversation where she said straight out that I have never harmed her and that she would lie to the police. I didn't even take the stand. No need.

I didn't do anything and yes, I was celebrating outside the courtroom. I was ecstatic that my life was returned to me. It cost me $15k, but it was well worth it. Until you are wrongfully accused, you just won't understand. You show little compassion and a myopic view the world.

Well you did not explain that, it came across that you that you were celebrating that you got away with abusing your spouse. But if she is an unfit mother, I understand your concerns.

 

[mommyof4]

He didn't celebrate because he got away with abusing this woman. He was celebrating because justice was served AS IT IS SUPPOSED TO BE. He didn't celebrate INSIDE the courtroom. If you reread, you will see that he managed to hold his joy inside until he was outside. Last I checked, there is nothing unseemly about showing joy, relief, and vindication when you are cleared of false charges, ESPECIALLY when the accuser is stupid enough to provide the evidence that she is a liar. Let you in on a little secret, when my ex tried to lie about me in court and gave the judge the evidence that proved that he was lying (and I do mean that the moron's atty handed the evidence to the judge HIMSELF) my atty and I shared a little giggle right there in the court room. Even the judge had a little smirk on his face.

You know, I read his first post and no further explanation was needed. It was pretty clear from the beginning. Perhaps your bitterness and agenda is blinding you a bit.

Where did he say she was an unfit mother? He SAID that the mother was not taking advantage of the time she has been granted to visit with the children and HE refuses to put himself into a situation that could possibly lead to more problems. We may all think that she sucks as a mother, but that does not mean that she is legally unfit. Big difference there.

Bitterness is not becoming.

Single, I'm glad to hear that it worked out for you. Good luck with your kiddos. Hopefully, one day she will grow the heck up. Don't hold your breath, though.

 

[FinallyHappy]

If you don't mind me asking what did his attorney hand over the judge that proved his guillt? And were you being charged with DV charges or vice versa? I really hate to disappoint you but I'm not bitter at all, I just know for a fact that some of these guys get away with beating atheir wife or girlfriend becasue they hire a good lawyer and are able to make it seem like the woman is crzy or asked for this abuse. In all reality if you a hire a good lawyer they can pretty much get you out of ANYTHING and we all know that. This is the way our system works.