desternies
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Connecticut
Hello all and let me preface by saying thank you for taking time to read and respond.
on Wed at aprox 8p I was finishing up a bath for my oldest child (3yrs) and had just put my youngest to bed(1.5yrs). An officer knocked on my door and asked to speak with my younger sister who lives with me and my family. He was rude from the moment i opened the door. he demanded to know where she was and when i stated that i didnt know he called me a liar.
he insisted that she was here and that he needed to speak with her. so i told him again that i didnt know where she was and that i would call him for her and let him speak to her. I closed the door, and dialed my sister. She answeres and i tell her that there is an officer here and that he needs to speak with her**************.she then informs me of a warrant she has for breach of peace. but that she had spoken with an officer and was going to turn herself in the next am. i hand him the phone and again close the door. I can hear him yelling and swearing at her...." i know your in that f***ing house" ect. at this point my 3yo is getting upset at the strange man on her porch yelling, its causing a scene and i have neighbors that can hear him for sure. I open the door to ask him to stop yelling and swearing and before i can get the words out of my mouth he is handing me the phone and pushing past me into my home. i did not invite him in. i did not give him permission to enter. i did not in anyway shape or form make any gestures to enter. He begins running around my house yelling where is she, i know shes f***ing here, all the while stomping around, opening doors and searching my home, my child is getting very upset and begins to panic, crying and saying "stop yelling, thats fresh" "what are you doing?" ect. this is coming from my child and im asking him what he thinks hes doing**************he asked where the door to the 3rd floor is and i tell him in the dinning room. he begins to enter the closet and stop him because it is connected to my childrens room and i didnt want him to startle the baby. which at this point is a moot point the baby is up and crying now. He opens up the correct door and runs upstairs. Apparently my sister had come home as i was in the bathroom with the child in the tub, i didnt know that she was here.....its a large home. I realize that he was right and she was home and i ask my sister if she wants me to come upstairs. she says yes. i try to put my child on the couch so that i can go upstairs but she is all stired up. i can hear the officer yelling and swearing at my sister from the living room and i go upstairs to find the officer searching through her purse and her belongings "looking for her ID." He begins to yell at me calling me a liar and threating to arrest me for interfering, and having dcf come out and take my children since i wouldnt be home to supervise them. he cuffed my sister and led her down the stairs still yelling about arresting me and how shes not cooperating and swearing every other word. mid way down the stairs i told him that he needed to stop his yelling and swearing because he was freaking out my children. He toned it down a bit but continued to say im lucky he doesnt "pinch" me and im a liar ect. He led her out the door and hauled her to the station where she was released on a promise to appear and was home 45 min later. when talking about the incident with my sister i asked what she had said to him just before he pushed past me and she said that she told him she would meet him outside in a minute. she didnt say come inside, or anything to indicate that she was upstairs.
My question is what can we do to end harassment like this. It isnt the first time the officers have treated me like a criminal and spoke to me like im a dog, barking orders at me. My sister doesnt hang out with the best crowd but what she does is her business and doesnt mean that im involved in anyway in what she does with herself. Im sick of feeling harassed and demeaned by these people. what can i do? besides that was it legal for him to enter my home?
thanks in advance for any info that you can provide
Hello all and let me preface by saying thank you for taking time to read and respond.
on Wed at aprox 8p I was finishing up a bath for my oldest child (3yrs) and had just put my youngest to bed(1.5yrs). An officer knocked on my door and asked to speak with my younger sister who lives with me and my family. He was rude from the moment i opened the door. he demanded to know where she was and when i stated that i didnt know he called me a liar.
he insisted that she was here and that he needed to speak with her. so i told him again that i didnt know where she was and that i would call him for her and let him speak to her. I closed the door, and dialed my sister. She answeres and i tell her that there is an officer here and that he needs to speak with her**************.she then informs me of a warrant she has for breach of peace. but that she had spoken with an officer and was going to turn herself in the next am. i hand him the phone and again close the door. I can hear him yelling and swearing at her...." i know your in that f***ing house" ect. at this point my 3yo is getting upset at the strange man on her porch yelling, its causing a scene and i have neighbors that can hear him for sure. I open the door to ask him to stop yelling and swearing and before i can get the words out of my mouth he is handing me the phone and pushing past me into my home. i did not invite him in. i did not give him permission to enter. i did not in anyway shape or form make any gestures to enter. He begins running around my house yelling where is she, i know shes f***ing here, all the while stomping around, opening doors and searching my home, my child is getting very upset and begins to panic, crying and saying "stop yelling, thats fresh" "what are you doing?" ect. this is coming from my child and im asking him what he thinks hes doing**************he asked where the door to the 3rd floor is and i tell him in the dinning room. he begins to enter the closet and stop him because it is connected to my childrens room and i didnt want him to startle the baby. which at this point is a moot point the baby is up and crying now. He opens up the correct door and runs upstairs. Apparently my sister had come home as i was in the bathroom with the child in the tub, i didnt know that she was here.....its a large home. I realize that he was right and she was home and i ask my sister if she wants me to come upstairs. she says yes. i try to put my child on the couch so that i can go upstairs but she is all stired up. i can hear the officer yelling and swearing at my sister from the living room and i go upstairs to find the officer searching through her purse and her belongings "looking for her ID." He begins to yell at me calling me a liar and threating to arrest me for interfering, and having dcf come out and take my children since i wouldnt be home to supervise them. he cuffed my sister and led her down the stairs still yelling about arresting me and how shes not cooperating and swearing every other word. mid way down the stairs i told him that he needed to stop his yelling and swearing because he was freaking out my children. He toned it down a bit but continued to say im lucky he doesnt "pinch" me and im a liar ect. He led her out the door and hauled her to the station where she was released on a promise to appear and was home 45 min later. when talking about the incident with my sister i asked what she had said to him just before he pushed past me and she said that she told him she would meet him outside in a minute. she didnt say come inside, or anything to indicate that she was upstairs.
My question is what can we do to end harassment like this. It isnt the first time the officers have treated me like a criminal and spoke to me like im a dog, barking orders at me. My sister doesnt hang out with the best crowd but what she does is her business and doesnt mean that im involved in anyway in what she does with herself. Im sick of feeling harassed and demeaned by these people. what can i do? besides that was it legal for him to enter my home?
thanks in advance for any info that you can provide