What is the name of your state? AZ
Ok, yes I am the girlfriend but other than researching options for my bf, I am not involved in the custody issues, I have not been involved and will not be involved. I have 2 kids of my own that I have custody of and happen to have a GREAT relationship with my ex, so this experience is new to me and we need some help...
My bf has an 11 year old son from a previous marriage. They have been divorced for 2 years. They have joint custody but she is the custodial parent. My bf wants to attempt to get sole custody based on the following:
- Ex has made medial decisions without his knowledge and has attempted to conceal information regarding meds (Ritalin). Son's previous phychiatrist took son off meds so she went to another without bf's consent and got the script anyway. BF found out from son's teacher which means he wasn't taking meds as prescribed either cause he didn't have them at our house.
- Although agreement says they share driving equally, during past 2 years, she has only picked up the son one time....JUST ONCE! She says its too emotionally painful so he has been doing all the driving.
- She is on meds herself for depression and ADHD (bad combo) and has attempted suicide twice during marriage, then got a DUI last year. She admits she is depressed and son tells bf about her constant crying and self destructive behaviors. Son feels very sorry for his Mom (understandably).
- She speaks to the son frequently negatively with regard to his Dad, me and anything related to that side of his life. An example - Son gave Mom an 8 x 10 professional pic for her birthday that he was very excited about....she opened it, cried and refused to put it up because it was gift wrapped by her "replacement," (that's me). He was very upset. She refers to us as "monied, " "rich" and "living in the house on the hill" in front of son and tells him to ask us for presents etc since we are rich. By the way, we are FAR from rich and live paycheck-to-paycheck but we don't discuss that with an 11 year old and feel its not appropriate.
- She does not include my bf in decisions at school...parent-teacher conferences etc. She says she will, but "forgets"
- Son spends 3 hours per day after school at grandparents (her parents) playing video games non-stop and is failing in school. The teacher has even told bf that he only seems to get homework done when in his care.
- Although he supposedly has "ADHD" he is fed junk food 24/7 and gets ice cream everyday at this grandparent's house because he wants it.
- Bf has become the disiplinarian and spend every evening son is with us locked in the bedroom trying to catch up on homework (needless to say, he doesn't enjoy his time with us).
Is my bf being too ambitious and picky or are these legitimate issues that a court would consider??? I know my opinions, but the fact of the matter is mine don't matter....so, i am asking for yours....all comments are much appreciated.
Ok, yes I am the girlfriend but other than researching options for my bf, I am not involved in the custody issues, I have not been involved and will not be involved. I have 2 kids of my own that I have custody of and happen to have a GREAT relationship with my ex, so this experience is new to me and we need some help...
My bf has an 11 year old son from a previous marriage. They have been divorced for 2 years. They have joint custody but she is the custodial parent. My bf wants to attempt to get sole custody based on the following:
- Ex has made medial decisions without his knowledge and has attempted to conceal information regarding meds (Ritalin). Son's previous phychiatrist took son off meds so she went to another without bf's consent and got the script anyway. BF found out from son's teacher which means he wasn't taking meds as prescribed either cause he didn't have them at our house.
- Although agreement says they share driving equally, during past 2 years, she has only picked up the son one time....JUST ONCE! She says its too emotionally painful so he has been doing all the driving.
- She is on meds herself for depression and ADHD (bad combo) and has attempted suicide twice during marriage, then got a DUI last year. She admits she is depressed and son tells bf about her constant crying and self destructive behaviors. Son feels very sorry for his Mom (understandably).
- She speaks to the son frequently negatively with regard to his Dad, me and anything related to that side of his life. An example - Son gave Mom an 8 x 10 professional pic for her birthday that he was very excited about....she opened it, cried and refused to put it up because it was gift wrapped by her "replacement," (that's me). He was very upset. She refers to us as "monied, " "rich" and "living in the house on the hill" in front of son and tells him to ask us for presents etc since we are rich. By the way, we are FAR from rich and live paycheck-to-paycheck but we don't discuss that with an 11 year old and feel its not appropriate.
- She does not include my bf in decisions at school...parent-teacher conferences etc. She says she will, but "forgets"
- Son spends 3 hours per day after school at grandparents (her parents) playing video games non-stop and is failing in school. The teacher has even told bf that he only seems to get homework done when in his care.
- Although he supposedly has "ADHD" he is fed junk food 24/7 and gets ice cream everyday at this grandparent's house because he wants it.
- Bf has become the disiplinarian and spend every evening son is with us locked in the bedroom trying to catch up on homework (needless to say, he doesn't enjoy his time with us).
Is my bf being too ambitious and picky or are these legitimate issues that a court would consider??? I know my opinions, but the fact of the matter is mine don't matter....so, i am asking for yours....all comments are much appreciated.