OnceUponATime
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Virginia
Father needs some advice please, tried to keep this brief. Mother/Father have joint custody with mother having primary. 14-year old daughter told father that she and mother had argument last week about failing grades, daughter used profanity and called mother a B, mother slapped daughter, daughter tried to run out the door, mother grabbed daughter’s arm and created a 4-finger bruise on the upper arm. Daughter informed school guidance counselor the next morning, who in turn reported it to social services. Social services interviewed daughter yesterday at school, showed bruise and said she wanted to live with dad. Case worker called and left message for mother at home. After mother heard message, another argument, mother told father to come get daughter.
When he arrived (45 minutes apart), mother informed father daughter was not going with father, her and daughter prepared a “constitution” that states the following: Daughter gets cell phone back, allowed to have friends and boyfriend over when mother not home (mother put daughter on the pill last month without father's knowledge), mother will treat daughter like she’s 17 and a half (not sure why that age was picked) and she can come and go as she pleases between mother and father, mother will not ride daughter about grades anymore…if she fails it’s daughter’s problem, daughter does not have to go to school tomorrow, but gets to go to school with mother (she’s an elementary school teacher) and daughter is failing 3 classes and has missed 8 days of school already. Father has issues with several of these items, particularly the schedule and school items, and is not sure if it was meant to quiet the daughter about the issue, or what. Father was planning on filing for temporary custody until the abuse issue is resolved with social services, regardless of what mom and daughter have agreed to. Is father overreacting? Is it a waste of time for him to file? Would the mother/daughter agreement have a bearing on the case at all?
Thank you for your help.
Father needs some advice please, tried to keep this brief. Mother/Father have joint custody with mother having primary. 14-year old daughter told father that she and mother had argument last week about failing grades, daughter used profanity and called mother a B, mother slapped daughter, daughter tried to run out the door, mother grabbed daughter’s arm and created a 4-finger bruise on the upper arm. Daughter informed school guidance counselor the next morning, who in turn reported it to social services. Social services interviewed daughter yesterday at school, showed bruise and said she wanted to live with dad. Case worker called and left message for mother at home. After mother heard message, another argument, mother told father to come get daughter.
When he arrived (45 minutes apart), mother informed father daughter was not going with father, her and daughter prepared a “constitution” that states the following: Daughter gets cell phone back, allowed to have friends and boyfriend over when mother not home (mother put daughter on the pill last month without father's knowledge), mother will treat daughter like she’s 17 and a half (not sure why that age was picked) and she can come and go as she pleases between mother and father, mother will not ride daughter about grades anymore…if she fails it’s daughter’s problem, daughter does not have to go to school tomorrow, but gets to go to school with mother (she’s an elementary school teacher) and daughter is failing 3 classes and has missed 8 days of school already. Father has issues with several of these items, particularly the schedule and school items, and is not sure if it was meant to quiet the daughter about the issue, or what. Father was planning on filing for temporary custody until the abuse issue is resolved with social services, regardless of what mom and daughter have agreed to. Is father overreacting? Is it a waste of time for him to file? Would the mother/daughter agreement have a bearing on the case at all?
Thank you for your help.
