Obtaining Legal Guardianship-Non Parent

[KAMIAKI1]

What is the name of your state? WA
My son's best friend who is 17 recently moved into our house. His mother agreed to let him move in with us. I tried to get her to sign an agreement to allow us to make medical and school decisions. She took the forms and it has been 3 weeks. She is now refusing to sign them and wants her son to move back home. The child has been neglected for the past 3 years. She expects him to provide for himself, food, clothes, ect. She even expects him to pay her rent.
What can I do to protect this child and keep him in our home? What are our legal rights? Is there anything I can do or do I have to make him move back home?

 

[tigger22472]

What is the name of your state? WA
My son's best friend who is 17 recently moved into our house. His mother agreed to let him move in with us. I tried to get her to sign an agreement to allow us to make medical and school decisions. She took the forms and it has been 3 weeks. She is now refusing to sign them and wants her son to move back home. The child has been neglected for the past 3 years. She expects him to provide for himself, food, clothes, ect. She even expects him to pay her rent.
What can I do to protect this child and keep him in our home? What are our legal rights? Is there anything I can do or do I have to make him move back home?

Child goes back to mom or you possibly face criminal charges. If the child is being neglected and there's proof of such you can make a call to CPS but know that you have no legal rights in the situation.

 

[Zephyr]

What is the name of your state? WA
My son's best friend who is 17 recently moved into our house. His mother agreed to let him move in with us. I tried to get her to sign an agreement to allow us to make medical and school decisions. She took the forms and it has been 3 weeks. She is now refusing to sign them and wants her son to move back home. The child has been neglected for the past 3 years. She expects him to provide for himself, food, clothes, ect. She even expects him to pay her rent.
What can I do to protect this child and keep him in our home? What are our legal rights? Is there anything I can do or do I have to make him move back home?

and what does she think will happen when he doesn't? is she going to evict him? or is she maybe trying to make a point and teach him what it is to be responsible and give him an idea of what bills needs to be paid

 

[KAMIAKI1]

I am not sure what her deal is. We have know this kid for the past 3 years. He basically spent the night every weekend. This summer he was here 24/7 and finally he told us that he was saving money up to go live with some relatives he didn't even know in another state.
He is a good kid. Very depressed about his home life. He has not celebrated his birthday or any other holiday with his family in 3 years. Yes his mom claims she is trying to teach him responsibility. But her claims and actions are hypocritical. The first time I met with her was a month ago when I ask her if she would agree to let her son move in with us. She told me she wanted no responsibility for him PERIOD. Then the following week we met again and she reversed it saying she didn't mean that. I then gave her just the papers to authorize school decisions and such.
The last few weeks she actually bought her kid lunch for his b-day! And cleared up some late fee's for him. I was impressed at the effort. Then today she took him to the alternative school for registration and flipped when our address was on file for him. I thought I was going to be the one to do the registration but I was waiting on her to sign the papers. So the mom and son got in a fight and she wants him back home since he can't treat her nicer.
She agreed to meet with me tonight and talk. I just don't want to get into trouble with the law but I want to help this good kid out. He ACED the GED but yet still wants a high school diploma. Living with her, he will loose that drive and be forced to work full time at her Sushi Bar with no pay. Frustrated but hopefull! Any advise. SORRY SO LONG!!!

 

[LdiJ]

Honestly, you have absolutely no legal "power" here. You have absolutely no standing to sue for custody or guardianship, and there is a very real risk that mom could have you up on charges if you don't return the child to her.

If mom agrees that the child can stay with you, that is one thing, but otherwise, you cannot afford to fight mom.

I had custody of a teenage boy for a year when both of his parents were having problems. They both wanted him to be in my home (for different reasons). However, I insisted on custody and child support, which they agreed to do.....otherwise one of them had to take him....I was firm on that issue.

Also, you should be aware that legally mom can't kick him out of her home until he is 18. So she actually broke the law when she kicked him out.

 

[daddylonglegs]

you have no rights to a child thats not yours send him home

What is the name of your state? WA
My son's best friend who is 17 recently moved into our house. His mother agreed to let him move in with us. I tried to get her to sign an agreement to allow us to make medical and school decisions. She took the forms and it has been 3 weeks. She is now refusing to sign them and wants her son to move back home. The child has been neglected for the past 3 years. She expects him to provide for himself, food, clothes, ect. She even expects him to pay her rent.
What can I do to protect this child and keep him in our home? What are our legal rights? Is there anything I can do or do I have to make him move back home?

what you should do is send him home where he belongs,keep your nose out of other people's business, and stop trying to get rights to a kid thats not yours. when hes 18, he can live wherever he pleases, untill then, he lives with mom, she is his parent, and makes the decisons about HER child. if you dont send him home, you can face charges of interfering with parental custody. you have to send him home, neither of you have a choice.

 

[heart2020]

I have a problem which is just the opposite

Missouri

In October while allowed our 16 y/o step daughter to move in with her 19 y/o boyfriend and family. She had until the end of November to come up with the papers for emacipation and a way to pay for it. As of today she has done nothing. We want to know if there is anyway we can make her move back in with us. She wanted to move out because she was unable to do what she wanted when she wanted and her boyfriend could. Can we make her move back in with us legally our will we have to just leave her there.

 

[Zigner]

Missouri

In October while allowed our 16 y/o step daughter to move in with her 19 y/o boyfriend and family. She had until the end of November to come up with the papers for emacipation and a way to pay for it. As of today she has done nothing. We want to know if there is anyway we can make her move back in with us. She wanted to move out because she was unable to do what she wanted when she wanted and her boyfriend could. Can we make her move back in with us legally our will we have to just leave her there.

You should start your own thread with your question.