Childsupport and custody

[thedenzo]

What is the name of your state? NJ / NY

I've been currently going to court with my ex-wife for child custody and soon for child support. This entire experience is a nightmare. My question is, is there such a thing as being removed as a father from a child? Her and I both would like to part seprate ways giving her full control of the children and removing me from child support. It's sad to say I would like to be removed as the father but it's close to impossible dealing with her and her family which supports all her bad habits and decisions.

 

[Silverplum]

What is the name of your state? NJ / NY

I've been currently going to court with my ex-wife for child custody and soon for child support. This entire experience is a nightmare. My question is, is there such a thing as being removed as a father from a child? Her and I both would like to part seprate ways giving her full control of the children and removing me from child support. It's sad to say I would like to be removed as the father but it's close to impossible dealing with her and her family which supports all her bad habits and decisions.

What do YOU think?

Have you run a search on this site?

 

[thedenzo]

I heard I can give up my rights, but will i still be legally bound to the children in any other way?

 

[Silverplum]

I heard I can give up my rights,

From an attorney? Or from some bozo who "heard" something from someone?
You can give up your right to SEE your children.

but will i still be legally bound to the children in any other way?

What do YOU think?
Have you done a search on this site?

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

unless there is someone who has been married to your X for more than a year and is willing to adopt your children, NO, you are liable.

You do NOT have to visit with your children. You will be required to pay court ordered child support.

 

[Ohiogal]

unless there is someone who has been married to your X for more than a year and is willing to adopt your children, NO, you are liable.

You do NOT have to visit with your children. You will be required to pay court ordered child support.

Ginny I would like to clarify. You will be required to pay child support unless MOM also agrees that you do not have to pay and she is not now nor will ever in the future receive state aid to provide for the children that you helped create.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

OG - that's why I stated 'court ordered'. The court could order NO child support.

My X discovered that his 'reserved child support order' was changed when I lost my job and the children went on Medicaid. THAT was a change in circumstance; boy was he mad.

 

[thedenzo]

Ginny I would like to clarify. You will be required to pay child support unless MOM also agrees that you do not have to pay and she is not now nor will ever in the future receive state aid to provide for the children that you helped create.

So even If I give up my parental rights and she decides to go on welfare or medicaid which is what I think she will do, I will have to pay child support? She did agree to no take me to child support once I give up my parental rights.

 

[Silverplum]

So even If I give up my parental rights and she decides to go on welfare or medicaid which is what I think she will do, I will have to pay child support?

Ta-Da!
That's right.

She did agree to no take me to child support once I give up my parental rights.

Such a shame that you can't *agree* to do something ILLEGAL.

 

[stealth2]

Until she marries someone who is wiling to adopt your kids, you're responsible for helping support them. Period.

 

[stealth2]

So even If I give up my parental rights and she decides to go on welfare or medicaid which is what I think she will do, I will have to pay child support? She did agree to no take me to child support once I give up my parental rights.

Taxpayers are funny that way. They don't want to support your kids. Especially if you don't want to.

 

[Ohiogal]

So even If I give up my parental rights and she decides to go on welfare or medicaid which is what I think she will do, I will have to pay child support? She did agree to no take me to child support once I give up my parental rights.

YOu cannot just give up your parental rights with adoption taking place. You can't do it. All you can do is decide you are not going to exercise your rights. And why should everyone else support your kids when you are not? You have a legal responsibility to support your children. You chose to partake in the activity that resulted in them so you have to deal with the consequences.

 

[stealth2]

And why should everyone else support your kids when you are not?

This is what really peeves me. Here I sit - in NJ - looking at my state income and property taxes, supporting two kids myself (along with their father who does at least pull that weight). Why the freakin' heck should I also be expected to contribute to support this guy's kids? Just because he can't grow a pair to stand up to the person he had the kids with? Puhlease.

 

[thedenzo]

Thanks for the replies. I dont expect anyone else to take care of the kids, but she does not want to let me have a regular father and child relationship with them. The Ex is also saying im making her life misserable since I wanted to have joint child custody with them, she wants full. But I see that what she wants doesn't really matter, its whats best for the kids.

She says that I should not be allowed to have overnight stays with them since they are to small. They are 2 and 1 year olds. She will allow them to have overnights when they are five. Is there something wrong with that picture?

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

2 questions...

Did you ever live in the house with your kids?

How long since you've had any visitation with them?