IndyDad1on1
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What is the name of your state? Indiana
So long story short, my ex and I have 2 children both toddler ages (actually one is pre-school age now) . We separated and filed divorce in early 2006 and finalized the divorce in the mid part of this year. The divorce started out in court as a messy civil matter than after I had a sworn dep done on her. Her attorney then wanted mediation which we did.
My ex has always hated me for wanting the divorce and since separation has tried to make my life miserable (hasn't worked though). Before the preliminary, she filed a TPO, wanted $500 a week in supports, sole custody, blah blah. During preliminary, judge ordered $130 wk in support, temp joint legal, so on and so forth.
Since then she has withheld mid weeks, tried denying overnights, denied me x-mas last year, you know visitation interferences.
Mom also has major anger control problems (the courts are aware of this). She was in consulting at the time of separation but stop going a few months after and has not gone back since (court is mostly aware of this).
O.K. with that little background here is my problem. Last year my son during a visitation said to me "Daddy You hit me". I told him that wasn't a nice thing to say and that daddy didn't want to hear that anymore. Over a course of 2 months those same words were repeated so finally I asked him, "Honey where did you hear that?". He said "Mommy said, thats why I have bruises".
Then about 5 months ago he comes over and says "Your going to jail cause you hit mommy". This one I have recorded.
Now today we are in the car headed here and he says "Mom said she hates you".
My son has an excellent memory and retains a lot of information. I know most of the repeated sayings were probably from one occurrence.
How do I get this to stop. I do nothing but speak positively about there mother to them. All I want is mother to do the same. I also still have pictures up of her where the kids can see them.
Mom and I are on limited speaking conditions set by the court which I like personally so I can't address the issue with her. I also don't want to fire off an injunction either.
Any ideas?
So long story short, my ex and I have 2 children both toddler ages (actually one is pre-school age now) . We separated and filed divorce in early 2006 and finalized the divorce in the mid part of this year. The divorce started out in court as a messy civil matter than after I had a sworn dep done on her. Her attorney then wanted mediation which we did.
My ex has always hated me for wanting the divorce and since separation has tried to make my life miserable (hasn't worked though). Before the preliminary, she filed a TPO, wanted $500 a week in supports, sole custody, blah blah. During preliminary, judge ordered $130 wk in support, temp joint legal, so on and so forth.
Since then she has withheld mid weeks, tried denying overnights, denied me x-mas last year, you know visitation interferences.
Mom also has major anger control problems (the courts are aware of this). She was in consulting at the time of separation but stop going a few months after and has not gone back since (court is mostly aware of this).
O.K. with that little background here is my problem. Last year my son during a visitation said to me "Daddy You hit me". I told him that wasn't a nice thing to say and that daddy didn't want to hear that anymore. Over a course of 2 months those same words were repeated so finally I asked him, "Honey where did you hear that?". He said "Mommy said, thats why I have bruises".
Then about 5 months ago he comes over and says "Your going to jail cause you hit mommy". This one I have recorded.
Now today we are in the car headed here and he says "Mom said she hates you".
My son has an excellent memory and retains a lot of information. I know most of the repeated sayings were probably from one occurrence.
How do I get this to stop. I do nothing but speak positively about there mother to them. All I want is mother to do the same. I also still have pictures up of her where the kids can see them.
Mom and I are on limited speaking conditions set by the court which I like personally so I can't address the issue with her. I also don't want to fire off an injunction either.
Any ideas?
