What is the name of your state? PA
First off here's some background information to try and help you see the big picture....
Hello all! I am a mom of a wonderful 4 year old little boy. His father and I were never married and he left me well before my son was even born. When I was in the hospital he came to visit once and asked if we could try and work things out. I said I would definately try as long as he would stop drinking and get some help. Well, That lasted about 3 weeks. Every weekend he felt the need to party it up and drink with his friends. He always wanted me to tag along and if I refused it would start an arguement. Needless to say..He wasn't helping me raise our son and partying and living the lifestyle of a 21 yr old when he was 27 was much more important. I told him enough was enough.
He didn't financially or physically help support our son. I filed for child support and he filed for visitation rights soon after. It's now been 4 years. He constantly complains about the amount he pays in child support. Anyways to make a long, long story short. We presented my son's father with papers so he could terminate his parental rights and then ofcourse my husband would adopt our son. He didn't sign the papers at the hearing. My lawyer said if you change your mind give us a call. Last night my son's father calls me asking for the phone number of my lawyer. I asked him why would you like to call him. He said it's about those papers. Apparently, in the last hearing the support got raised not lowered.
If he signs off his parental rights....Can his parents file for granparent rights??? What happens if he signs off his rights and doesn't sign adoption papers allowing my husband to adopt our 4 year old??
I'm a firm believer that a child deserves both parents in their life. However, if I wouldn't have filed for child support he wouldn't have filed for visitation rights. He'll get our son 4 days a month if that. Rarely asks to have him at his scheduled holidays, and most of the time his girlfriend at the time spends most of the time caring for our 4 year old when he is with them.
Anyhow...Thank you so much for any advice you can offer!
First off here's some background information to try and help you see the big picture....
Hello all! I am a mom of a wonderful 4 year old little boy. His father and I were never married and he left me well before my son was even born. When I was in the hospital he came to visit once and asked if we could try and work things out. I said I would definately try as long as he would stop drinking and get some help. Well, That lasted about 3 weeks. Every weekend he felt the need to party it up and drink with his friends. He always wanted me to tag along and if I refused it would start an arguement. Needless to say..He wasn't helping me raise our son and partying and living the lifestyle of a 21 yr old when he was 27 was much more important. I told him enough was enough.
He didn't financially or physically help support our son. I filed for child support and he filed for visitation rights soon after. It's now been 4 years. He constantly complains about the amount he pays in child support. Anyways to make a long, long story short. We presented my son's father with papers so he could terminate his parental rights and then ofcourse my husband would adopt our son. He didn't sign the papers at the hearing. My lawyer said if you change your mind give us a call. Last night my son's father calls me asking for the phone number of my lawyer. I asked him why would you like to call him. He said it's about those papers. Apparently, in the last hearing the support got raised not lowered.
If he signs off his parental rights....Can his parents file for granparent rights??? What happens if he signs off his rights and doesn't sign adoption papers allowing my husband to adopt our 4 year old??
I'm a firm believer that a child deserves both parents in their life. However, if I wouldn't have filed for child support he wouldn't have filed for visitation rights. He'll get our son 4 days a month if that. Rarely asks to have him at his scheduled holidays, and most of the time his girlfriend at the time spends most of the time caring for our 4 year old when he is with them.
Anyhow...Thank you so much for any advice you can offer!