What is the name of your state? NH
Some of you may remember the situation I have going on at present. Just a brief update on what I have already posted about.
Dad and I went for a temp hearing back in Oct, the Master ordered child support and a limited visitation schedule to reintroduce them after a two year absence. The orders became official in Dec. During this hearing Dad said I was the cause of him not seeing the children, that I kept him away and pretty much did a poor me act in front of the Master.
Well, since we have gotten the orders, which basically was he was 'allowed' to see the children one weekend day a week, from 10am til 5pm, he hasn't bothered once. There has been no contact at all. He was also given some hours on Christmas day and New year's as well, and still nothing.
Because of the things he said in court, the Master thought it best to appoint a GAL to our case. I have met with her and she has met with the children and myself as well a few times since then. Needless to say, Dad has missed an appt he had scheduled and has only had two telephone conversations with her since. Mostly with excuses on why he didn't show up for his appt or even bothering to call to say he couldn't make it.
We have a follow-up date now set for March 26th. This was made after we went back to court in the beginning of Jan only to have it continued because the orders weren't sent out til very late after our first hearing. While we were there that time the Master did ask how the visitation was going and when he found out it wasn't, Dad had a bunch of lame excuses why.
My attorney now wants to modify the parenting plan and basically have it set up that if he wants to see the children, he has to call and set up a time and day. Basically leaving it in my hands if it can/will happen. Although I really hate how this has gone, I have to admit, I almost expected it, I think it might be for the best so the children aren't continuely disappointed when every weekend rolls by w/o a word from Dad.
The attorney is hopeful that the GAL will support this request based on the fact that she herself has said she can see that he just can't be bothered.
I'm unsure at this point how the court will react to something so drastic.
Is it a far stretch to think they would approve this even seeing how he has had an order in hand that says he can see them, regardless of what I say and he still hasn't ? I know the courts are all for keeping the relationship strong between the NCP and the children, but will they continue to make my children get their hopes up for someone who just can't be bothered to even call or visit them ??
Just wanted some opinions on what 'could' happen from here
thanks
Some of you may remember the situation I have going on at present. Just a brief update on what I have already posted about.
Dad and I went for a temp hearing back in Oct, the Master ordered child support and a limited visitation schedule to reintroduce them after a two year absence. The orders became official in Dec. During this hearing Dad said I was the cause of him not seeing the children, that I kept him away and pretty much did a poor me act in front of the Master.
Well, since we have gotten the orders, which basically was he was 'allowed' to see the children one weekend day a week, from 10am til 5pm, he hasn't bothered once. There has been no contact at all. He was also given some hours on Christmas day and New year's as well, and still nothing.
Because of the things he said in court, the Master thought it best to appoint a GAL to our case. I have met with her and she has met with the children and myself as well a few times since then. Needless to say, Dad has missed an appt he had scheduled and has only had two telephone conversations with her since. Mostly with excuses on why he didn't show up for his appt or even bothering to call to say he couldn't make it.
We have a follow-up date now set for March 26th. This was made after we went back to court in the beginning of Jan only to have it continued because the orders weren't sent out til very late after our first hearing. While we were there that time the Master did ask how the visitation was going and when he found out it wasn't, Dad had a bunch of lame excuses why.
My attorney now wants to modify the parenting plan and basically have it set up that if he wants to see the children, he has to call and set up a time and day. Basically leaving it in my hands if it can/will happen. Although I really hate how this has gone, I have to admit, I almost expected it, I think it might be for the best so the children aren't continuely disappointed when every weekend rolls by w/o a word from Dad.
The attorney is hopeful that the GAL will support this request based on the fact that she herself has said she can see that he just can't be bothered.
I'm unsure at this point how the court will react to something so drastic.
Is it a far stretch to think they would approve this even seeing how he has had an order in hand that says he can see them, regardless of what I say and he still hasn't ? I know the courts are all for keeping the relationship strong between the NCP and the children, but will they continue to make my children get their hopes up for someone who just can't be bothered to even call or visit them ??
Just wanted some opinions on what 'could' happen from here
thanks