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mommyof4

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yes but I was married to him at the time, that's the difference
Really? Why? Married persons don't create children with anyone other than their spouses? (spice, speece, spooses???:D)

Are you the moron who said you were an appendage hanging off of your husband?

You are a grade A idiot who needs someone to step in and take control of your brain and ovaries. You have NO business bringing another child into this hell you and your husband have created.
 


jbowman

Senior Member
This may or may not be appropriate but I would like to post the letter that the OP received from the mother of this child. She sounds like she knows her stuff and has her head on her shoulders. I truly feel sorry for her. OP posted this letter along with the question "Can I use this against her in court" or something along those lines.

Tajuana, Jovet's wife,

This is Kim, Elijah's mother! First of all Tajuana, at this point I really don't expect you to understand where I'm coming from because you're not a mother and because of your outlandish antics in times past by forcing your ENTITLEMENT as the WIFE in my face. So, I write you this email because there are some issues that need to be addressed before there is any form of progress between, you, your husband and I . I would have confronted you on this matter earlier, however, it was not the appropriate time to discuss the matter, as I just gave birth to my son when you and your husband were at my bedside unannounced and considering the fact that my anger up until now would have warranted an unhealthy situation between you and I.

I will address the issue of you showing up at the hospital the day I delivered my son requesting information about me (absolutely deplorable). Tajuana, it was in the best interest of you that we did not cross paths at that particular moment, as that would not have been wise. Curious, what were you planning to do? As a real women, you had no business looking for me to find out who I was, your search should have been toward your husband, as he had ANOTHER women pregnant PRIOR to marrying you. You see, I KNEW who my child's father were (which is your hubby), it was your hubby who RAN from responsibility ONCE I told him I was pregnant. He didn't just pick me off some pole in a strip joint, you get my drift?

He CHOSE to leave a pregnant women. He knew I was pregnant and DECIDED to ignore it. " I'm " NOT your problem in this situation. Your husband is the problem.

Yet another issue, showing up at my place of residence with your new hubby completely disrespecting me was an absolute NO, NO. I ALLOWED it only on the strength that Jovet (your hubby) parents were present in my home other wise that would have clearly been an unhealthy situation. This is NOT your battle to fight as this child is between your hubby and I. Your role is to just SUPPORT and LOVE your husband. LEGALLY, you have NOTHING to do with this, I laid with your hubby not YOU, get where I'm going with this (not your business) . If you don't believe me, take it to a Family Court and see what the end result would be for THIRD PARTIES overstepping their boundaries.

Tajuana, moving forward, I'm going to put this out there so that you get a clear understanding of the severity of my concerns regarding you, I will be around for a very long time weather I talk to your hubby or communication with your hubby is NIL regarding OUR son. You NEED to respect the fact that I'm your hubby child's MOTHER and I will respect the fact that YOU'RE Jovet's wife, nothing more, nothing less. So DON'T make the mistake of THINKING that you and hubby will BULLY me because your MARRIED. That wont hold water with me none what-so-ever. I'm not this quiet little girl who know no better because I'm "BITTER" OVER THE FACT THAT JOVET IS MARRIED TO YOU". Tajuana, he is now your headache to deal with but as a wise person, you might want to re-assess the situation at hand. You're a newlywed couple with a two month old child in the picture by another women, whom you knew nothing about until delivery day (assuming the way you showed up at the hospital on that day). That alone should convey your hubby's character (not spiritual at all) as I understand you two are heavily involved in church. Your hubby thought I would disappear once I told him I was pregnant, wrong, life is like a boomerang, so you can now rid yourself of all insecurities, it will be healthy and more spiritual for you.
 

Zephyr

Senior Member
I don't know how this OP got out of the hospital alive that day....to intrude that way on such a meaningful day to a mom....and to this day OP sees nothing wrong with what she did, had I been the mom in the bed...OP definitely would have gotten a bedpan to the head:rolleyes:
 
so that gave you the right to be there on her delivery day?
Well I'm his wife and I had a right to know and to support my husband...if you read the letter she sent me, she was the one who threatend me by saying it was in my best interest that we didnt cross paths while I was looking for her. I wasn't there to cause violence
 

Silverplum

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Well I'm his wife and I had a right to know and to support my husband...if you read the letter she sent me, she was the one who threatend me by saying it was in my best interest that we didnt cross paths while I was looking for her. I wasn't there to cause violence
Speaking of violence...

WHAT type of discipline, EXACTLY, were you planning to use on your infant stepchild?
 

jbowman

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Well I'm his wife and I had a right to know and to support my husband...if you read the letter she sent me, she was the one who threatend me by saying it was in my best interest that we didnt cross paths while I was looking for her. I wasn't there to cause violence
You are absolutely insane. I HOPE the new chick your hubby is screwing pops up on your delivery day.
 

Zephyr

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Well I'm his wife and I had a right to know and to support my husband...if you read the letter she sent me, she was the one who threatend me by saying it was in my best interest that we didnt cross paths while I was looking for her. I wasn't there to cause violence
You don't get it do you?!!?!?!? that was HER day- a special day, one day she will remember forever- it wasn't about YOU- you were nothing there, it wasn't even about your two timing hubby- it was all about her and that baby- and you intruded, you pushed your way in to get whatever acknowledgment you felt you were entitled to.....


really I hope she goes to the hospital when you give birth- because then YOU WILL GET IT!!!!

leave the poor woman alone already, tell your hubby not to talk about you to her, you shouldn''t talk to her, don't write to her NOTHING....if you can't trust your hubby enough to let him co-parent with her without you- then you should leave him
 
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Rushia

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Well I'm his wife and I had a right to know and to support my husband...if you read the letter she sent me, she was the one who threatend me by saying it was in my best interest that we didnt cross paths while I was looking for her. I wasn't there to cause violence
You are a nut! You had no business in the hospital, much less forcing your way into her room. You HAVE to be a troll, no person is this stupid. Bring that email to court, no judge is going to even look at her cross-eyed over that. Hopefully, you will be barred from ever having access to that poor child.

Honestly, discipline for a 2 month old**************:rolleyes:
 

mommyof4

Senior Member
Well I'm his wife and I had a right to know and to support my husband...if you read the letter she sent me, she was the one who threatend me by saying it was in my best interest that we didnt cross paths while I was looking for her. I wasn't there to cause violence
I don't consider that a threat. I call that a fair warning.

She's a whole lot nicer than I am. I would swing first and then verbally let you know my feelings about your deplorable and disgraceful behavior.

I promise, when I got done, there would be no question left in your mind about your standing in my child's life. None.
 

TinkerBelleLuvr

Senior Member
Well I'm his wife and I had a right to know and to support my husband...if you read the letter she sent me, she was the one who threatend me by saying it was in my best interest that we didnt cross paths while I was looking for her. I wasn't there to cause violence
When you are in the hospital having that baby, think about how YOU would feel if another WOMAN came in and intruded on your special times.

I'm not a person prone to violence, but I would have had you thrown out by security for even THINKING about being in that room.

That she tells you that you shouldn't cross paths says that she has NOT forgiven you and would probably have NOTHING nice to say to you.

You have NO rights to this child. I would love the child. I would protect the child from harm. I would take the lead from dad on how to discipline the child - but preferably, your husband should do ALL the parenting.

Keep your nose out of this for a long time.
 

Golfball

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Well I'm his wife and I had a right to know and to support my husband...
You still had no right to be there, no matter how much you assert it to the contrary. Your husband (since it was presumably his child) might have. You. Did. Not.

You are not biologically related to this child.

You are not legally related (by adoption) to this child.

You are not related to the mother of said child, by either biology or legal procedure.

You have no right to be there, unless the mother asked you to be. None. Nada. Zilch. Zip.



if you read the letter she sent me, she was the one who threatend me by saying it was in my best interest that we didnt cross paths while I was looking for her. I wasn't there to cause violence
So what? It's not a threat to say, "My heartburn flares up anytime you are within 50 feet of me, please stay away! And while we're on the subject, I'm not particularly fond of you, so please BUTT OUT."
 

Zephyr

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if you read the letter she sent me, she was the one who threatend me by saying it was in my best interest that we didnt cross paths while I was looking for her
this is like a trainwreck- I HAVE to ask again.....what were you thinking her sentiments on the situation would be......threatened violence...*snort* I still can't believe you walked out of there intact
 

stealth2

Under the Radar Member
People, please, let's be serious. If YOUR name was Tajuana, wouldn't YOU be bringing the crazy a bit, too?
 
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