photo conflict

[luckymom]

Is the other parent legally entitled to copies of professional photographs a parent had taken? These are not school pictures or the like, but studio portraits that were privately commissioned by one parent.

This is admittedly not a life or death matter, but I would appreciate imput.

 

[CourtClerk]

Legally entitled??? Not at all.

Would it be nice? Sure

 

[luckymom]

Thanks for the fast response. Problem is that ex wants access to the photos but doesn't want to pay to order his own copies

 

[CourtClerk]

So be a grown up and give him 1.

That... or be really immature and tell him no. It's a picture for God's sake. Are you really going to make him pay for a picture of his (presumably) own child??? Are there people on this earth that actually think that you should ask for payment for 1 picture?

 

[TheGeekess]

Give him a couple of 5x7 poses, and the name/address of the studio.

 

[Ohiogal]

Why is this a big deal? Seriously. Isn't there more important hills to die on?

 

[CourtClerk]

Why is this a big deal? Seriously. Isn't there more important hills to die on?

I'd be embarrassed to even ask this question. Glad it was done on the internet where there is a certain level of anonimity I'd hate the OP asked this question to someone she actually knew.

 

[nextwife]

Ya know what? I have a file full of half to full sheets of multi professional photos that we had too many extra. How many does one need to keep?

 

[luckymom]

These portraits are a big deal in "his" culture and therefore my daugher's. It is traditional for girls to get their pictures taken at 13 in traditional dress, hairdo, and makeup. It is expensive to rent the clothing and get the hair done, as well as the sitting fee, but my daughter and I really enjoyed the experience. I asked ex if he wanted a copy, but when I told him what it would cost (dividing the entire expense by number of pictures), he decided he didn't want to pay but should be given a copy. As for the fact that they are pictures of "his" child, there is certainly nothing to stop him from getting this done on his dime, no? Perhaps I am being petty, but this guy currently owes me more than a thousand dollars in unpaid medical expenses, so no, I don't feel like subsisizing his paterntal sentiment.

 

[Ohiogal]

These portraits are a big deal in "his" culture and therefore my daugher's. It is traditional for girls to get their pictures taken at 13 in traditional dress, hairdo, and makeup. It is expensive to rent the clothing and get the hair done, as well as the sitting fee, but my daughter and I really enjoyed the experience. I asked ex if he wanted a copy, but when I told him what it would cost (dividing the entire expense by number of pictures), he decided he didn't want to pay but should be given a copy. As for the fact that they are pictures of "his" child, there is certainly nothing to stop him from getting this done on his dime, no? Perhaps I am being petty, but this guy currently owes me more than a thousand dollars in unpaid medical expenses, so no, I don't feel like subsisizing his paterntal sentiment.

You are being EXTREMELY petty. you wanted to charge him half of the entire cost for a portrait that YOU decided to have done with your daughter and an experience that YOU enjoyed rather than just give him ONE picture? Good grief. You are really being immature about this. Legally you don't have to give him a picture. So continue your pettiness.

Oh, do you teach your child to be generous? To share her toys? To be a kind, loving person?

If so, consider what lesson this sends to her.
If not, that figures.

 

[Ohiogal]

Ya know what? I have a file full of half to full sheets of multi professional photos that we had too many extra. How many does one need to keep?

As many as it takes to be greedy, selfish and petty and make sure the man you screwed doesn't get ONE.

 

[luckymom]

Ya know what? I have a file full of half to full sheets of multi professional photos that we had too many extra. How many does one need to keep?

These are not photos from Walmart, Kmart, or the like. Believe me, I have plenty of those and would be happy to give him extras. These were, as I said, formal portraits taken by in a professional studio. I ordered 7 pictures (for me and family members) and all told for pictutes, clothing, etc., the cost was more than $400.

 

[Zigner]

I'd be embarrassed to even ask this question. Glad it was done on the internet where there is a certain level of anonimity I'd hate the OP asked this question to someone she actually knew.

Oh, I'm sure the OP *has* asked. The answers received were probably not what she wanted to hear though...

 

[luckymom]

As many as it takes to be greedy, selfish and petty and make sure the man you screwed doesn't get ONE.

Umm. We seem to have strayed from the realm of legal advice, into the realm of bashing, but that seems to be par for the course here. The question I asked, was whether he legally has a right to pictures I commissioned and paid for.

I think the first reponse was the only one on point. But feel free to get your jollies telling me what a rotten person I am.

 

[Zigner]

Perhaps I am being petty, but this guy currently owes me more than a thousand dollars in unpaid medical expenses, so no, I don't feel like subsisizing his paterntal sentiment.

You absolutely ARE being petty.
My ex owes me well over $100,000.00 (that's one-hundred-thousand dollars) and hasn't seen the children in about 12 years.
I recently sent her a copy of my daughter's graduation photo, which *I* paid for.