Wife gives up on disabled child but won't divorce

[indianhead]

What is the name of your state? Arizona
I have a friend in Arizona who feels he is in an impossible situation.
He has a teen age daughter (good kid) and a 100% disabled 7 year old. Over the past few years, his wife has become uninvolved with the family, goes out every night and declared herself bisexual. Her only function is to get the disabled child ready for a school bus pick-up each weekday morning. Other than that she is away from home each night and all weekend.
My friend has had to change his work hours, so that he can be home to meet the school bus.
The wife has indicated that she will fight any divorce attempt and will claim that she is the wronged party. She is not giving up her meal ticket.
He is afraid to get any governmental agency involved, as he fears that they might take the
disabled child away from him.
He had 2 visits with an attorney at $280 per hour. The attorney was not encouraging and said that it would be a long expensive process for a divorce
With all of this pressure on him, I'm concerned that he is heading for a breakdown but I'm not sure what to tell him.
Any suggestions on what an orderly process he might take, would be gratly appreciated.

 

[fairisfair]

Arizona is a no fault divorce state. She can claim to be the wronged party all she wants. She can also fight the divorce, but if he wants it, it will happen.

Why would he be afraid that the state would take away his child?

There is more to this story.

 

[LdiJ]

Arizona is a no fault divorce state. She can claim to be the wronged party all she wants. She can also fight the divorce, but if he wants it, it will happen.

Why would he be afraid that the state would take away his child?

There is more to this story.

I agree that it would seem that there has to be more to this story. I don't know why an attorney would discourage him from gettng a divorce in the scenario that was described.