Missamira1
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? California
My husband has two children with his ex-wife. We now have custody of the kids so my question is about arrearages. While they were married, my hubby was in the army. Several times, while he was TDY in Korea or training somewhere, his ex would get on welfare and claim that he was not supporting her or their children. Thus child support got involved and is now charging him for time periods that he was in the home, supporting the kids, even if it was from afar because of this military service. They had a joint account which his paychecks were deposited into and she had bank cards and checkbook to access those funds. Of course that bank was bought out by Wells Fargo and we have been unsuccessful at getting any records!
To make a long story short, because of that damn compound interest, arrearages are now upwards of $20,000. We make what payments we can each month, but again, we are raising these two children, my husbands son from his first marriage (whom we receive no support for, long story there!!!) and my two children. Needless to say, our payments don't even cover the interest some months!
Which brings us to his ex (the welfare fraud queen!). She has remarried (another military man! He better watch his back!) and has another child. Doesn't work and is ordered to pay $120 a month for both kids. We don't see a dime although we are making payments to her EVERY month and the kids don't even live there! BTW, she is in North Carolina.
we have hired two different attorneys, but both basically used up our retainers in a matter of days and got us NOWHERE!!! We are broke, can't pay any more attorneys!!!
So my questions...How do we renegotiate arrears with the courts? Can we file some kind of motion to stop interest? Do we have a chance at having arrears reduced? What do we do???? HELP!!!!
My husband has two children with his ex-wife. We now have custody of the kids so my question is about arrearages. While they were married, my hubby was in the army. Several times, while he was TDY in Korea or training somewhere, his ex would get on welfare and claim that he was not supporting her or their children. Thus child support got involved and is now charging him for time periods that he was in the home, supporting the kids, even if it was from afar because of this military service. They had a joint account which his paychecks were deposited into and she had bank cards and checkbook to access those funds. Of course that bank was bought out by Wells Fargo and we have been unsuccessful at getting any records!
To make a long story short, because of that damn compound interest, arrearages are now upwards of $20,000. We make what payments we can each month, but again, we are raising these two children, my husbands son from his first marriage (whom we receive no support for, long story there!!!) and my two children. Needless to say, our payments don't even cover the interest some months!
Which brings us to his ex (the welfare fraud queen!). She has remarried (another military man! He better watch his back!) and has another child. Doesn't work and is ordered to pay $120 a month for both kids. We don't see a dime although we are making payments to her EVERY month and the kids don't even live there! BTW, she is in North Carolina.
we have hired two different attorneys, but both basically used up our retainers in a matter of days and got us NOWHERE!!! We are broke, can't pay any more attorneys!!!
So my questions...How do we renegotiate arrears with the courts? Can we file some kind of motion to stop interest? Do we have a chance at having arrears reduced? What do we do???? HELP!!!!