trial april fools day and I'm still not represented

[dinomo]

What is the name of your state? CA.I recently recived an offer to settle from my wife she's going to school to get a high paying job when she graduates I'm disabled and just qualified for social security disabillity even though I've been diabled for 4 years allready. anyway she afraid I guess that she wont get spousal support form me now that my only income is SSA but just for good measure she worried that my request for support may some day be granted so she's offering that we each waive our right to collect spousal support.Humm?does her attorney really think that a female judge is going to award spousal support to the male especially when the male can barly afford to pay any child support for the two young children that my wife will positively get sole costody of which brings me to the next part of her offer of her getting sole physical and sole legal custody.Could I should I what if she wanted to soon after have the children adopted by one of her jerk male family members ? would I really lose my legal costody if I have never made It dificult on her to make all her decisions her way anyway?The muscle mediator has always took her side and so has the judge what the use fighting for joint legal costody I wonder sometimes! Unfortunately I was substansiated as being physically abusive to my three year old son by using excessive force in spanking three years ago by CPS and therefore they found his five year old sister at the time at risk also I had never before used too much force and gave up corporal punishment altogether afterword but it was too late and my wive never wanted to share the kids with me anyway so she's played it up to the hilt as for our assetts she knows that I spent all I had and borrowed good money after bad to keep our realestate portfollio after the market changed and our properties lost value and through my very best efforts we only have one or two houses in forclosure but shes willing to give me those of course but as for the land thats paid for she wants to sell and split that even though all shes ever done to maintan ownership is list in court papers as community property.Eventhough all she ever did to aquire any of it was to insist that we live in a community property state. And never move,eventhough my job moved oh well! I'm mostly worried at a trial the the Judge is going to find out what a absolute fool I am for going 300 grand in deb't just to hold on to property that I'll propably lose anyway and give my wife sole legal custody so she can get them a new better dad though adoption! Any hope?

 

[Ohiogal]

You have problems as you won't get custody due to the fact that you have been substantiated as abusive. But when did you and mom separate in relation to that instance?

And no, that doesn't mean her male family members can adopt your children. She cannot have your rights terminated just because she has sole physical and legal custody.

Your bitterness is showing however and you should not be insulting yoru children's family. And you will not qualify for alimony if she is in school now and she wont' qualify if you are receiving disability.

 

[StampGirl]

Wow OG. I am so impressed that you could even understand that post!!

My eyes hurt so much from the run on sentences, no punctuation etc etc that I couldnt even begin in understand it

 

[dinomo]

thank you for your'e coments

First I was wrong about the date it's may 1.Second sorry for nopt responding sooner I had to travel out of state to evict a tenant.I have poor grammar due to learning disabilities please forgive.I love my children so much and my wife and her family but I have never been accepted into the inner circle and find myself being fought by them and they have been lying to my children for instance my wife knows I cant afford professional supervised visitation so she tells our kids that daddy's welcome to see them when in fact I'm not.Please tell me can I fight CFS.I felt that there investigation was flawed and I complained to the review supervisors about the case worker but to no avail my concern is that as a parent I am being dis-infranchised. for something that could have been taken in the context that my wife came to me looking for me to administer harsher punishment that she was capable of to my son because as she said at the time he's not obeying me. but I wasn't experianced in spanking and I have much greater strength bruising him was an accident but the case worker didn't believe me and besides my wife wanted to punish me for not being able to return to work and causing our financial situation to deteriorate.so she has been telling stories of my abusive nature while at the same time appologizing to me privately for having to resort to such tactictsin order to win the case.I havent been treated with respect since the wedding but I made my mind up the the marriage must succeed so I was the reconcilliator wright or wrong.My goal was allways peace and I achieved it 90% of the time.I don't believe I was ever abusive to my children.And I tried to reason with CFS but they don't value me as a good person or a loving dad or as someone who has been 99% a good parent and 1% ignorant student in the matter of corporal punishment.ie.spanking.I'm I doomed because most people want to believe I'm 1% dangerous instead of 99% a great dAd and besides I only spanked him that one time.even though my wife has built a fictional Epic Novel around it.

 

[CourtClerk]

Wow OG. I am so impressed that you could even understand that post!!

My eyes hurt so much from the run on sentences, no punctuation etc etc that I couldnt even begin in understand it

I'm not even going to try. There aren't even spaces after the periods !!!!, much less white space anywhere in this big old blob of text. If the posters don't make it easy to read, someone else will have to read it.

OP, if you want people to respond, you're going to need to make some white space (use paragraphs), use proper punctuation. Reading big blocks of texts is too hard on the eyes.

 

[Just Blue]

First I was wrong about the date it's may 1.Second sorry for nopt responding sooner I had to travel out of state to evict a tenant.I have poor grammar due to learning disabilities please forgive.

I love my children so much and my wife and her family but I have never been accepted into the inner circle and find myself being fought by them and they have been lying to my children. For instance, my wife knows I cant afford professional supervised visitation so she tells our kids that daddy's welcome to see them, when in fact I'm not.

Please tell me can I fight CFS. I felt that there investigation was flawed and I complained to the review supervisors about the case worker but to no avail. My concern is that as a parent I am being dis-infranchised for something that could have been taken in the context that my wife came to me looking for me to administer harsher punishment that she was capable of to my son because as she said at the time he's not obeying me.
But I wasn't experianced in spanking and I have much greater strength, bruising him was an accident, but the case worker didn't believe me. And besides my wife wanted to punish me for not being able to return to work and causing our financial situation to deteriorate.
So she has been telling stories of my abusive nature, while at the same time appologizing to me privately for having to resort to such tacticts in order to win the case.

I havent been treated with respect since the wedding but I made my mind up the the marriage must succeed so I was the reconcilliator wright or wrong. My goal was allways peace and I achieved it 90% of the time.

I don't believe I was ever abusive to my children. And I tried to reason with CFS but they don't value me as a good person or a loving dad or as someone who has been 99% a good parent and 1% ignorant student in the matter of corporal punishment.ie.spanking. I'm I doomed because most people want to believe I'm 1% dangerous instead of 99% a great dAd and besides I only spanked him that one time, even though my wife has built a fictional Epic Novel around it.

I adjusted the post a bit so that members won't go blind trying to read it.

 

[Just Blue]

I'm not even going to try. There aren't even spaces after the periods !!!!, much less white space anywhere in this big old blob of text. If the posters don't make it easy to read, someone else will have to read it.

OP, if you want people to respond, you're going to need to make some white space (use paragraphs), use proper punctuation. Reading big blocks of texts is too hard on the eyes.

I fixed it a bit...OP's biggest problem is that he doesn't see that he abused his child. He will never get anywhere until he admit that he abused the child and has taken steps to insure that it will not happen again.

My concern is that as a parent I am being dis-infranchised for something that could have been taken in the context that my wife came to me looking for me to administer harsher punishment that she was capable of to my son because as she said at the time he's not obeying me.

But I wasn't experianced in spanking and I have much greater strength, bruising him was an accident

I don't believe I was ever abusive to my children.

 

[CourtClerk]

I adjusted the post a bit so that members won't go blind trying to read it.

Bay, I'm being a little lazy... can you do the first post too? Puhleeze????

 

[Bali Hai]

First I was wrong about the date it's may 1.Second sorry for nopt responding sooner I had to travel out of state to evict a tenant.I have poor grammar due to learning disabilities please forgive.I love my children so much and my wife and her family but I have never been accepted into the inner circle and find myself being fought by them and they have been lying to my children for instance my wife knows I cant afford professional supervised visitation so she tells our kids that daddy's welcome to see them when in fact I'm not.Please tell me can I fight CFS.I felt that there investigation was flawed and I complained to the review supervisors about the case worker but to no avail my concern is that as a parent I am being dis-infranchised. for something that could have been taken in the context that my wife came to me looking for me to administer harsher punishment that she was capable of to my son because as she said at the time he's not obeying me. but I wasn't experianced in spanking and I have much greater strength bruising him was an accident but the case worker didn't believe me and besides my wife wanted to punish me for not being able to return to work and causing our financial situation to deteriorate.so she has been telling stories of my abusive nature while at the same time appologizing to me privately for having to resort to such tactictsin order to win the case.I havent been treated with respect since the wedding but I made my mind up the the marriage must succeed so I was the reconcilliator wright or wrong.My goal was allways peace and I achieved it 90% of the time.I don't believe I was ever abusive to my children.And I tried to reason with CFS but they don't value me as a good person or a loving dad or as someone who has been 99% a good parent and 1% ignorant student in the matter of corporal punishment.ie.spanking.I'm I doomed because most people want to believe I'm 1% dangerous instead of 99% a great dAd and besides I only spanked him that one time.even though my wife has built a fictional Epic Novel around it.

You are dealing with abuse laws set up by women and therefore you are totally screwed in that regard.

Corporal punishment administered properly is not abuse but you won't get these fanatics to believe that.

So the kid grows up and beats the sh!t out of a teacher in high school and stuffs them into a hall locker. Remedy: it's the parents fault!!

Or a gang of these out-of-control hoodlums attack a man in a subway and this time after repeated muggings the man has a gun and shoots their asses off!! Remedy: the man goes to jail for protecting himself!!

 

[CourtClerk]

Wait... where is this sentence???

I don't believe I was ever abusive to my children

You left bruises on your child and you don't believe you were abusive??? Just what do you call it? In cases of documented abuse, generally, mom will get sole custody and you will get supervised visitation, especially since you think you've done nothing wrong and you're just the victim in this situation. No one treats you with respect, yadda yadda... where was the respect when you were beating your child to the point of bruising???

And you don't need a class for spanking. You need to know how to control yourself.

 

[CourtClerk]

You are dealing with abuse laws set up by women and therefore you are totally screwed in that regard.

Corporal punishment administered properly is not abuse but you won't get these fanatics to believe that.

So the kid grows up and beats the sh!t out of a teacher in high school and stuffs them into a hall locker. Remedy: it's the parents fault!!

Or a gang of these out-of-control hoodlums attack a man in a subway and this time after repeated muggings the man has a gun and shoots their asses off!! Remedy: the man goes to jail for protecting himself!!

Bally, I'm all for spanking. Shoot, I spanked mine and have told them both that I will drop them where they stand should they get out of line, however, did you miss the part where this man left bruises on his child?

 

[Bali Hai]

Bally, I'm all for spanking. Shoot, I spanked mine and have told them both that I will drop them where they stand should they get out of line, however, did you miss the part where this man left bruises on his child?

The man clearly crossed the line and he is a "marked" man now for the rest of his life.

The kid's bruise went away and they have forgotten about this and will be just fine unless the mother is reminding them, but this guy is going down in flames!!

Hell, my parents would be in jail for life these days if my welts and bruises from them were documented.

 

[CourtClerk]

Hell, my parents would be in jail for life these days if my welts and bruises from them were documented.

Half my family would be under the jail... but remember, we grew up in the days where not only did your parents spank you, but the neighbors did too if they saw you do something wrong, then took you HOME to get spanked again!

 

[Bali Hai]

Half my family would be under the jail... but remember, we grew up in the days where not only did your parents spank you, but the neighbors did too if they saw you do something wrong, then took you HOME to get spanked again!

You got that right. When I went to school the teachers spanked you and if the teacher told my parents what happened, I got it worse from them!!

These were good reasons to stay out of trouble!!

I shaparoned a high school dance a few years ago along with a friend of mine who is a police officer. I told him to NEVER ask me to do that again!!

 

[CourtClerk]

I shaparoned a high school dance a few years ago along with a friend of mine who is a police officer. I told him to NEVER ask me to do that again!!

Last time I chaparoned a school dance, I got into an argument with a mother because I told her daughter that if she wanted to dance like a stripper, she would need to go home, get her pole and do it in the privacy of her own home.

Her mother didn't see a problem with her daughter (all of middle school aged) grinding against a boy!!!!

She says... this is the way kids dance this way. I spent the rest of the night screaming NO STIPPER DANCING!!!!!