HELP!!! son in need

[juanisthebigdog]

What is the name of your state? Texas

Hi everyone am new to the site I have been on line trying to find some help. I have an 11

yr old son who is going to be 12 in december 08. His mom and I seperated when he was 3

ever since then he has been living with the GREAT grandparents. The mom moved out and

has been living a few blocks from the great grandparents home. She remarried has

another child and now is divorced again. The great grandma passed away last year my son

took it pretty hard she was like his mom. He is now living with the great grandpa but

wants to come live with me i will be having him all summer his mom wants me to take him

because she has to do some remodeling on there house. His mom does not spend anytime

with him. She sees him when she goes by to pick up the mail. Since the grandma past my sone has complained twice that he has noting to eat the last

time i checked the fridge it was pretty empty. I have always seen him during the weekends and during the week sometimes


lately its been almost everyday. I drive 24 miles one way just to pick him up. The great

grandpa drops him off at school/picks him up/feeds him etc. He does everything. The mom

does not make anytime for him at all. I put him in baseball in the town he lives in she has

not

made it to one game.She has never ever made time for him. He sees that and now wants

to come with me. So I will be seeing a lawyer June 3. QUESTION?? The grandpa stated

he would be willing to sign a notarized letter stating that he has been providing care for my

son since the age of 3 does anybody have a template of somthing like this or suggestions

on what it should include. Or any other suggestions on what I should do????

 

[BL]

What is the name of your state? Texas

Hi everyone am new to the site I have been on line trying to find some help. I have an 11

yr old son who is going to be 12 in december 08. His mom and I seperated when he was 3

ever since then he has been living with the GREAT grandparents. The mom moved out and

has been living a few blocks from the great grandparents home. She remarried has

another child and now is divorced again. The great grandma passed away last year my son

took it pretty hard she was like his mom. He is now living with the great grandpa but

wants to come live with me i will be having him all summer his mom wants me to take him

because she has to do some remodeling on there house. His mom does not spend anytime

with him. She sees him when she goes by to pick up the mail. Since the grandma past my sone has complained twice that he has noting to eat the last

time i checked the fridge it was pretty empty. I have always seen him during the weekends and during the week sometimes


lately its been almost everyday. I drive 24 miles one way just to pick him up. The great

grandpa drops him off at school/picks him up/feeds him etc. He does everything. The mom

does not make anytime for him at all. I put him in baseball in the town he lives in she has

not

made it to one game.She has never ever made time for him. He sees that and now wants

to come with me. So I will be seeing a lawyer June 3. QUESTION?? The grandpa stated

he would be willing to sign a notarized letter stating that he has been providing care for my

son since the age of 3 does anybody have a template of somthing like this or suggestions

on what it should include. Or any other suggestions on what I should do????

Have grandpa subpoenaed , if he will not testify voluntarily .

Courts like to hear testimony , and will not recognized notarized statements .

Speak to your lawyer about it .

Since the grandma past my sone has complained twice that he has noting to eat the last

grandpa drops him off at school/picks him up/feeds him etc. He does everything

Thank the grandpa ....

 

[juanisthebigdog]

Suggestions

Any other suggestions that can help me in trying to get my son.

 

[CJane]

Any other suggestions that can help me in trying to get my son.

Not really. It's not like it's a secret to you that the kid has been living with gramma and grampa for 8 years... so 'splain how changing that NOW is in kiddo's best interests.

And here's a tip. My kids (8 and 11) complain ALL THE TIME that there's nothing to eat. Doesn't make it true. And my fridge is empty most of the time. I'm a pantry and freezer girl.

 

[tmwilliams]

Can you get a deposition from the Grandpa? Also, a private investigator can be very effective to show what the mom is doing rather than taking care of your son. It can be expensive though, good luck.

 

[juanisthebigdog]

More Problems

Last night my son had a baseball game and this morning they had to take team pictures. So my wife takes him to the game after the game she goes to his house which is where my son and his great granpa live to wash his uniform for this morning. One of his teammates moms was going to take him to take the pictures. My wife walks in and she sees ****roachs all over the house. She came home in tears telling me that the house is filthy. Since my sons great grandma past the house does not really get cleaned or upkept. The last time i was there i saw several rats in the house also. Should i call the cops or cps.
or neither and wait to talk to the lawyer

 

[BL]

Last night my son had a baseball game and this morning they had to take team pictures. So my wife takes him to the game after the game she goes to his house which is where my son and his great granpa live to wash his uniform for this morning. One of his teammates moms was going to take him to take the pictures. My wife walks in and she sees ****roachs all over the house. She came home in tears telling me that the house is filthy. Since my sons great grandma past the house does not really get cleaned or upkept. The last time i was there i saw several rats in the house also. Should i call the cops or cps.
or neither and wait to talk to the lawyer

grandpa drops him off at school/picks him up/feeds him etc. He does everything

All the sudden we went from grandpa doing everything , to grandpa isn't doing anything .

Perhaps grandpa could use adult protective welfare visit , to make sure everything is ok .

He and grandma took care of your child ,

Why would you want to call the police , or CPS on him . Is that the thanks he gets ?

Or are you grasping at straws ?

 

[CourtClerk]

And my fridge is empty most of the time. I'm a pantry and freezer girl.

My fridge:
Strawberries, a gallon of milk, Crangrape juice, white cranberry juice, Country Crock butter, 2 dozen eggs, about 10 bottles of water, relish on the fridge door. Looks frightfully empty in there... you'd think there's no food in the house.

My freezer:
Stocked to the point that nothing else will fit. You'll find fish, shrimp, steaks, chicken, ground turkey, hot pockets (for my lazy days), frozen pizza (from those fund raisers - more lazy day food), shoot, I think there's cookie dough in there, and pork chops. No one is going hungry in my house.

Cabinets and pantry:
Again... stocked to the point where I better not do anymore shopping or find some starving family that needs food.

The point both CJane and I are both trying to make:
Because the fridge is empty doesn't mean there's nothing to eat.

 

[Humusluvr]

Last night my son had a baseball game and this morning they had to take team pictures. So my wife takes him to the game after the game she goes to his house which is where my son and his great granpa live to wash his uniform for this morning. One of his teammates moms was going to take him to take the pictures. My wife walks in and she sees ****roachs all over the house. She came home in tears telling me that the house is filthy. Since my sons great grandma past the house does not really get cleaned or upkept. The last time i was there i saw several rats in the house also. Should i call the cops or cps.
or neither and wait to talk to the lawyer

or maybe, since your grandpa has done such a wonderful job of raising YOUR son (by your own admission), you and your wife could go over and HELP GRANDPA CLEAN!!!!! Seems like such a grateful and caring gesture for this man who has lost his loving wife and cared for your son....

so get off your butt and off the computer and either help the man or pay Merry Maids!!!

geez.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

You stated that this was the Great Grandparents. I'm sure this elderly man is grieving. Why, if you live so close, and mom is down the street has your son been with them since he was three?

Were you both found unfit? If you were not found unfit, why did you just give your son away? These questions will have a big impact on the court.

 

[juanisthebigdog]

more info.

His mom was giving custody but he has never lived with her. If he has slept in her house 15 times in the last 8 years it would be pretty accurate. The great grandparents were raising him and they tried there best. The mom has never lifted a finger for him as a parent. no love,compassion,etc. I had not gone to court becasue she would always promise that she was going to take him in but she never did. She is a nurse that is going to college planning to be a doctor. Has another child i think his 4. So in my eyes it is just more convenient for her that my son stays where he is at. When the great grandma was alive she provided everything for him financially and everyday needs. But now that it is just the great grandpa it is not the same anymore. My son is constantly telling me he wants to live with me. He wants somebody there for him in my opinion. He states things like my mom is never there,she never answers her phone, he is scared to even ask her for a few bucks for school activities. Again when the great grandma was around she took care of all this. I have nothing against going and cleaning there house but that is not my responsibility the state granted her the rights.

 

[Humusluvr]

I have nothing against going and cleaning there house but that is not my responsibility the state granted her the rights.

silly me. i was thinking you might want to do something nice instead of letting your child live in filth. I was thinking that if you saw rats and roaches you might help the poor man raising your kid until custody got sorted out.

silly me. We only do the right thing if its court ordered. of course.

geez. karma's a be-yotch.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

His mom was giving custody but he has never lived with her. If he has slept in her house 15 times in the last 8 years it would be pretty accurate. The great grandparents were raising him and they tried there best. The mom has never lifted a finger for him as a parent. no love,compassion,etc.

I had not gone to court becasue she would always promise that she was going to take him in but she never did.

That is a lame excuse. You sound like you were quite comphy with the situation.She is a nurse that is going to college planning to be a doctor. Has another child i think his 4.

So in my eyes it is just more convenient for her that my son stays where he is at

.

You had a choice when she gave him to the Great Grand parent. You should have sought custody then. Don't pin this all on mom.

When the great grandma was alive she provided everything for him financially and everyday needs. But now that it is just the great grandpa it is not the same anymore. My son is constantly telling me he wants to live with me. He wants somebody there for him in my opinion. He states things like my mom is never there,she never answers her phone, he is scared to even ask her for a few bucks for school activities. Again when the great grandma was around she took care of all this.

I have nothing against going and cleaning there house but that is not my responsibility the state granted her the rights.

Again that is a lame excuse, your son is living with rats, and you say it is up to mom? WOW, just WOW!

You had choices when he was three years old.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

silly me. i was thinking you might want to do something nice instead of letting your child live in filth. I was thinking that if you saw rats and roaches you might help the poor man raising your kid until custody got sorted out.

silly me. We only do the right thing if its court ordered. of course.

geez. karma's a be-yotch.

This guy has never cared.

 

[juanisthebigdog]

continue

The child lives with the great grandpa but the mom has custody she never GAVE him to her great grandpa.

I see him more than his mother does and she lives about 3 blocks away. I pick him up every weekend. And see him at least twice during the week.

When he was 3 I went to the attorney general and told them to take me to court so i could pay my child support and get my rights. Ever since then i have been paying and seeing my son all I can. She already said I could have him all summer.

She has never provided the great granparents with money for my son.

So by law its ok for a child to live in these conditions???????